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Discussion in 'The Bar' started by PouchPantyLover, Jul 24, 2017.

  1. Mistress Lucy
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    People have a choice on clicking on that thread, but they don't have a choice in what avatars come up on any other thread.
     
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  2. Mortified? No shit!
     
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    I have as it happens. Not my cup of tea, peach juice or any other thing it might be called. Vile stuff - if you ever do want to play that way, best you get your partner to drink water till that's all that's inside them otherwise it ain't good. Unless that's what you like I guess.

    I'm a visual person - I care far more about what things look like, then what their content is and personally I don't mind just about any kind of perversion, in fact I revel in them, hence why I celebrate the term perversion rather than getting all uppity about "My kink isn't a perversion - that's a really negative word!" etc.
     
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    Post is relevant to the thread - which will in turn fall away into the distant history of the forum. I'll leave it if that's ok? :)
     
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  5. Actually they don't have a choice, as stated, front page thread title...its there, you don't have to go in and read it, but if your imagination of stale urine and fat tummies could run wild with a picture...what about thread titles?
     
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    Like Lucy say's - there are plans to deal with that. All in good time....
     
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    Do you speak differently in the company of women than you do with your buddies? Or do you think women should accept you as you are, it's their problem?

    Would you like your girlfriend to feel more comfortable here?
     
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  8. That is a very big jump from the topic, in fact has little to do with an avatar. I speak to everyone with the same respect given to me. And she is comfortable with the material here, what she isn't comfy with is 30 messages asking if she would lock them up and that they would do anything for her.

    I've said my peace as stated, and made my point, which subverity has cleared up with the other changes coming. Lucy, no need to quote or reply back, im done.
     
  9. I agree with Nicoftime. Limiting avatars is like putting a dress on a pig. Still a pig. For me it is not an issue. I run a website that I am keeping all of you perverts away from. :) If someone is not using a website to make money, the least we could do is to follow the rules of the house. No biting the hand that feeds us and all that.

    Don't hate me or kill me for what I am about to say. What vibe does a forum give off where you see Mistresses in a lot of threads and even moderating the forum. Oh my!. Then there are guys like me posting about cuckolding,BDSM and polyamory. I was attracted to this forum because it has a BDSM aura about it. I miss my Mistress of 30 years so it is nice to find some here. Mostly deal with submissive women who work for me, and it is nice to chat with confident and strong women for a change. However, to most, the word Mistress conjures up visions of leather clad women holding whips. That is not going to attract Mr. or Mrs. chastity curious people.

    I do not want to see this forum become post after post about what device to buy and repeating that I am locked and denied each day that I post. I like a little zing in my online activities. However, this site is not run for profit like others who get the content for free from the posts their forum members make and sell advertising space. It is run and paid by someone who has the right to make the rules in his own house. I have no problem with that since I know where the door is should I not like the rules.
     
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    Mr Pouch can post whatever photos he likes in the gallery (within reason), why the need to have it as an avatar as well?

    Of course males will have no problem with it.
     
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  11. Hey now, I think a lot of us (males) don't particularly enjoy the graphic avatars.
     
  12. Wow! Talk about people getting their panties in a wad! I don't know if anyone else appreciates the irony, but let's face it, this site is (mostly) about locking (mostly) male genitalia in cages, so the PC police getting upset about chastity cages in pouch panty pictures does seem a bit over the top... And then there is the ongoing chick fight. Fun and interesting place! Much more than just sensible, mainstream chastity stuff.
     
  13. Don't know why we have to go over this over and over and over. No one wants to see your junk. Done deal.

    Chick fight? I'd watch what terms you use to describe the women round here if I were you. Just trying to give a heads up!
     
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  14. That was sarcasm. Things are a bit gender-fluid around here to make such a comment seriously... ;) No offense intended.
     
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  15. My bad!
     
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  16. We are not chicks! We are most deffintly woman. The last time I checked I had a vagina not feathers.

    Thank god for dicks fineally being removed ! It's not a hard thing to do.
    It's respectful to all memebers and I'm not sure I understand why people who get asked to change it have such a fit about it. Do they not enjoy being respectful? Shouldn't we all have the choice weather we see your private parts or not?

    Let put it into a. more understandable situation....say you were going out for the night to hang out with friends.... would you just show up naked assuming everyone else is naked and won't mind OR do you ask someone first if showing up naked would be to right thing to do? It would probably feel pretty ridiculous showing up naked when you weren't suppose to.
    And it might make people around you feel a little uncomfortable.
    Just because you are on the internet doesn't mean all manners from your regular life should be forgotten.
    If I went to a sex shop to buy a toy it wouldn't mean I want to see people having sex there....am I making any sense ?
    I really don't understand why some men make such a big deal over showing some manners.
    And if not being able to show your penis in pair of panties gets you so upset , maybe you should spend sometime standing with your nose in the corner thinking about your childish behaviour.
     
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    I think one way for men to put things in perspective is, would you want your grown up daughters seeing dick, crotch and pouch shots on a forum? Yes it's an adult forum and every one here is over 18, but we still don't want to see your crotches. If we DO want to see them we can look in the gallery. We are all normal women, not penis obsessed sluts or evil dominatrix's.
     
  18. Exactly. We are your "grown up daughters"
     
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  19. I am always fascinated by the logic "you are talking in forum about sexuality" you have to accept people (males) will behave differently. Why is it so difficult to behave like gentlemen as we would speak in public? Why some people assume I am interested in these topics, I will spend my time in porn-like environment.

    In real life I am quite conservative and old fashioned young lady who visit each Sunday church and who has some "standards". I respect each of us here is different, but why do not respect some decent basics?
     
  20. Surely a male chastity oriented site should have little or no mention of dicks or dick pic's for chics at all? ;-)
     
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  21. I would like to thank at @lockit@lockit for reaching out to me and encouraging me to take my case to @Administrator@Administrator and I have done that. In the process of logging in to do so I was given notifications of activity in this thread and was surprised by the level of commentary it has aroused. I would like to thank the people that have supported me especially @Nicoftime@Nicoftime and @sissybitch@sissybitch .

    The hypocrisy of this avatar removal is perfectly highlighted by @ineverknew@ineverknew post where he agrees that locked cock shots are forbidden. Uh hello, what is dead center of your avatar? How come you haven't shut his down @SubVerity@SubVerity ? Is it because the bodies shown are sleek and sexy? Not having bellies as @Mistress Lucy@Mistress Lucy objects to. Or is it because as both you and she alluded to there "are plans in the works"? What is next on your sterilization menu?

    As @Nicoftime@Nicoftime pointed out I joined CM in March of this year, was a lurker for a few months before that. Like everyone else I submitted my avatar shot for approval and yes I read the policy ahead of time and my picture was in compliance. That is why it was accepted and in use (very active use) since March. A few days before losing my avatar I received a private message from @Mascara^Snake@Mascara^Snake complimenting me on the thoughtfulness of my posts and I thought jokingly objecting to my avatar. I guess the joke is on me.

    I joined CM and have loved participating in CM because it was a place of unfettered learning and expression. Things I didn't understand became clear to me through reading others experiences and participating in their conversations. Being allowed to say things and do things you can't do in your day to day public life. Recently I've seen a cloud forming over what I find to be an idyllic place. A place where haters are free to post negative threads and comments designed to belittle or shame members for who they are rather than welcome them into the community I found when I joined here. this has been different than the intelligent and active disagreement I've enjoyed with people like @Mistress Jules@Mistress Jules or @Vinny@Vinny . No need to name names as we all know who I'm talking about.

    On a final note ladies I have a Mother I look up to and respect, a wife who I love and worship and a daughter who is the light of my life. I don't want any of them exposed to penis's or other graphic sexual images. However if they log onto a website called "Chastity Mansion" and then get offended by a man in panties or any of the other stuff posted on here, I would laugh at them rather than be upset for them.

    I hope @Administrator@Administrator sees this avatar removal for what it is. Blatant censorship by a group of moderators with an agenda that is totally inconsistent with written policy of this website. That it is not consistent with the mission of a forum that is better than this small minded pettiness.
     
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    Well maybe that is where you are going wrong, if someone logs onto a site called Chastity Mansion maybe they don't expect to see photos of men in panties WHEN THEY WANT TO READ A TEXT FORUM, and maybe they don't expect to read threads about drinking piss. If they do want to look at photos of locked cocks and males wearing panties then there is a gallery set aside for that where people are welcome to post 30 photos of their locked cock or panties or whatever. Call me crazy but I would have thought not having such avatars would be a minor disruption if it encourages more female members.
     
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  23. It's sad how quickly after my post I can read wall of text with zero ability to think about that decent common basics.
     
  24. @PouchPantyLover@PouchPantyLover , dude I get it, your upset. But as a guy myself I don't necessarily like coming on here and seeing crotch shots. I do however enjoy seeing devices and even if they are on a penis. Im a chastity gear head in a sense. But theres a place for that. I can look at them to my hearts content on tumblr if I want to. But theres two things here you need to keep in mind. The owner of the website has long been a fan of no crotch shots even before he owned it which many agreed with, and secondly its off-putting to the women. I would also like to add that chastity is a lot more then just locked cocks, its much more.
     
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  25. I am sure someone will correct me if I am wrong. The way I understand it the problem was more the way in wich the avatar was removed.
    What I have seen before the Mod or Admin asks the member to change there Avatar and that enough the Avatar gets changed.
    In this case a member reported the Avatar and the Mod removed it without notifyng the @PouchPantyLover@PouchPantyLover
    He logged on and it had been removed. If that is the case I can see why he is upset.