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    Yesterday when I woke up I got a notice on twitter that someone followed me. Check it out it's a coworker. When I get in the office she asks if it was me. My blushing confirmed it. I asked her to keep anything she saw confidential and she said of course. Account is anon and for chastity stuff and cute memes. Not sure what she saw or not and now paranoid. Likely my imagination but I swear she keeps looking at my crotch.

    Nuke account and act like it never happened? Live in the woods as a hermit?
     
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    No
    You put it out
    She approached you
    Based on what she said she was cool

    be cool
    See where it goes.
    Don’t be creepy or strange. Just be yourself
     
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    I agree, just go with it.
     
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    Relax, if she is here she more than likely enjoys it. Besides this time of year the woods are full of ticks.
     
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    #5 grntruck, Jun 10, 2021
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    I don't think she is here. She found my Twitter account. If she found this it wouldn't be as stressful. It would me she already knows about these things.
     
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    Sounds like the account wasn't all that anon.....
     
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    How on earth did she find it? Did you post things with names? Places? Pictures that could be searched on?
     
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    Similar jokes, memes I've shared with her. Pic of my dog.
     
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    I wonder did twitter automatically suggest it to her and then she recognised your dog.
     
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    Possible. Follow some of the same topics and she's been suggested to me before. Should have blocked her.
     
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    As others said, go with the flow. Believe in your lifestyle and maybe you'll get a real friend that understands.
     
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    You're married with kids. Nuke the account.
     
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    I had similar with Facebook, I had my normal account and then my alt account but people from my main account kept on being suggested to my alt.
     
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    :confused::eek:
     
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    She is probably cool with it, but hopefully, she won't show it to anyone else. I worked for a large company many years ago and found a woman that was about 40 working there in a management position had ads on a very kinky BDSM website. No big deal to me, it's life. But, I didn't show it to others either. She could use it to blackmail you though.
     
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    Let sleeping dogs lie! See what happens. It could be that she, too, is a kinkster and she is now aware of someone that she might approach.
     
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    this could easily blow up in your face. You don't know what she has in mind, or what she might do. I would stop posting on that account. Don't delete it, that would just draw attention to it. Allow it to die naturally.
     
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    I'm very unclear on what's being said. Did this twitter account have information about chastity? Genitalia pictures? Things that could be considered compromising in a work environment, or hazardous to your job or career?

    If that's true, then you shouldn't post it, period. Regardless of who sees it or knows about it.

    If you put it out online, you can never recall it.

    Posting to social media opens vulnerabilities that you cannot close. Best counsel, don't do it. If you must, limit what information can come back to you, and never, repeat: NEVER post compromising information. There are people who will engage you to draw out compromising information to use against you in ways you may not imagine. Or use you to get to others, often without your knowing. I realize there's a strong hey-everybody-look-at-me thing going on with tens of millions who can't wait to vomit out their lives in the hopes that they garner some attention, but it doesn't take Anthony Weiner sending dick picks to torpedo a career, lose a job, go to prison, be blackmailed, or otherwise manipulated, and in most cases, you'll never know it because the information is used in far more subtle ways.

    A number of years ago in Iraq, we obtained human intelligence and some laptops which contained a surprising amount of personal information on a very wide number of people. You've probably heard said that everyone there had a bounty on their head; that's true, in a literal sense, as Iranian money was used to pay for every person killed, so long as it could be documented, usually video'd. The depth of information on people was staggering, right down to the name of their dog, where their kids went to school and what classes they took. You name it. Allergies, medical, everything. How?

    Because people were too busy playing look-at-me on social media, and that information was being mined to build an intricate and extensive series of dossiers that enabled insurgents to not only reach out locally, but far beyond, should they choose. The strong counsel then was stay off facebook, stay off every other social media site, stop posting pictures and personal information, stop compromising yourself, your family, and your mission. But it went on, largely unchecked, because ego and self-love caused so many to play the look-at-me game. Don't play that.

    Flip the switch. Cut it off. It can't help you. It can most definitely hurt you.
     
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    I would be concerned. She crossed a line bringing it up at work. It is one thing to find your suspected content online and be privately amused, quite another to put it in your face. Fortunately, chastity is pretty harmless. It’s not like you are having an affair or worse.

    Only you can know how much of a risk she is, if any.

    Your first decision, is to come clean with your wife if you haven’t already. Doing so will lower your immediate risk, but at a relationship cost. Pay up, it will cost orders of magnitude more the longer it goes.

    Stop posting sensitive information on Twitter. Period. Post normal drivel. Let it ride then fade away. Deleting it right away may tell her she has something good on you. Refrain from any casual banter or comments with her about her discovery. Be boring. You need to decide how to respond if she brings it up. Carefully decide.

    Thank you for the reminder to the rest of us to be discrete.
     
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    She already knows....so relax and be cool. She may turn out to be a special friend both on Twitter and in real life.
     
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    Risk vs. benefits? Sounds like ALL risk. Some things are just too juicy to not share as most trans people can attest to.
     
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    I agree with @Giles_English
    It’d be one thing if you were single but chances are this coworker might “secretly” tell another co-worker and so on. If the accounts not there, there’s nothing to speculate about or follow. I’d start a new account and block her. I think some of the fun is being able to post fantasy memes and the like without the consequence of people knowing who you are other than your online friends or followers and you otherwise stay anonymous.
     
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