Hi! I'm sure lots of people have a similar origin story - long term interest etc, so I'll skip some of it. After knowing what I wanted - a D/s lifestyle - for several years, I finally got my wife to sign up for a few weeks of submission last year. I loved it and she enjoyed herself too, we both learned a lot about each other and were different at the end. Unfortunately, everything was different at the end, as we got a little carried away during our play. 9 months later, our second son was born (we'll probably never tell him the background of his conception!) Since that, in late December 2018, our sex life has obviously died. I have mentioned once or twice how much I loved "owning" her, but the vacant look back let me know all I needed - she wouldn't be calling me Sir again any time soon. I'm a pretty generous man in bed and always got as much enjoyment from her pleasure as my own, so I thought maybe it was time to try from a different approach. Unbeknownst to her, I ordered myself a cock cage from LoveHoney, which arrived on Friday last week. My idea was that for her to really understand why I enjoyed being in charge, I needed to let her have a time with the reigns. I tried to put it on a few times, but it took several attempts before I realised I would just have to man up and really push - then, on Saturday morning, mission accomplished. Oddly, I was quite nervous about telling her my intentions, but on Saturday evening I showed her and explained my idea: I am booked in for a vasectomy on 13th May. I intended to lock myself up for the month, allowing Her to control the keys and take the lead. i wanted to serve Her in every way, i wanted Her to abuse me or ignore me as She saw fit, but whatever She decided was right for me, i would gladly go along with. She told me to take it off. i didn't. i kept it on and had the most painful night's "sleep" i can ever remember, until at 4 am i was forced to wake Her and ask for the Key. The next day, i tried again. She was still not sold on the idea (even less so after i woke Her up) but seemed slightly more intrigued. On Sunday, i wore it all day and instantly loved the sensation. i took it off before bed as i was quite sore from the chaffing, but i didn't touch myself. It was Locked on Monday morning and has remained in place since. i love the feeling of it being on, i love the loss of control. i have made my Wife promise not to give me the Key - something She keeps offering me, so i am having to fight temptation on my own at this point. Although early days, i can already feel myself changing. i have not cum since just before trying to put it on the first time on Saturday, which is a very long time for me - i would usually have masturbated 3 or 4 times in the last 5 days, hopefully even had sex. i do not WANT to be released. i want to stay locked up and serve my Wife. i have ordered a combination safe for delivery tomorrow, into which i will request the Key is placed then locked with ChastiKey so i can no longer just go and get it from my Wife's draw if i lose motivation. my hope is that my Wife will become more enthusiastic as time goes on and make the most of the month where i am putty in Her hands, so much so that She's sad i'm taking it off... and keen for me to put it on again once i have healed. But whatever happens, i plan to see it through until the weekend before 13th May. It'll be the longest i've gone without a release since i first found out how to masturbate, which is a good 20-25 years ago now.