About to be locked. Need advice

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  1. moonviper890
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    I am about to be locked in a couple weeks as a birthday "gift"

    I have been asked to choose one of the following:

    1. I would be locked full time for the rest of my life, but allowed 2 minutes of freedom each year on my birthday.

    2. Permanent (sealed and welded)from day one. No escape possible ever.

    This isn't a fantasy, it's real life, and in case of emergency, the belt would be cut, and we would have to replace a part of it, otherwise I will be held to my decision.

    I have about 3 weeks to decide... Any thoughts?
     
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    Too radical for me. Good luck with it though.
     
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    I wouldn’t agree to it either.

    I like serious chastity, for a few month at a time. But the fact that I still get to have sex and orgasm from time to time is what makes it intense and exciting.

    if I couldn’t ever touch my self, have sex or orgasm for the rest of my life , chastity would lose all appeal.

    Also, if I’m totally honest , such a radical decision would make me seriously question my judgment, and whether it is really a sane decision…

    What we think we want is not always the right decision or the right path ahead.
     
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    It can take a long time to break in a cage (or vice versa), plus you will need to remove it if you have an MRI scan or some other miscellaneous reason. Just take is slowly.
     
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    Seems extreme, if I am being honest. I enjoy chastity play quite well, but do tend to temper my expectations. These far exceed mine.
     
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    This is fantasy. Neither are remotely realistic first time out.
     
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    How long have you been doing chastity?

    What's your longest lock-up thus far?

    Who is locking you for your birthday?

    Did you ask to be locked? Whose idea was it?

    Do you have a well fitting stainless cage?
     
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    Have you tested your belt out first? Made sure it’s the right fit for you, and how are you going to deal with hygiene issues?
     
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    It is a Behind Barz device, so hygene won't be an issue. And, before making anything permanent, of course we would make sure that the fit is right, etc.
     
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    Have been doing chastity play off and on for several years, most recently with the device pictured in my profile picture for a four-month stretch. It was a poor fit, and very heavy.

    Upgrading to the Behind Barz device, which, of course, we will ensure we take time to get adjusted properly, etc before actually sealing things. Essentially we're starting without sealing things, I just wouldn't have ready access to the key.

    This is a good friend who is not a sexual partner, fulfilling a long-held desire of mine.

    Basically starting "slow" to allow for adjustments, etc in the short term, and if permanent lockdown is chosen, it wouldn't specifically happen on day one that things are sealed up, but it would be assumed that from day one, even though things wouldn't be sealed, that it would be a permanent arrangement.

    Of course, with the yearly "freedom" option, the keys are always available, and so permanence issues become less of an issue.
     
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    Hello @moonviper if your key holder is just a friend and not a sexual partner what will be the reason for you to stay locked up, I can understand how the dynamics of male chastity work between a person locked up and a partner who is the key holder but I don’t know what will keep you lock up permanent if that person is just a friend.
     
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    I dont understand the appeal. I don't want to have any control over the little guy, I want her to have all of the control. Its locked 24/7 unless she wants it out to play with, sometimes she just mindlessly plays with it in bed while watching TV, sometimes she wants to feel it inside her or wants me to feel it inside her to remind me what I'm missing.
    The whole point for us is her controlling my orgasms, but we don't want to forever lose the pleasure. We want the ever building anticipation to improve our sex life, not eliminate it.
    I would suggest, its permanent, except for when she wants it, then it goes back on. Occasionally, you'll just need a mental health break for a few days too.
    By all means, you do you, but I don't think that situation works for the majority of people and the ones it does work for have built up to that point over years of negotiating, living, and growing as a couple.
     
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    giggle. :)
     
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    Option 3: Write a book
     
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    Hope I don't sound critical, but this explanation is about 180 degrees from the implications of your original post and what people are reacting to. This information changes the perspective completely and I just don't get why you weren't clear in the starting post. That said, I still can't imagine why you would choose the absolutely permanent option since even with an agreed to yearly release you could always choose to skip it and check in next year. How many "permanent" decisions about major parts of our lives do we make? Not many in my judgement. Things and people change and we require options to be able to respond to those changes. Personally I would never assume that the "me" today is a trustworthy source to make a decision that will impact every "me" I will become in the coming years. I just don't have that great of insight into the future. Good luck and happy trails.
     
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    Powertools exist. Nothing in this universe is permanent so go with whatever gives you both the most pleasure.
     
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    Don’t weld your belt shut. Permanent is a fantasy. Hygiene removal is important. You can be locked “forever” without welding or making an expensive belt trash should you need to have it cut off. I don’t know where people find the money to replace these things…good quality belts are expensive and works of art in their own right. You can safely wear it and still deal with your body’s needs without making it where neither of you can remove it. It’s a great fantasy and if you’ve got the money and time and understand all the risks and the loss associated with forced removal then yeah, have fun with that but it wouldn’t be my choice.
     
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    Your second option is:

    'Permanent (sealed and welded)from day one. No escape possible ever.'

    . . . you're 48 now, and in 27 years' time you'll be 75, with exactly the same waist measurement as you have today - or might you have, just maybe, put on a few kilos? 5 extra kilos would be enough for your midriff to be spilling over the belt, 10 kilos would have you looking like you're being permanently strangled round the middle . . .

    Long term is possible, but only feasible with a strict, but understanding key-holder; strict in the sense of standing no nonsense and not letting you out just because you fancy having a wank, but understanding in the sense of being supportive of your desire to be locked for a a very, VERY long time, but able to read the signs should release become essential for health reasons, either physical or mental.

    Whichever way it goes, best wishes, keep us informed, and, most of all, get loads and loads of SATISFACTION from your chastity journey.
     
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    Just go permanent and enjoy it while it lasts. 8)
     
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    It is a common fantasy. But. Always a but.

    If you are submissive to her, being locked without possibility of release, removes a major motivator for you to serve her. The possibility of earning release is a powerful motivation. It is a primary tool for her to use.

    Why would you deprive her of that? As said often, it is about her. Isn’t it?
     
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    Absolutely. My wife is continually finding reasons to not unlock me. For the last five months I have had no idea how long I'm going to be locked up. She keeps saying things like "This time, it's going to be a long time", and "You wanted to break your record, didn't you?" (I'm two months over my previous record), but if either of us said "It's permanent.", then all the suspense and excitement might disappear, as would the teasing, as there would no longer be any uncertainty of outcome. I might get a release for my birthday, or will I?

    Of course, each to their own, but I don't think either of us would enjoy it half as much if we decided up front that it would be permanent or even a fixed term. It's the uncertainty and not knowing just how long she's going to deny me that keeps it exciting.
     
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    Welding a cage shut? Have you EVER been around welding equipment?

    Think of a hot dog left on the BBQ too long. Only much, much worse. 304 stainless steel that most cages are constructed from begins to melt at about 2500 degrees f.

    Really?
     
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    Sometimes the fantasy is far, far better than the reality of a barbequed penis.
     
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    Permanent chastity from day one? Dream on *laughs

    In 2013, me and my spouse played with it for the first time.

    From 2014-2017 it was always times with and without chastity cage.

    From 2018 then it became more serious

    From 2019 it was then fixed! Since then I have experienced only a few days without a cage.

    But in this time learned everything that is necessary to make it work!
     
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