Hello, @Claire1408, welcome! Given your concerns, even though we're a minority here I'd think that feedback from other women in this forum will be helpful to you as a female and potential KH. So, I'd love to offer one question to start with, for your consideration: Is it to play a game, or will it be a Commitment to Chastity and to You? Most here would agree that to some men, 'chastity' is fantasy game. They watch way too much porn, they get excited about the novelty and buy expensive toy-cages to wear hanging between their legs. In the process they string their female partners along with pretenses of chastity, demand attention and teases, but slip out of their silly toy-cages whenever they want to continue masturbating regularly. They simply role-play with their wives --though sometimes they pretend it's real or they use it as an phony 'cure' to having cheated or been caught consuming lots of shady porn. In doing so, they defeat the respect they profess to the real Chastity cause --and they abuse the trust of their female partners. My warning to you is: you could be made to play this silly game. Suggestion: find out conclusively which is it for your partner --if he truly has the mindset for it (including a real transfer of power and control to you)-- and decide accordingly. And if he really wants to commit to you under a Chastity agreement, make him agree to wear the MOST SECURE device you can find. A Neosteel Arch, a Lori #1, Steelworxx Locker 3 or similar might help. Then, as you rightly told him, set your own rules for it, and make them count. Be consistent and firm, but also have FUN. And remember, ensure your emotional, domestic and sexual satisfaction are taken care of FIRST. Otherwise, you may just end up being another one of his fleeting, porn-fueled fantasies. Keep us posted! All the best.