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Any recommendations for a new keyholder / Mistress?

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    I guess I should start by saying that I am by no means an introvert and tend to have a natural dominant nature everywhere except in the home that is.

    As we are beginning a FLR - I was wondering if anyone could recommend any books that would help me as the Keyholder/ Mistress.

    Thank you :)
     
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    Mistress, I would suggest that by reading lots of threads here on CM, you will have a pretty complete cross section of FLR experiences. That will probably be a broader scope than a book, but you will need to be careful in that many posts here are a result of fantasies. Many/most are real, I believe. I would also suggest chatting with other KH's as well as subs & sissies.
     
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    Go to Amazon books and Google Ivey Green. I bought the ebook version of three of her books and it helped my wife to understand male chastity. One of her books is Setting up a FLR. She takes a realistic approach using her own life and that of her readers. Also take a look at The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance on Amazon. The ebooks are fairly cheap and you can read the reviews to see which are good or not. Have fun.
     
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    In my opinion your getting great advice already.
     
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    My Wife is currently reading How to set up an FLR and it is really helping her. She was very dominant at work but not at all at home. This book is helping her understand why I want and enjoy her dominance and assertiveness at home.
     
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    Be careful with reading posts in the Mansion. There is a risk you would end up thinking all sorts of things should be done in an FLR based on the posts you read. More than one Keyholder has written about how certain things they have read initially put them off.
     
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    Thank you for your recommendation :) And no worries, I sort of have an outline in my head of what I will and won't do.. for example; I [do not] believe that in order to be dominant one has to be mean, cruel, and abusive not to mention, we talk about everything.. These of course are personal preferences which work for us :)
     
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    Sounds like your doing just great. You have to develop your own way every relationship is different. It's a joining of two people
     
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    Every relationship is different and there's no "right or wrong" way to do it .
    Over time you will find what works for you and how you want things to be /do things and what makes you happy and for you both
    Have fun experimenting with new things and enjoy your new journey .
     
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    To many people are trying to fit into a perfect relationship that someone else tells them how to set up. When they know nothing about you or you relationship.
     
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    I love your avatar was that a gift to your keyholder
     
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    The very best part of chastity for me is the communication.

    I won't lie, before I would heehaw around my wants and desires. Too embarrassed or too worried about others reactions to express myself. Now I am so desperate to be involved, to have her be involved, that it forces me to talk. It makes talking about sex so much easier...for the both of us. Cause when I open up, so does she.

    I think you can learn a lot from reading blogs on FLR. Of course take from them what you like and disregard the rest. Some things may even grow on you that you weren't expecting. My kh didn't want anything to do with punishment or hurting me. After reading a few people's experiences, she gave spankings a try. Turns out it turns her on like crazy. Now she almost can't wait for me to mess up a little lol.

    Ivey Green has some books that explain a lot to the novice and give a good explanation of what it can be, and your power to manipulate your man to have just the type of FLR that you desire.

    Good luck.
     
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    Well put. A successful relationship is based on Love, Trust, Respect. I've been married to the same woman for over 30 years and our relationship is stronger now than ever. She's been spanking me for 25 years and didn't want to do it for 23. Now I don't really want it and she disciplines me with authority. It's come full circle. She now wants me lock 24/7 only to be released for her use. If you build your relationship on love it will work out
     
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    The pic was chosen for me by a lovely lady off of here .
    Unfortunately not my keyholder then or now (i don't have a keyholder/partner) but a beautiful pic and I've kept it on here .
     
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    Sorry to hear that you don't have a Keyholder. It does add a different dynamic to being locked up
     
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    It sure does and thank you .
     
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    Me and my GF are looking into these books but she read the introduction and was a bit put off by the way it has been written, in that it appears to be playing into the male fantasy more than trying to look at it from a "new KH" perspective i.e. "if you are worried your man will cheat, this will help you control him". firstly my GF is very strong in her views about gender stereotypes and if this book is very "he and she" she probably won't like it. Also, although I know everyone has different reasons for chastity, by far the most resounding thing I have taken from CM is that the real posts generally describe a loving and trusting relationship between two people who are experimenting and finding out what makes each other tick. I know when i started this three months ago I had all types of ideas in my head of what I wanted her to do, most of which she did not do and I am glad she did not. What we have found is a much more fulfilling and communicative relationship, which is saying something because I don't think we had a lack of communication before we started this.

    My question is, is it possible for a female who is very gender stereotype conscious to relate to this book or does it mostly pander to what the "man" wants out of the relationship. i.e. tease and denial is not just fun for the man but is a big turn of for her as well. etc etc.

    Would love to hear some opinions of people who have read this book. Thanks :oops::oops:
     
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