Apologies for anyone looking for a lighthearted topic. While this is off topic it isn’t exactly light hearted! I know that the Mansion has an incredible depth of characters amongst its members. The variety of people here and the many ways they use or approach chastity is one of the reasons I am still here after nearly four years. I am hoping that amongst this group there are some people who are either transgender themselves or through other means have experience with transgender people, and that they can give me some help and advice. In fact anyone with thoughts or opinions are welcome to join in. A few days ago my son, in his early 20s, told my Wife and I that he is transgender and intends going through the process that will see him transition to trans female. This came (almost) completely out of the blue. Literally the day before my Wife and I had a conversation about him and little things we had seen that meant when he did tell us it wasn’t a complete shock. He has lived away from home for a few years but due to money issues had to move back in with us earlier this summer. I don’t know how I feel yet. Although I have no issue with transgender people I do not know any personally. I think there is a difference between knowing someone who is trans and that person being my own son. My Wife has taken this a lot harder than I have. She isn’t doing anything drastic, but she isn’t talking to him and things are very tense. She has even half joked that maybe the job she was recently offered in New Zealand isn’t such a bad idea. Our son has caused my Wife all sorts of grief over the past few years and I think this is one thing too many. I have just read that some parents grieve over the perceived loss of a child and I would suggest that my Wife very definitely falls into this category. If anyone else is trans how did their parents react? I am not going to try and stop him, but this isn’t going to be easy for us. While I understand he is doing this because he feels it is right and will make him happy I also feel he is being incredibly selfish. I cannot go into details as to why, this is not because of the impact on me or my Wife, but it is because of the impact on somebody very important to me. What is funny is I was tempted to go and put on some of my own women’s clothes and say you aren't the only one who is happy wearing this stuff. What he doesn’t know is directly because of him my Wife and I have had to sacrifice a hell of a lot of our own personal and intimate life. The one thing that made me angry is that because of him (and separate to the trans thing) that side of my life has had to be abandoned just as it was getting started. I never wanted to transgender, but my Wife had been exploring dressing me in female clothes. Aside from the chastity lifestyle it was something we both really enjoyed. I suppose I am asking if anyone has any experience of transitioning, or of knowing someone who transitioned and how the process went. What was the impact on family members? What has been the long term experience? My long experience of chastity and the way it has reprogrammed my brain into being a more calm and thoughtful person is helping. I really want to be able to support my Wife through this, I just don’t know how.