All's Fair in Love and Chastity

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    Goddess Melissa I hold the key to xcite!

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    ... or so I remind my pet on an almost daily basis. And, I thought it would be an intriguing enough title to generate some readership. What do you think?

    So, where to start ... by now I think many of you are familiar with our background. Married, kids, jobs, house -- pretty typical (for those of you who might be interested in catching up, check out my pet's journal (My unexpected life by xcitex2). In fact, his journal is actually what has prompted me to start my own here. I think it's important that you all get the Goddess' view of what really happens in our home *wink*

    As he has said in his posts, the whole area of chastity play was entirely his idea. Yes, I looked at him like he was crazy when he first talked about it. Yes, the first time that we locked him up I only went along with it so that we could curb his curiosity and get on with our normal lives ... that was seven plus months ago and all I can say is that I don't think our lives will ever be "normal" again. And I, for one, am not asking that they are. Although we've had some rough spots and we're continuing to learn as we go, I have to say that I feel like our marriage is stronger now more than ever. Now please don't read this to mean that is was failing in any way, because it wasn't. This, though, has taken our relationship to levels I didn't even know possible.

    It's interesting. The other night we were laying in bed and my pet asked me what I liked most about him being locked up. I'd actually been thinking about that, too. And whereas I get immensely (did I say immensely?) turned on seeing him all locked up in steel and wanting me so badly, there is actually another level of this for me. It's created a means for me to push myself outside of my comfort zone but still be able to do it in a trusting environment. Failure isn't as scary and the successes are sooooo much more enjoyable. And as my confidence has grown in this area of my life, I have found that it has transfers to other areas of my life as well. Does that make any sense at all? Well, bottom line, if pet thought this was going to be short-lived, he is sorely mistaken (pun intended -- LOL).

    Well, that should do it for a first post ... I need to get back to my pet as the kids are napping and it is "Ass-Play Sunday." I'll write more about that later. *wink*
     
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    lucky I wish I could do arse play, hope you have fun
     
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    Golly, Naked Friday... Ass Play Sunday. Isn't tradition grand! :)

    Can you believe Xcitex2 is afraid of a measly PA piercing?!? You brought your beautiful children into the world, and HE'S afraid of a 1MM hole?!? (yes, I'm a trouble maker! lol *hugs*)

    mikecb
     
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    Mistress Watchful Dont believe the hype ;oP

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    Yay for a new journal!

    I don't know how you manage to play with kids in the house... I'm still in mummy-mode with the slightest snuffle!

    Can't wait to read more.
     
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    We are some what alike

    Ms.M. Thought it was all about making me happy.But as of the 1st of the year she did make some changes.I was sleeping in bed (caged of course) and a Viagra add came on she nudged me and said -"You don't need it because I control you needs I control your wants in fact I have control of your male brain "Well good luck and Maybe I can get Ms. M. to chime in here.Could this site create a Mistress only room to deal with us subs at home? And let the Pros be let out of it?
     
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    xcitex2 Back from the past!

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    Well if this is not only and honor but a huge surprise. I had no idea my Goddess was going to start her journal.

    Now Mike, Mike, Mike Mike, no instigating needed here buddy ol' pal. LOL

    Welcome to the Vault Goddess, I for one could not be happier that this will continue.
     
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    That's fantastic for you both and neat to hear someone who is only (~7) months into this world. My wish is that my wife and I can follow in your success. Keep us posted on your activity. It sounds like a wonderful extension for you to learn and grow from. :innocent0006:

    I wonder if there is a % of success for couples that dive in to this world? How many continue it beyond just a few experiments and quit versus those that give it up or never try it? Or if approached by your spouse how many say "Yes" let's try this together?
     
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    Wait till they are in their teens. Waiting for them to go to sleep so we can play, and it just being too late. Sigh.

    js
     
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    My Goddess and i have been at it for over a year now and still going strong!

    Goddess Mellisa, i wonder if You have ever thought of dipping more into the world of BDSM? It is a bit scary and can be overwhelming at first, but it is incredibly enriching for a dedicated couple.

    If You are in the mid-west there are a lot of kinky opportunities where you can learn about different activities and meet other female dominants. It is certainly something to consider!
     
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    hmmm Ass Play Sunday think i shall institute such a wonderful day when I have J with me. Glad to have another convert though do agree would think playing in the house with children would be nerve wracking. Please do keep writing though great to hear a Mistresses version :yes1:
     
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    :welcome: Goddess Melissa! Dollyanne thinks: :yes1:

    This IS interesting, Goddess Melissa! Putting him in chastity with tease and denial has helped build Your own confidence. That DOES make sense and is very well put. Dollyanne hasn't thought about it from this angle before, but the more she thinks about it, the more sense it makes! Thanks for that insight! Your pet and You are in for a terrific ride! We hope we can observe at least part of the journey!

    Curtsey,
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    dollyanne
     
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    Oh Goddess Melissa GOOD FOR YOU! I am so happy to see this journal. Please find the time to keep us all updated here as to your side of your story. I for one enjoy reading xcite's journal and would love to here your side of the days events!! Email me girl I miss our talks!
     
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    Just a typical day ...

    First, thanks to everyone for reading my first post and for all of your comments/words of wisdom. I hope I can keep it up! Secretly (okay, not so secretly now) my goal is for my thread to become as popular (maybe more so?) than my pet's. What do you say ... will you help me out here?

    Anyway, as the title of this suggests, nothing earth shattering to share. Back to work today after a three-day-weekend. Some of you may have read in my pet's journal that there was a period of time when we were a little nervous about the stability of my job. I'm happy (?) to report that I am currently no longer at risk of losing my job. In fact, I now have an additional job. That's right. In the "reallocation" of work, I have been given the responsibility of two positions within my department. Should make for an interesting year. Thankful, I have chastity play to keep me sane. LOL

    Speaking of, my pet made an interesting comment on our way home today. Even though it was directed towards our 5-year-old, there are so many implications ... A bit of background: we've been having some issues with our 5-year-old and his drama about everything. He wanted to go to Disney World over the weekend and when I told him that was not practical (we live no where near WDW ... it would take some serious planning to get there), he informed me (with tears, screams and flailing limbs) that his life was over. Anyway, this continued through much of the weekend, so last night I told him he was not allowed to play video games for one day. Fast forward to tonight when we were all in the car and I reminded him of the "no games" rule for tonight. Pet so eloquently said to him,

    "Grow up. Take your punishment and move on."

    Now, I ask you, would it be wrong of me to turn those words around on him as he's cuffed face down to the headboard and I am using our suede flogger on his bare a#$? Hmmm ... something to think about *grin*
     
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    dollyanne Sissy who loves pink frilly things!

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    Not only would it NOT be wrong, but it sounds like just what You need to help You juggle two jobs and a 5-year-old! A suede stress relief!

    Curtsey,
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    Lol - sounds good to me!

    It's funny you should mention this because there are often times when I compare the discipline of my children to the discipline of pet.

    It all works the same way doesn't it!

    pet is far better with keeping rules with the kids, and I have to remind him of his actions sometimes, because as we all know, he's not so great in the listening and doing department! :happy0028:
     
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    Sigh. I AM thinking about it! First, where do I sign up?!?

    It does crack me up. I'm SUCH a pain slut. For me, a good flogging is a reward, not a punishment. My wife is vanilla, and though none of this lifestyle arouses any interest in her, she is understanding of me, and somewhat recognizes my needs. A long running schtick between us is for her to threaten me with ... "You better <whatever task is required>, or NO spankings for you!" Alas, even if I perform my duties, there's still no spankings in it for me... but maybe someday. That reminds me, I'm getting an itch for another Pro Domme session (what My wife and I call "Mike's Spa Day"). I haven't been flogged pink since July :-(

    Now, about the flogger. Suede is pretty soft. It's probably good for behind closed doors - it's quieter, but DO make sure you wind up good and hard! If you're not "convincing" him enough on his bottom, try a few across the family jewels! That'll get his attention! :balls:

    Seriously, it's so wonderful you're posting. I'm so happy for both of you. You've got a great thing going. Thanks so much for sharing with all of us!

    mikecb

    Oh, and congratulations on the newfound job stability. I suppose too MUCH work is better than not enough, in these economic times! :party-075:
     
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    Easy Mike! What gives? I am a pain slut too but I guess I have a way to go yet. LOL
     
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    Oops sorry, Have a great day Goddess!
     
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    Good morning Melissa. Hope you don't mind but I had to drop in your pet's journal and add a little tease for you while you are at work. Perhaps you would consider my email I sent yesterday as a nice way to follow though with some of the ideas shared by those here. *wink*

    Got to run, catch you later-Goddess!
     
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    Looking forward to tonight Goddess!
     
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    Hey Goddess!! Did you forget about this :innocent0009:
     
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