Advice Needed

I bet you jerked off to a lot of cuckold porn because that is why so many guys want to do it. I bet you never met a cuckold in real life. Most who post about doing it are just living their sex lives online and not really doing it. I was a cuckold for a year with my live in girlfriend until she walked into our living room and asked my three closest friends to gang bang her. I kicked her out the next day.

After that I became a bull. I cuckolded three husbands and one fiancee. I cucked one husband for 25 years because his wife did not want to give me up. The engaged girl left her fiance. Two of the married women left their husbands but I figured that because of the way they talked about their husbands who as they said, did not love them enough to want them all to themselves like the husbands of their girlfriends. Funny that they resented the very freedom that their husbands gave them. It was a little more than that. They felt used. They were actors in their husband's fetish. Their husbands nagged them into it and the fact that the wives got sexual pleasure was just a happy coincidence. Their husbands set the rules and they had to share their relationships with their cucks all the time. They grew to hate it and made up stuff to tell their cucks to feed their fetish.

I tried it with my wife and did not get aroused or jealous. However, my wife hated it and regrets it to this day. She asked me to never want her to do that again. Best keep cuckolding as a fantasy where you can control the action and players. In your fantasy, the other guy is not trying to contact your wife, texting or calling her up. You never come home to find strange guys waiting outside your home for your wife. In your fantasy you do not picture a guy who ejaculates fast, refuses to use a condom and if he does, slips it off when she cannot see. In your fantasy the bull has no face and disappears after the sex. In real life some bulls think that your girlfriend is now their girlfriend because she had sex with them and they think you are unable to sexually satisfy her. You are picturing paid actors rather than guys just looking for free sex. Trying to find a guy online will take at least 6 months and odds are that he is just looking for a free ride rather than fulfilling your fantasy. Just warning you because cuckolding is a minefield with a lot more mines than fields. All of my friends who were in open or poly relationships broke up or divorced directly as a result of one or more of them finding someone better who did not want them to have sex with strangers who sometimes smelled or showed up drunk. They wanted a man who loved them so much that they would never ask them to have sex with other men. That is the reality of cuckolding and not everyone is doing it like the internet will lead you to believer. Only one cuck I personally know is still married and his wife asked me three times to let her live with me permanently if she divorced her cuck. He is still married because I said no three times.

As to introducing a girl to your fetish, I have a lot of experience in that since I have been into every fetish you can find on Fetlife.com. What I did was baby steps which is much easier in a long term relationship since you can get them into it slowly. Blindfolding me for fun for a few weeks lead to tying my hands up. Tying my hands led to a spanking. Spanking turned into paddling then whipping and finally caning. That lead to everything else. However it took two years to get my Mistress of 30 years into all aspects of BDSM. With my cuckoldress it was easy because she was kink from day one so she did anything she wanted to. It took my wife about 10 years to dominate me sexually and that was only because her girlfriend was my Mistress and taught her.

I will tell you how I got my normally submissive wife into chastity with some success. I started off with just teasing and denying. I told her I read about having sex where only the woman has an orgasm. That way, when he eventually got his orgasm, it was intense and worth the wait. So we did that. I was always sure to let her know how much more pleasure I felt when she denied me for a week, then two weeks and finally three weeks. She also got to enjoy what in my day was called cock teasing, an ancient and still used way to control a man.

When she wanted me to go longer than 3 weeks I said that I could no longer stay on the honor system and told her about a solution called a CB6000. She told me to get it and the rest is history. We had some bumps because I was trying to do the things I read about online which proved to be a lot of work for my wife and things she did not enjoy doing. So we streamlined it. She felt that using games to determine when I got to orgasm took all control over my orgasms away from her, so we stopped that. She felt that the chastity contract read like a user's manual with if I do this she does that stuff in it. Plus we changed things so much that we were never on the same version of the contract. She would show me her copy and I showed her mine and they were rarely the same. Some had rules that contradicted other rules. Most of all, my wife complained that a chastity contract was just me topping from the bottom telling her when and how to punish me. She wanted the freedom to do what she wanted so we fixed that. We ended up with just one rule, she makes all the rules and does not have to tell me.

Hope some some of this helps. I am not telling you not to try cuckold, especially with a disposable girlfriend which will not result in losing half of your stuff in a divorce. I tried it so I got it out of my system. One word of advice, if she says no, drop it. If not she may do it out of fear of losing you if she does not or just to shut you up. Word of warning is that she is not married to you and still has not decide who to marry so sex with other guys is going to be like shopping for someone better than you. There is nothing to bind her to you and there is always someone better than us if given enough time to find them. I did it with my girlfriend because we were not in love. We were just both very kinky people doing what each other liked to do. I lost nothing but it did allow me to meet my wife of 44 years who I would not trade for anyone else. A wife who is bi and shared her girlfriends with me for 30 years without any rules and even without her present, is a wife to hang on to and treat like a queen.

 

I'm not going to elaborate too much on starting chastity, there are a million threads here with that topic and you can use the search feature.

The cuck stuff I would imagine a tough topic to bring up. What I have found to be a great way of telling someone about your kinks...is to mention them lol. Sorry, but start off with being able to chat about what turns you on, and mention your particular kinks. Heck, I told mine like I was telling her I had a disease. I am submissive sexually, I get turned on by letting someone have control, and I have a deep feminine side that I have hidden my whole life. I told her I wanted to be honest and let her know who she's dating and if she wanted to stay, this is who I am.

We still talk about sex and are sexual daily. We send each other dirty pics or sensual sayings, and fantasy fodder. Usually accompanied by how we feel about that pic. It doesn't mean we she or I will ever do those things, but she knows of them and if she wants to she knows we can. In my opinion cuck or hotwife stuff is something you don't ask someone to do, you tell them it turns u on and let it progress from there.

I did read that you were only thinking about it for now, besides some chit chat about what turns u on, I would concentrate on telling her of your submissive nature. Let that settle in first.

 

Fantasies about cuckolding and actually letting a bull or bulls into your life are two very different things.

People that are experienced can try to explain it to you, but until you are actually living with it the reality of it is difficult to grasp. As was pointed out above, it isn't anything like the stories or videos online. Once that toothpaste is out of the tube it isn't going back in.

Be ready to live with the consequences of your chosen path, even though you have no way to predict what the consequences will be.

If you really want to try this with your woman I would suggest beginning with swing parties. Women like the social aspect of it, and it doesn't have to be about sharing her at first. You can go and tease each other, watch others play, and then go back home and have fun. Don't push your woman or it will be over before you even get started.

The place you are trying to get to is the result of a process that requires time and a lot of effort, not simply just confiding your fantasies.

 

Don't string her along. Introduce chastity as a bedroom game. Forget about the cuckolding.