Advice for My boy in chastity....

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    One of My boys is somewhat new to being locked up. He still has 3 weeks to go and is struggling with being horny.

    I am asking those that have experienced this to give him some ideas on how to make it when he is struggling.
     
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    It's difficult to say, as I struggle with it as well. I suppose doing things might help, such as chores, cleaning, worshipping you somehow, maybe by making a tribute video of you or something. That way you force him to channel all that lust into doing things he ordinarily wouldn't do if he wasn't chaste. Making him do things he hates is always a fun way for you to address his whining.
     
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    Mistress

    You don't mention how long he has been locked up so far.

    If it's around 10 days or so then that is about the worst time . However that is the crux of the matter and you must stiffen your resolve and maintain his absence of pleasure.

    By 3 weeks he is well on his way to getting out of the habit of sex sex and more sex .

    Xx Wendy
     
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    If he is new to chastity, accomplishing 3 weeks is very good. It's still your choice of course.
     
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    With me, after a couple of weeks, my horniness seems to subside! I am going nuts now though, wife gave me a orgasm Saturday, and now I am starting over!
     
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    Keep busy.

    Turn your feelings of desire for your own sexual release into activities that provide your Mistress with sexual release. It is remarkable how quickly the act of giving someone else an orgasm can take the place of desires for your own.

    If he is 'one of your boys' that option might not be open to him though, one of the reasons I am glad this outlet is not denied to me, I'm not sure I could cope.

    So yeah, keep busy. And avoid Tumblr!
     
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    Idle hands are the devil's workshop. Keep him busy, busy, busy. There are always chores for my husband to do, and there's also exercise which is a good activity to keep him occupied and use up excess energy.

    But the fact remains that if is locked securely he is going to be frustrated and that's just how it is. Even though I give my husband regular releases he is constantly horny and he just has to endure it. At least in his case it hasn't gotten easier for him. He hasn't gotten used to it, he gets just as frustrated now as when I first locked him up, so he better just accept that it will be an ongoing struggle and try not to think about it.
     
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    my Mistress always simply tells to me to "deal with it and to OBEY". nuff said !
     
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    I take it it's precisely that frustration and ongoing struggle that keeps him obedient and working hard for you in order to earn his release.
     
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    What helps me is knowing that if I orgasm, I will experience a let down and have to start over again. And I get a personal sense of accomplishment the further I can go in between. When I am super horny, (like right now) I crave any attention from my Goddess, not necessarily an orgasm. She paddled me earlier today and I want more tonight but I she told me our activity will be giving her a foot rub. Tough that I won't get my way. She is the boss.
     
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    busy is the key
     
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    my key is not very busy. i don't know where it is but it don't do much.
     
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    #jemima does it ever get used?
     
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    If I complain I get pegged so I keep quite. My Mistress uses me as a girl and sometimes it hurts so I just accept that I am not allowed sex any more and focus on my feminine training.
     
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    If you embrace being femme and getting pegged you'll enjoy it so much more.
     
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    @sillymaid it does yes but not as often as i wud like really.
     
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    I don't think it ever gets easier. He'll just have to learn to enjoy the minor movements in the long passages between the major movements.
     
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    @jemima awww sorry to hear that....but I guess @Mistress B knows best in what you need and what makes you perform the best!!
     
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    She does and jemima is aware of this.
     
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    Above advice is all good but I would like to suggest that he learn to be proud of his struggle. So few men seem to understand how proud a woman can be of a truly obedient man and how well this can reflect on them and their devotion. Of course the very things that make chastity more "difficult" (like intimate services) are those men can be most proud of! Not sure I'm articulating this very well but if you would like to put your boi in touch with me I will be happy to encourage him and praise him for his physical suffering.
     
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    i think that's right cos when we been at some parties i hears some of the Ladys saying things bout there men and the maids as well and it all about who can do what with them. and how they have train them.
     
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    Tell him to have cold showers.
     
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    Steviepie nailed it. I am proud of my husband for enduring what he has to accept in our relationship. It's not easy for a man to be locked up and to be subservient to a woman. Since he accepted a FLR I have gained respect for him and lost the resentment that I felt when he was just being lazy and not pleasing me. I am proud of him and he is proud of himself for gaining discipline and becoming much more productive. Of course I am also proud of myself for being strong enough to take control of him and making him serve my needs.
     
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    It all sounds like fun to me!!! I love the idea of using some chopsticks to love the testies lol
     
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    Beautifully explained.
     
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