It can be difficult for a husband to change the frequency of sex when his wife goes through the change, and for me, it affects how fast I can become erect. I could never take a woman that isn't into it, my pole just won't help me out, I really need to feel my wife wanting it and that is just gone, at least for now at her stage. Sure, sometimes she wants it, but not like before, and it affects me. I remember, at a younger age, seeing these older men talk about erectile dysfunction. Now I think I completely understand it, the disfunction for many men is they see their wives not physically needing it like they used to and this physiologically effects the mans ability to perform like he can when he can feel his wife lust to have him. I know she can't help it but I feel like I can't help it either, this is probably the biggest cause of me wanting to be caged, it just makes a clear statement and I can at least give her pleasure by holding her and prevent that something stiff on me from bothering her. Even all the ways I used to touch her that would get her turned on doesn't work anymore and that really sucks the satisfaction out of the husband. Last night was one of those nights; she was trying to get me hard, and I was getting very close to being able to penetrate her. However, it just seemed like it was all for me and not for her and I struggled with that, I need her to enjoy it too and it makes it really hard for me to get excited enough to become hard. I know there is nothing physically wrong with me for other obvious reasons so I'm not worried about myself or feel like I need to run off and see a doctor, its the emotional connection with Ann that seems weak because she is doing it mostly for me. At the end of her efforts, she told me to put my cage on. This was a first for her, and the way she said it, it was a matter of fact. She got tired of trying, and I am sure this messes with her, too, because she probably doesn't understand why I am having a hard time performing to the fullest degree. Even if she did, it would just put pressure on her because I know she loves me. At this point, I could hardly get the cage on because my erection came alive. I didn't know if she was trying to make me hard by teasing me or if she meant it. She told me that makes you get hard doesn't it, when I tell you to put your cage on. Yes a little I responded to her. She had plenty of time to change her mind, but she seemed serious and never changed her mind or even looked like she was considering changing her mind, and as bad as I wanted to be inside of my Ann, I obeyed and put my cage on, snuggled up to her, and caressed her to sleep. This being a first was good for both of us. She got to see the power she really has, and I had to submit to her unless I wanted to quit male chastity. There lies the catch-22; at our stage of life, I need it to help me through the times of wanting to be inside of her. It's up to the wives to figure out what's best for us, whether they realize it fully or not.........They Are in Charge.
It's good that she sees the power she has over you. But what you are describing about yourself may be the onset of ED as well. My urologist knows we practice chastity and sees nothing wrong with it. When I described going soft too easily he prescribed Cialis and said it was age, not cage, related. The cage may have sped things up a bit, he agreed, but not the main reason. He seems to be right. I am expected to take a small dose any days I suspect she may want me. I don't notice it unless physically excited, but then it is much harder and stays that way for a while. My Queen seldom wants me in her for her pleasure (preferring other forms of stimulus) but she does like playing with "her toy" (me). One warning, the meds will bring back morning wood wake up.
Cialis is great for blood pressure and each dose can last for up 36 hours, I’ve never taken viagra, but I’ve been on 5mg daily cialis for a few years due to TRT and estrogen sensitivity causing issues with ED. Helps give you a good pump from the gym too lol
I've done Viagra and find it too "peaky" - once it kicks I'm it revs me up too much then drops off. Cialis, for me anyway, keeps me ready without overdoing it for up to 2 days. After experimenting with doses I take 20 MG every other day (Dr said was cheaper to get the 40's and break them up). A $20 bottle lasts months.
I'm considering trying Cialis. Viagra works great for me, but tends to give me a stuffy nose. It's not fun to be down there using your mouth and having to come up for air constantly. I have also found that when it's "time" I need to actually relax my penis for a few moments before I can orgasm. If I don't, I can go for a long time -- ie: my KH decides "ok, we're done now, put that thing away". Some would say that's not an issue, but she likes it when I cum when she has allowed me to.
This is amazingly hot! Viagra gives me a stuffy nose literally every third time I use it. Have no clue as to why. I have tracked this. Sorry to have directed your thread in a different direction @John&Ann , my mistake!
When I was still wearing the cage, Viagra was a huge help. So glad to live in an age where we have such magic available to us.