A question regarding mental/physical state after time in chastity

Self locked with a remote keyholder, so my experience might vary from others.

After about a week is when my submissive side really starts showing. I question tasks a lot less, become much more prompt in replying or making time for my holder... and looking at a lot more porn. This is also around the time where anal starts appealing to me.

All of these feelings get more intense as the lockup continues.

Physically, at around 2 weeks, I sort of stop viewing the cage as an additional item. It's just... there now. Normal. Right.

Leaking is a constant problem after the first week, but I'm a fairly dry person, so it's less of a problem, and more of an arousal indicator.

 

Very frustrating for the first few weeks and it takes over your mind!
But after a few weeks it settles and now being locked for close to six months I am afraid it is quite boring!

 

Hi, previously I did 3 months before Mistress removed my device.

I found the first 2 wks I was always trying to get hard especially carrying out my oral duties.
For me I found the involuntary attempted erections became less and less.
But I still remained very horney and felt a lot more submissive.

Now I'm going down the road of this been permanent this time.

 

I am locked for long terms, at times I wonder what this is all about. It is then that I really realise that my wife controls my cock. It is then you realise what chastity is all about.

 

Until the lock snaps shut you will never be able to fully understand your fantasies. No one on here can explain the emotions you will immediately feel when locked for the first time and then the emotions of being locked up for 1 day, first over nighter, week, month. Every time my wife/keyholder lets me out for a short period and then locks me back, the same emotions come flooding back as she looks up at me as she closes the lock and says" I'm not sure when I'll want get this back out"

 

My submissiveness comes out almost immediately after being locked even after I've had an orgasm. Because of how much I enjoy chastity, achieving those emotions comes easily plus my mistress is very into me serving her and her attitude is a great help. I've never been locked beyond 2 weeks at a time but I know by that point I'm pretty much fantasizing about doing things with my mistress that I normally wouldn't have thought about doing before.

 

While I might be much different as my circumstances are not the same. I got horny, then depressed ( as I was being ignored on a number of fronts) and then angry. Currently not locked as wife is realizing her attempt at control has exposed a new part of my personality and frankly is afraid( and should be). Its amazing how much a "goddess" becomes human when her "slave" takes back control in a forceful manner. Amazing what canceled credit cards etc can do to wake up the goddess.

 

Once the lock is closed the term begins. Do realistic but challenging terms. Make a list of things to get done (clean windows and screens, perfect laundry, make bed every day, hold the door open for people when in public)
During this time your mind will guide you on when if you have earned removal.
I have after chastity removal had what I know to be "sub drop" just sort of an empty feeling it never lingers long.
Most of my longer terms of 2 weeks have been mostly fantastic. Enjoy the time.

 

To be perfectly honest, for me, I don't need a cage for the first 12 hours after an orgasm. I'm not horny enough to attempt getting off.

About then, if she interacts with me, the more sexual and in control the better, the faster I get into subbie fuzzy land again.

Right now it hasn't been that long, but literally want to crawl to her, lick and kiss her feet, and kneel before her...waiting for her next command. Last night I was able to steal her away for a few minutes of alone time, and spent every second of it with my tongue worshipping her pussy and ass. And I actually got relief being able to serve her. This chastity thing is weird lol.

 

My normal orgasm denial time is between 1-3 months and been doing this for more than 3 years. The way I feel is like I feel right before an orgasm. At times waves of pleasure sweep through my body. I start to get an erection just looking a cleavage. Anything arouses me and I start to annoy my wife with too much attention. I look for any excuse to touch her. I massage her feet almost every night and bought a professional massage table so I can give her a full body massage (which I learned how to do) with a happy ending.

For a new comer you are going to want to cum very bad. Your hormones build up over a two week period and they are designed to get you to mate so you will be feeling their effect until you orgasm. Chastity is more of a mental game than physical. You have to want to not cum to overcome the desire to do so.

You do not say if you are self locking or not. If you do not have a loved one or Mistress to be your keyhold it is a totally different experience. What gets me through the tough times is knowing that I am pleasing my wife. If I did not have that, I would just unlock myself and jerk off. Knowing that I have submitted control of my orgasms to someone I love makes it a wonderful experience and allows me to endure it for as long as my wife wishes.

There is also the added element of being teased and denied by your lover and making sex only about her pleasure. Usually after a good edging and teasing session I feel like I do after an orgasm and I am calmer for the next few days. When I get so horny that I start thinking about how to make myself cum when locked up, and I can, I just remember that I am going to get a nice teasing session in a few days and I do not want to ruin that. I have grown to love the anticipation of an orgasm more than the orgasm itself. When given a choice to be edged over and over again for an hour or having a 10 second orgasm. I choose the edging all the time.

I personally do not understand how it feels to self lock. I admire those who do because I would not have the self control to do so. However, from years of meeting guys in various chastity/sex forums, the guys who self lock tend to disappear quickly to be never heard from again. The long timers are those who have a Mistress or wife to hold their keys. I imagine realizing that you are controlling your orgasms and not someone else, eliminates the power exchange which is the core of chastity play. You can find women to play this game with. I have found that you rarely find someone into your fetish so best to just find someone who is sexually adventurous and then teach them. I have done this many times in many fetishes and works well for me. I have a knack for getting women to do what I would like them to do. With chastity it was one of the easy ones because you are telling the girl that sex is only for her pleasure and can get it anytime she wants without having to reciprocate. You can take it a step further and also tell them that their desire for intercourse can be satisfied with other men. Not hard to find a girl who can have sex with others and have you at her mercy to do as she wishes and does not even have to have sex with you.

Whichever way you go, always remember that it is a sex game and not real life.

 

I'm typically allowed a release around every 30 days, typically during the week after her period and the longest period of denial has been 62. I constantly drip during the first 10 to 15 days as the hormones build up. I begin to see my g/f as a queen and I would pretty much do any (legal) thing that she would ask of me. The slightest touch or look from her or sexy thing she says and I fill up my tube. After the 3rd week, the feelings start to calm down so my g/f gives me teasing and edging session to get the submissive feelings cranked up again. I can't even describe how good it feels to be brought to the edge a few times and then told to lock back up. I have learned that the 10 seconds of pleasure from an orgasm do not equal the feelings brought on by weeks of denial. It's an interesting feeling that you would have to experience yourself to fully understand. The longer I an denied, the less I want to cum and start all over again.