Advanced Identity Reframing: when emasculation becomes a necessity

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"A male's sexual identity is actually a very
inconvenient thing when you realize that
males sometimes misbehave because they
feel they must act manly."
Advanced Identity Reframing: when
emasculation becomes a necessity (part
1)

(by Susanne Liu, M.D., for DreamLover Laboratories)

Today I would like to talk about an advanced Identity Reframing technique.
Basic knowledge of IR is required and will be assumed throughout this
essay.

Sexual Identity

"A male's sexual identity is actually a very
inconvenient thing when you realize that
males sometimes misbehave because they
feel they must act manly."

As you know, Identity Reframing requires directmodification of a male's
self-image. One of the most important components of this self-image is a male's sexual identity. Therefore, its systematic attack has long been a subject of discussion within women's rights circles and the male training community.
It is widely believed that every male will experience at least one plateau
along his training, and that the majority of plateaus are actually caused by
a conflict between desired behavior and a male's sexual identity. A male's
sexual identity is actually a very inconvenient thing when you realize that
males sometimes misbehave because they feel they must act manly.
Ordinary IR techniques such as "redefining manly", or trying to associate
manly to more obedient behaviors, are of course to be tried before
attempting something as drastic as what we will discuss here - however,
these do not always work because there are cultural stereotypes at play
that are very well anchored in a male's psyche. So when "manly" cannot be
redefined to mean "obedient", then we are left with only one option: that of
revoking his manhood altogether.

Revoking his manhood

By "revoking a male's manhood" we refer to the process of detaching male
gender stereotypes from his conception of self. The male must cease to
think of himself as "manly", in order to avoid cognitive dissonance from
interfering with his training. The male must be led, symbolically and
practically, through a "point of no return": he must be made to do things
that are undeniable, and yet completely incompatible with manhood and
manliness. The process must - of course - be gradual, in order to minimize
resistance.
Only two methods have been discovered so far that completely and
unequivocally negate manhood: long-term chastity and sodomy.

Short vs long-term chastity

Although most believe that long-term chastity is simply an extension of a
regular, short-term chastity regime this is very far from reality. Let's
examine both:
Short-term chastity simply increases seminal fluid volume in a male's
testicles, seminal vesicles and sperm ducts, and by doing so greatly
increases the male's sexual desire. Then, when the urge becomes
overwhelming, a skilled trainer can exploit her feminine charms to extract
any promise or required behavior (willful participation). IR techniques take
short-term chastity further, by teaching the male to associate his sexual
desire to obedience; here the male is actively pursuing servitude as the
only allowed sexual outlet.
Long-term chastity has all the benefits of short-term chastity. Being longer
it allows greater seminal fluid accumulation and greater sexual leverage. A
male in long-term chastity can be recognized by the fact that his penis is
constantly dripping (leaking seminal fluid), an inevitable reaction to his
sperm vesicles and ducts being completely full. Many women experiment
with long-term chastity at least once to enjoy this sight suggestive of a
"drooling" male, unable to contain his lust and yet completely powerless to
satisfy it.
But long-term chastity also has an important psychological effect: it
negates and denies basic male functionality. The male's penis (the symbol
of his manhood) is relegated to a locked and forgotten, unreachable place,
without a concrete prospect of becoming erect again. Therefore, long-term
chastity is more akin to castration.

Sodomy

It is an accepted fact that a male who has been made to endure another
will see his sense of manhood shattered, and quickly create a new, more
docile self-image. Heterosexual, homophobic males are especially prone to
harboring strong sexual identities, and particularly vulnerable to this type of
treatment. While this concept is very easy to grasp, in practice it is difficult
to apply, requiring many intermediate steps in order to ensure that the
change is gradual and that the male remains compliant throughout the
progress.

Forced vs voluntary

Advocates of "Forced Subjugation" male training techniques will oppose
the leniency of the gradual approach we propose; indeed many great
husbands have been broken by sodomy in record time under a Forced
Subjugation regimen. However, the time savings achieved by this method
are more than offset by the frequent mental trauma suffered by these
males. For this reason, Compulsory Sodomy (CS) as a means of behavior
alteration should be a technique of last-resort, likely only useful to a trained
professional who is given a very short time to produce a fully functional
male.
Additionally, I believe that sexual identity reframing can greatly benefit
from a male's willful compliance in his therapy. A male who offers himself
for sodomy voluntarily (Voluntary Sodomy, or VS) will develop a much
more submissive new sexual identity than one who has been forced
through the process. This is because the need for consistency will ensure
that as he internalizes the loss of his manhood, he will also incorporate
coherent interpretations about his willful compliance. The male will often
form beliefs such as "at a subconscious level, this must be what I wanted";
or, "I actually enjoyed it, otherwise I would not have seen it through". Due
to this common psychological reaction, the male ends up strongly believing
that a latent desire existed, and that he alone was responsible for the loss
of his manhood - leading to a very stable new sexual identity from which
notions of masculinity are conspicuously absent.

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Advanced Identity Reframing: when emasculation becomes a necessity (part 2)
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"A male's sexual identity is actually a very
inconvenient thing when you realize that
males sometimes misbehave because they
feel they must act manly."
Advanced Identity Reframing: when
emasculation becomes a necessity (part

2)

(by Susanne Liu, M.D., for DreamLover Laboratories)

Preparation to VS

Due to the additional benefits described and for reasons of practicality, the
average woman will find it more rewarding to proceed with the gradual,
consensual approach.
Before you begin this process, the male must already be undergoing an
intermediate level training regimen, and have renounced most of his selfdetermination.
You will then be able to enforce a long period of chastity
before breaking begins. This allows you to work with an already shaking
manhood, and the cocktail of hormones raging within the male's mind will
magnify your power to seduce him into compliance. Due to the fact that we
are using long-term chastity chiefly to erode his masculinity, it is beneficial
to avoid calling it chastity; rather, you should refer to it as castration.

Castration

"The castration period should last long
enough for the male's penis to begin
'dripping'"

Pronounce this word often. Castration. Talk to him about how his
castration is going. Praise him. Tell him how happy you are and that it
shows he really cares about you. Remind him often that you appreciate his
gesture of accepting castration.

This word has a powerful psychological effect on the male, who is made
aware that you are not engaging in some scheme to arouse him, but that he has genuinely given up his penis (and orgasms) in order to please you, and in doing so he has renounced an important part of his masculinity.

But how much time is enough to begin VS? Ideally, the castration period
should last long enough for the male's penis to begin "dripping".
Involuntary leakage of seminal fluid is observed from the moment his
seminal vesicles, testicles and sperm ducts become completely filled and
saturated with sperm. Male chastity specialists refer to this as the "loading
period". If the loading period lasts less than two or three months, your male has above average sperm production. Do not initiate VS before at least two full months have elapsed, to make sure that his testosterone also saturates his blood stream and that he starts out with the treatment maximally vulnerable and with maximally impaired cognitive functions.

Harnessing Increased Output

Before the loading phase is completed your male will be
confused by powerful sexual urges that he cannot
control. He will also experience unrest and very large
quantities of energy. Unless you are able to channel this
energy towards something productive, your male will
eventually find a way to have his orgasm, by tampering with the chastity
device, begging you, or other means. Therefore you must observe some
precautions as your male's sexual pressure increases.

First of all, you must verify that his chastity device is secure. If you are
using a device without a belt, you should add a belt to make sure it fits
snugly around his body and he cannot "pull out". The other important thing
you must do is find an outlet for his heightened energy output. It is not
unusual for a young male in the late stages of a loading period to be able
to put out 16+ hours of intense work per day. Indeed, this "overclocking"
effect is the reason why some women resort to male chastity in the first
place. If you see him restless and nervous, you must put him to work to
channel his energies into something, especially in the morning and
afternoon.

Introducing strenuous physical work is fundamental to relieving the
pressure that's being built up. Your male should by now be doing all
housework (do not even attempt VS if your male won't even do chores for
you!) - but this is often not enough. If you run out of things you want him
to do simply send him to the gym, or broaden his housekeeping duties to
the homes of a few select friends, or both.

To summarize:

You find that your male has reached a training plateau; task
botching, inconsistent service in public, lack of enthusiasm (or other
common "plateau" complaints)
You single out VS as the most promising therapy for his problem,
perhaps with the help of a male management consultant
VS training begins with a teachable, willfully compliant male
He is first subjected to a long period of chastity, with the explicit
understanding that it does not have a term but may be permanent.
He is told that this is a virtual "castration".
The male will become very energetic and needs an outlet for his
sexual energy in order for the therapy to be effective: put him to
work
When your male is ready his penis will start "drooling"

Attention: due to the high levels of testosterone produced during the
"loading" (castration) phase your male may become uppity and even
experience moments of aggressiveness. You must have some over the
counter tranquilizers handy for when you cannot put up with this.
However, in most circumstances, witnessing a male's struggle as his
penis begins to drool and his mind is possessed by demonic sexual
urges which cannot be satisfied is quite a show. It is a force of nature.
Every woman should see her male in these conditions at least once. I
always recommend my clients put their husbands through a full loading
period even if they do not plan to go through VS.

For those who do require VS to resolve their marital situation (or who wish to try it out of sheer curiosity) I always recommend a solution which will placate the male when needed, but also allow his significant other to experience the full breadth of the hormonal storm he is going to experience, without softening it and spoiling it with medications. All my clients who do attempt VS already have a DreamLover 2000 unit installed on their husbands. They are instructed to customize its pulsewith the DL2K configuration tool by DreamLover Labs. I give them my custom settings file and they upload it to the unit, increasing the "high" power pulse to two second. This is enough to put a strong man on his
knees in no time. It diffuses any resistance and rarely needs to be used more than once per week. These are the settings I also use on my husband when he is on his loading cycle (that is, almost always).

Integration of VS-prep with other patterns

Being familiar with basic IR techniques, you have probably already come
across the "public exposure method", consisting in making a public display
of a male's subjugation in front of others, or at any rate revealing its
intimate details as he listens passively. If you are employing the public
exposure method to get your male's self-image soft and ready for the final
blow it will receive with VS, your male may already be well on his way with
the preparatory long-term chastity. In this case we recommend you
integrate the two strategies by discussing your male's "castration" in
public. Do not say anything about chastity, simply tell your friends that you
had him castrated. Here are some useful discussion topics you can explore
at the dinner table. Ask your friends' opinions:

If your husbnd was for some reason castrated, would it be fair for a
girl to have a sex friend to satisfy her?

What is the ultimate sacrifice a male can make for a woman? (listen
to opinions, then introduce castration)

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"A male's sexual identity is actually a very
inconvenient thing when you realize that
males sometimes misbehave because they
feel they must act manly."
Advanced Identity Reframing: when
emasculation becomes a necessity (part

Advanced Identity Reframing: when
emasculation becomes a necessity (part

4)


(by Susanne Liu, M.D., for DreamLover Laboratories)


Steps to VS


Step 1: Compulsory viewing under stimulation


As previously discussed, VS requires breaking down the desired action
(passive sexual acceptance of sodomy by another male) in small steps.
The first step consists in applying slight stimulation to the male's penis
during compulsory viewing of well-developed male bodies. Use a magazine,
or the internet. Remember that the male is under intense sexual stress
because of his castration. Therefore, he will not object to anything in order
to receive some stimulation. However, because of the same reason, it is
wise to make it impossible for him to touch himself during this procedure.
Also, remember to touch him very gently. If he has an orgasm now, you will
have to start again from scratch.


The choice of male models for compulsory viewing during post-loading
stimulation is important. Do not choose skinny guys. They must be
huge bodybuilders, in order for him to feel feminine compared to them.
Compulsory viewing under intense sexual pressure and stimulation will
force him to associate sexual pleasure with powerful male bodies
compared to which he feels weak and passive.
When your male participates willingly and consistently to this procedure,
proceed to the following step.


Step 2: Enactment of fellatio under stimulation


Another small task a male will readily agree to in exchange for a little
caressing is orally attend to a phallic symbol, such as a dildo. Stimulation
must be conditional to proper technique (which must usually be taught).
When your male participates willingly and consistently to this procedure,
proceed to the following step.


Step 3: Compulsory viewing + enactment of fellatio under stimulation
This is where you put together the two techniques; you will require your
male to both view photographs of very large and muscular males who are
larger than him in muscle and endowment, and at the same time orally
service the phallic symbol of your choice. Again stimulation will be applied
while he is following these directions and withdrawn if he resists. When
your male participates willingly and consistently to this procedure, proceed
to the following step.


Step 4: asking please


The next stage will require the male to speak. You will repeat the
techniques described above. This time, the male is made to guess a name
for each of the male models you will show to him. When this is done, he
will be asked to choose one by saying "I like this one". If he cannot say
that, or in any way refuses to comply, stimulation will stop immediately and
not resume before a day has passed (negative punishment).

Your male will choose a partner. Let's say his name is Juan. The male will
be instructed to engage in a conversation with you, addressing you as
Juan. He will first introduce himself (begin caressing his penis). Exchange
niceties. Then, ask him (as Juan), whether he likes cock. If he says no,
stop stimulation and ask again. Stimulation will resume only if he takes
part in this role-play. If the role-play can't proceed, interrupt for one day,
and try again. You have no hurry; he, on the other hand, desperately needs
sexual relief, and eventually will cooperate.

Once you have engaged him in a role-play with Juan on the premise that he
does like male genitalia, you will get him to seduce Juan and offer to orally
service him. When Juan accepts, take out the phallic object and allow your
male to work on it for some time.

If you get to the end of this process, your male has already accepted
homosexuality in principle, and the only obstacle to overcome is the actual
physical presence of a male, with the resistance that it will inevitably
create.


Step 5: Setting up the date


You may already have a "bull" of the house, that is, a sexually endowed
male who is replacing your castrated husband and satisfying you sexually.
You may also want to integrate the "bull" in your household, perhaps in a
live-in situation. This would be beneficial in at least two ways. First, you
would have readily available sex. Second, your male would no longer feel as
if he should cover any sort of masculine role in the household. The
presence of an alpha male would greatly facilitate your partner's identity
reframing. When my clients have a bull male, I advise them to choose him
for the "date". Especially when a husband is possessive and jealous, finally
confronting the bull and tasting what his wife has been getting is highly
therapeutic and gives his manhood a powerful blow.

If my client does not have a bull, I advise her to call an escort. He will have
enough patience (he's getting paid) to put up with her husband's
resistance and potentially the date's failure (not all attempts succeed the
first time).

If you decide to go this route, must pick a few males similar to those he
has been watching and virtually servicing while you masturbated him.
Many internet sites allow you to browse profiles. So choose a few profiles,
because he will need to make the final choice. As you know from the
previous part of this essay, a male's compliance in this encounter is key to
proper reframing of his sexual identity and preferences. Plus, if any
resistance arises on the day of the date, you will be able to quickly diffuse
it by exploiting cognitive dissonance: "you chose him yourself!".

For the preselection, I recommend picking males who completely shave
their bodies, in order to minimize the male's resistance to physical contact.
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"A male's sexual identity is actually a very
inconvenient thing when you realize that
males sometimes misbehave because they
feel they must act manly."

Advanced Identity Reframing: when
emasculation becomes a necessity (part
4)

(by Susanne Liu, M.D., for DreamLover Laboratories)

If you are having difficulties

"This technique ties his selfesteemto being perceived as aworthwhile target for penetration"

Some males are homophobic to a very high degree, and you will not be able
to get willful compliance right away. Here are a few tips and tricks you can
try to hasten your male's acceptance of the treatment and make him more
cooperative.

1. If your male has successfully gone through the "simulation"
exercises, but can't seem to be able to face a real man, you can start
by achieving Voluntary Sodomy with a TS and then progressing to a
male.

2. Another trick you can use is to ask the alpha to wear a mask, so that
your male will not have to come to terms with his identity or
masculine facial features - but only with his large, smooth muscular
body, a much smaller obstacle.

3. Yet another technique to overcome resistance is to allow the male
(when the alpha is already present) to choose whether he wants to
proceed with VS or whether he wants to offer oral service (as he is
already trained to do) in exchange for a temporary postponement of,
say, a week or two. Whatever he chooses, his actions are his own
choice: this has the beneficial effects already explained. Most males
who feel a strong aversion towards homosexual acts (because of
the annoying "manly" sexual identity we wish to eradicate) will do
anything to avoid it. By choosing to postpone VS they are actually
choosing to engage in more manhood-destroying behavior, again to
our advantage.

4. A logical extension to the concept of choosing extraordinarily masculine
males as helpers for this procedure is to work in the other direction
and feminize your male. This involves removal of all body hair and
dressing the male in an attractive, feminine attire. The male will be
encouraged to follow these preparations in order to please the alpha
by "being pretty for him". Aside from underlining his willful
participation and tying his self-esteem to being perceived as a
worthwhile target for penetration (a complete sexual identity
inversion), this practice has the further aim of increasing the
perceived difference in sexual identity between your male and the
alpha. It is not mandatory. But by following it, you make it easier for
your male to enter the desired role for this therapy.

5. Please note that most episodes of last-minute resistance to VS can
be handled by simple caressing (stimulation). You will of course be
present, and provide plenty of stimulation for him to "get in the
mood", or reach a state of sexual need great enough to allow him to
overcome his fears. If necessary, stimulation will continue
throughout intercourse, with the added bonus that the male will have
no choice but to physically enjoy it.
Don't forget to constantly underline his (hard earned!) voluntary
compliance as he is going through the process. He should get acquainted
with the real Juan as rehearsed. Then, he should ask him politely for
whatever is to happen, and take full responsibility for his own requests with
his own chosen partner.

Ejaculation policy during Voluntary Sodomy (VS)

Whether or not a male should be allowed to ejaculate during VS is a very
personal choice. Most IR experts believe that if the male can ejaculate
spontaneously from anal stimulation alone, then he should be allowed to
as this undeniably demonstrates that he has enjoyed it. This is a best-case
outcome for VS as it provides the greatest amount of Identity Reframing.
But there is no consensus on whether the male should be "helped" to an
orgasm if he cannot have one through VS.
Many women feel that mutual orgasm makes the VS episode more
memorable and effective. Some of them provide a "helping hand"
throughout VS, while some prefer to see the alpha handle this as well, as
VS is being carried out. The response of males to an alpha's "fondling"
during VS is mixed. Some require a certain degree of encouragement
(caressing) from their owner before they are ready to let the alpha work on
their penis. Most accept the fondling silently, a sign that Identity Reframing
is already occurring. If you believe your male should ejaculate during his
VS encounter, and you think he's ready for the alpha to take over his
stimulation, then the male should - if at all possible - be made to ask for the
alpha's help, before it is granted.
But there is another policy adopted by many women who are against their
male getting a "free orgasm". They choose to prolong the wonderful
effects of the male's loading period including his high work output and
vulnerability to sensual persuasion. They do this by limiting stimulation to
the absolute minimum required in order to get their male through VS. He will either climax anally, or not at all.

A brief parenthesis on anal development of the male

The idea of using a male's anal orgasm as a reinforcement for VS-based
Identity Reframing has been explored extensively as it holds instinctive
appeal for its symbolic completeness and the wonderful effects that have
been observed - to the extent that it has been given a name: Ejaculative
Anal Response during Voluntary Sodomy (EARVS).

Males who go through sodomy voluntarily for their women and
unexpectedly conclude it with a shattering anal orgasm seldom retain any
feeling of entitlement to a masculine role. They quickly and permanently
lose any notion of "manhood" and become extremely docile, almost childlike
in their submissiveness.

This result is pursued aggressively by some women who have observed it
with envy in a girlfriend's male. To this end, they adopt a chastity policy
which can only be broken by their male achieving a penetrative anal
orgasm during VS with their chosen bull. Some males learn to respond
anally by the second or third encounter and are able to achieve EARVS
within five dates. However, for some it may take up to a year to adjust to
the sensation, learn to physically accommodate the bull, and develop the
necessary sensitivity.

EARVS has become the "holy grail" in Identity Reframing. If you hear a
woman bragging about her boyfriend being EARVS-trained, you now know
what it means and why it is held in such high regard.

Towards success

Unfortunately, the laborious procedure involved in VS is often inevitable if
one is to overcome plateaus caused by the conflict between a male's self
image and your training goals. Due to the complexity of the therapy, it is
recommended that you find a male management consultant, or a male
training oriented marriage counselor, to guide you through it with your first
male. She will help you navigate the many options and customize your VS
plan. Most experts also offer peripheral services, such as setting up a
venue and an audience for your male's "dates" or photo and video
shooting.

If you are a bit turned off by the effort required, bear in mind that
successive attempts at VS with the same male become much easier, as his
sexual identity has already been reconstructed and further "encounters"
will simply strengthen it and solidify it.

I have recommended VS to hundreds of wives looking for more permanent
behavior modification techniques. None has ever reported less than 100%
satisfaction. Improved love and family life has always resulted, sometimes
exceptionally so - to the point that some of my clients have decided to
move their anniversary date to the date of their husband's first VS, because
according to them, on this day they finally met their ideal husband!

Emasculation is the ultimate Identity Reframing technique. A large number
of "perfect husbands" and boyfriends have been forged with this technique
and we hope it will be helpful to you as well.

Post-VS fun and pattern integration

Once your male has gone through his first VS therapy you will be able
to pick and choose the best shots of your bull sodomizing your now
passive male before you.

Most of my clients choose to avail themselves of a skilled
photographer, in order to have at least one suggestive, "artistic" shot
that is subtle enough to frame and display prominently in their living
room. This commemorates an important milestone in their male's
training and as serves as a permanent but discreet reminder of his
subservient role - one that will spark countless conversations, allowing
you to publicize his success.

Some other clients like to keep a few very blatant pictures which serve
as perfect blackmailing material. Though by this point you won't need
to resort to any such "Forced Subjugation" approach, because you
have already completely subjugated him with his willful consent, this
still remains a pattern integration game we girls can't resist playing. It
keeps our male on the edge, where we want him. And, we can enjoy
watching his blushing and trepidation (and hear his very best begging
voice) when we drink a bit too much and decide to pull out his "album"
and spread it on the dinner table, for a few laughs with whoever is
present.

-.-

 

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