a thought to consider - descriptive, not prescriptive, and offered in collaboration not authority. here goes: coupled women assess how well they're doing in the relationship by the emotional state of their men. vanilla or flavored. so if you're a coupled dude being a pissy-baby or dickhead about your chastity experience, you can bet the wheels will grind to halt. the solution? fuckin' be happy...! and say a lot of 'please' and 'thank you' and 'you matter' and 'i'm sorry' - and mean it. regularly scheduled programming resumes …. now.