Age isn't just a number

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  1. Nicoftime
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I have noticed lately that although I wish I had pursued chastity sooner, I am not sure I would have had the patience or commitment if I was younger.

    Been thinking of it the last few days, mostly because I was reading thread from a younger member. In my twenties I was certainly experienced, but now know I had little knowledge of the opposite sex.

    A younger me would have given back rubs, trying to make them as sexual as possible, hands roaming, hoping to get a little after. Now I can give a massage with the sole purpose of making her feel good without expecting sex.

    I have found that one thing that hasn't changed over the ages is sexual obligation, or the feeling that certain behavior must lead to sex. Some women feel they just can't kiss, flirt, or even cuddle because they would feel obligated to take it further and they aren't in the mood for that so don't even bother.

    No amount of telling them otherwise drives it away. I find that chastity and the devices help them open up that they REALLY don't have to finish what they started, and a kiss can just be a kiss.

    I think that age has helped me find what's really important, and given me the patience to practice what I preach. I think my younger self might view chastity as a tease and denial fun time for me experience, but the older me likes giving up control so that whatever happens she is happy.
     
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    Wendygirl To offer advice and keep CM safe and welcoming

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    As you say no substitute for experience which often comes with maturity.
    Nothing wrong with that.

    Xx Wendy
     
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    This is exactly what I wrote in my most recent journal update. Elle stunned me by telling me that there were times in our past where she wanted a cuddle but decided against instigating one as she thought that I would want sex as a result. Now she is in control and she doesn't have to worry she is able to have a cuddle whenever she wants with no strings attached.

    I have thought about when would have been the optimum time for us to start using chastity and when would Elle have been ready to be my Mistress Wife Keyholder. I think about ten years earlier would have been the best time to start. She was well established in the job that I feel gave her that first assertive sense of being in charge that she has used to such good effect, and I think I was developed enough as a male to accept the necessary changes that have been needed to make all of this a success.

    But a year ago is when we actually started, and I am grateful that we found this way of living at all.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I read your post and reminded me of what I didn't know years ago.

    Plus was very into Lucy's thread, then it dawned on me that she was only 23. At twenty three I was experienced but damn...I think back on what I didn't understand and wince.
     
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    Vinny Locked up again. Starting year 6.

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    I am 65 and started chastity at the age of 61. I would have never given up my penis and orgasms in my younger days. I was firmly into BDSM with my wife's girlfriend sexually dominating me. We were mostly into S&M and it got severe over a 30 year period. Also got into other fetishes too like cuckolding and some pretty yucking stuff. Although I have not been permitted intercourse for about the last 20 years I was always allowed to masturbate, sometimes while the girls did painful or humiliating things to me. I had as many as 3 orgasms in an evening due to our threesomes and then one on one sex wtih each women. A few times I had an outside girlfriend so it could be as many as 5 orgasms a day and thank you Viagra.

    I thought that orgasm denial and chastity was stupid. Why give up my orgams. Back in my day there were not practical chastity devices anyway. I am a sexually submissive, but only to someone I deem worthy to submit to. I was lucky in that my wife's live in girlfriend was a natural dominant and feminist who refused to cook, clean of do any housework at all. My wife was the wife to both me and our girlfriend but her girlfriend was the one who dominated me. My wife would join in if her gf pegged me while I performed oral on my wife or as she whipped me but she could not take the more extreme stuff we were into.

    After we moved away from our girlfriend we were in uncharted waters as a couple since we lived in a poly triad for most of our marriage. I was still not allowed intercourse and my wife was missing our girlfriend. My wife is fine if I never had an orgasm again. She is more into women these days but still enjoys making me hard and edging me. Then erectile dysfunction hit due to my age an diabetes so having sex became stressful for me and that made it worse. I began to enjoy sex more when I was under no pressure to get erect and/or orgasm. That is when I found chastity which took our sex problem and turned it into a kinky sex fetish that we both enjoy. After 4 years of this, I could care less if I have an orgasm of not. I just enjoy the intimacy of having sex and giving my wife pleasure. 8 orgams just last week and that ain't bad for a 64 year old woman with an artificial hip.

    I could not imagine giving up my penis in my younger days though since I was into orgasms seeking behavior with more than one woman. I was addicted to orgasms until I got much older.
     
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    I feel that my age has really been helpful in my journey. I feel that, due to less Testosterone, I get those feminine feelings more often, my body no longer grows hair below my neck and I feel like the sweetest 72 year old girl there is! I love it!
     
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