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    a thought to consider - descriptive, not prescriptive, and offered in collaboration not authority.

    here goes:
    coupled women assess how well they're doing in the relationship by the emotional state of their men.
    vanilla or flavored.

    so if you're a coupled dude being a pissy-baby or dickhead about your chastity experience, you can bet the wheels will grind to halt.

    the solution? fuckin' be happy...! and say a lot of 'please' and 'thank you' and 'you matter' and 'i'm sorry' - and mean it.

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    I feel like "suck it up and be happy" is an example of toxic masculinity that needs to go away. If you have problems, you need to discuss them with your partner like an adult. You're right that you shouldn't be pissy or a dickhead when conveying that, but sometimes men have poor chastity experiences and isn't always because they have unrealistic expectations. The "the man is always at fault" philosophy that is an undercurrent of a lot of the thinking on this site also needs to go away.

    If a man's partner is legitimately trying and he's still not satisfied, then yes, he needs to decide whether he's happier with what he's getting than if he were getting nothing and commit to that decision.
     
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    Didnt say suck it up, and wasnt suggesting either/or. Just saying that honest good cheer and robust polity help build needed bridges. Extraordinary results require extraordinary effort, and there is nothing ordinary about this desire. A posture of good humored solicitousness and much patience being among those efforts. Thats all : )
     
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