OK, speaking with a friend on MSN today and I told him I'm getting ready to send my key to a keyholder for the very first time. I expressed my nervousness mainly because I do have paranoia issues. It's deep set and hard for me to work over. That's why this act of sending a key to someone is important to me and I trust the person I'm sending it to. Still have the usual worries. Lost in the post, she loses the key, she doesn't send it back, etc etc. My friends solution was to buy a matching padlock and send her the key to that instead. I was shocked! I'm a submissive and the act of decieving a Dominant appalled me. But he told me this is what he did the first time. He said it threw in some reassurance that the key came back and he could send the real key next time. But surely this is a massive act of mistrust and defeats the purpose, doesn't it? Has anyone else heard of this happening? I know I won't be doing this as I can't with out spilling my guts to my Keyholder. Seems odd to me that anyone would do this!