A question for locked subs

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    We are on the honor system but I’m intrigued about and considering heading in the locked direction.

    I sense that simply being locked has its initial arousal feelings but eventually that is not enough. I hear that the feeling of being owned is extremely important here. So, What types of things do your dommes do to make you crazy while you’re locked and what do they do to make you feel owned.?
     
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    I simple if she sends me a text once in awhile with reference to the cage. Or if I go down on her I'm in subspace anything more is icing on the cake.
     
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    The honor system can work and my Miss and I have used it in the past when I've had to be out of my cage for medical reasons. Although our FLR has amped up there is something more powerful about the cage to me. It serves as a constant reminder of what we're doing and my place in our relationship. It does make me feel owned and I find a sort of comfort in having it on. My Miss is not the type that unlocks me to tease me, she likes to keep me locked until she's ready to use me. Between those times the mental torture ensues with her flashing her breasts at me but not allowing me to touch, she'll rub my cage and give me naughty looks and then abruptly stop and continue what she was originally doing. Let's me know that she's been using her vibrator even though I desperately want to be the one that gives her orgasms.

    I've been locked up this entire month other than 4 days when I was on a trip. Last week she texted me to hurry home on my lunch break to have sex with her. I couldn't leave right away and by the time I was able to leave I had received another text from her telling me never mind she'd already used her vibrator and had gotten off 3 times. I rushed home to see if there was still hope, there wasn't. She had just gotten back from walking the dogs and she looked so sexy in her workout clothes. Instead of any play I had to vacuum the house which was what was originally planned for me to do on my lunch. When I was bent down moving a throw rug back in place she stepped up to me and said "good boy" and then pulled my head between her legs for a moment to evily remind me of what I missed out on. She smelled so delicious and that made me even more desperate. That was last week and I'm still waiting lol. These are just a few of the things that make me feel seriously owned. She frustrates me with her subtle teasing and although it drives me crazy I very much love it.
     
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    She has me get fully naked when she has me rub her back while she's fully clothed. When I'm done with my chores or what she's told me to do, I'll sometimes get a slap on the butt or a quick grab of the cage or balls, and be told something like "good job". While we're on the couch watching TV (after I given her foot and leg rubs), she'll rest her feet on my lap and every now and then rub my groin with her foot. After kisses goodnight she'll sometimes gently tickle my penis with her finger between the metal bars on the cage. And finally, pleasuring her. Nothing makes me feel owned more than getting to lick or to orgasm or watch her masturbate will I'm locked and not allowed any physical pleasure myself.
     
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    Feels around my cage to make sure its secure.
     
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    Loving yet condescending comments. a sexy meme via test every now and then. Also using the intimite principle of simmering.
     
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    The chastity and denial make me feel owned really. It is largely on the honour system as we don't live together, although we see each other fairly often. She is a sadist, so most of what we do is in that direction. She's also queer, and while she loves me, and S&M related stuff with me, she isn't into dick sexually, and the last few years have been more about me learning to serve and give pleasure, without either of us acknowledging the locked parts as sexual.

    What she loves to do that drives me really crazy, is to be really really mean to my nipples, knowing that they are hard wired to my locked up parts. I can't resist that. She's in her sadistic element, I'm in equal parts pain and pleasure....She looks me right in the eye till I beg for mercy and no matter what...I end up hard in my cage. She either just tells me how I still have my disgusting man habits and ignores it, or occasionally, gets out the evil toys and works it over till it stops trying to get hard.
     
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    She very often after work comes home and just grabs the belt in the front and asks
    if Her property is comfortable. Then She smiles gives a tug and on Her why to change.
    She always has something to say to remind me, not that She has to.:+1:
     
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    Chasity has been a Journey for my KH and I, not a destination. My true submission of my favorite body part took 2 years. It went through many stages and evolutions. I have seen lots of variation on CM based on the couple and thier kinks. So no path is the same.

    For the man, being locked is a complete mental game. Some can do it, I think many can’t. As there are still ways to find pleasure after 3-4 weeks. In the beginning the arosal is offset by discomfort /trial and error finding a cage/size that works. There are also some things to consider about how quickly he transitions to submission vs how frequently you give him a release. In my case it takes me a month to find my submission and for her to enjoy the powerful benifits of chastity.

    Teasing is easy, it is all the dynamic elements of having a locked body part that separate fetish from lifestyle. If you are thinking about locking, consider what you really want as boners are a dime a dozen...

    Happy trails...
     
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    We are about 2 years in, in terms of my keyholder and I. With my wife, like many guys here, we have been doing it off and on for about 15 years, maybe more, but never really hardcore or long term. My keyholder and I started out with restricting masturbation, and added me being locked during kink time together so she didn't have to deal with dick. The more restricted, and locked, the more submissive I got, and the more she liked it.

    I get an orgasm-less release about every 4-10 weeks or so. Generally it takes me 2-3 days to get the headspace back. Less if I've managed to suppress the full orgasm. The OP's question of ownership, and feeling that for us, has to do with the level of commitment involved in the chastity. For us, it builds on the Tantric stuff that my wife and I have been experimenting with for decades. The chastity is not to create a heightened state of arousal, but rather to create a state where the penis is just a thing for peeing through, and relief comes from giving pleasure, in the case of my wife, or receiving pain, in the case of my keyholder (massages and such being pleasure, but not orgasm, where the tantric concept of the male "sharing" the orgasm of the woman comes in.).

    To surrender that part of yourself, to make yourself the ideal partner for a person or persons, is the sense of ownership. As was mentioned, it's a complete mental game, and really not easy at all. The key comes from embracing a different way of experiencing intimacy, and being locked as a symbol of that commitment. It's a day by day thing for sure!!
     
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    The sense of being owned is all. There is nothing else required. Just devotion
     
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    My wife/owner has me please her a few times a week while being caged with no release. I only get a release once evey 7 to 10 days. By pleasing her i mean. Giving her oral and using toys
    Ass worship for about a hour.
    Cleaning the house while being cuffed and chained.
    Do all the cooking while nude and clean up after.
    She has total coffee service.
    Give her a shower in the shower with her.
    I give her pettycures and do her nails.
    All of this and more.
    Of course the usual. Paddling. Light croping( unless im been bad).
     
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    My wife locked me 3 years ago and I only get released about every 4 months. 3 months ago she put me in a custom made cage with a PA hook for my new piercing so I can’t pull out now.

    Her favorite way of teasing me is to make me apply numbing cream and wear condoms before we have sex. She also makes me take a Viagra which I don’t need but keeps me hard for hours afterwards. She likes this because I can go forever while I enthusiastically thrust into her as fast and as deep as I can trying to reach an orgasm that I will never achieve.

    After my selfish wife has her orgasms she lets me know it’s time for me to stop trying. She then requires a full body massage which I am happy to give her. The more time I can spend with my hands on her naked body the better. Even before the Viagra fully wears off she will forcefully cram me back into my cage.

    While I am away on business trips she will text me at bedtime to let me know she will be masturbating with her toys in bed before she goes to sleep. Usually about an hour later she will text me and tell how many orgasms she had. On special occasions she will video her session and send it to me. I don’t get much sleep on these occasions because I stay up watching her video over and over again while I am straining in my cage.

    When she masturbates in front of me she has me kneel on the floor beside the bed and watch her like a little puppy waiting for their master. She sometimes makes me stand or sit in a chair that’s on the opposite side of the room where I can hear her moaning and her toys vibrating but can only see the outline of her body thrashing around on the bed.
     
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    heaven, absolute heaven.
     
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    My girlfriend will rub my balls at night or let me play with her breast. She can talk so sensual that i would end up doing anything for her. I love her so much that i have complete confidence and trust in her i said im completely willing to be locked when her cock is not needed
     
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    Thank you all. Please keep them coming you are helping me a lot with this and I love the details.
     
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    Great ideas, thank you. As an update I made my first purchase for a cage last night. We shall see how this one works out but for now he is excited but also scared about what he may have started. ☺️
     
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    What did you get? Have you locked it on him yet?
     
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    It’s a stainless steel ring cage with insertable spikes and a hidden lock. I came upon a link in here about a few cheaper websites and found on off there. (DHgate). Hopefully it will be fine even though it’s chesper but if not it didn’t cost too much to break me.
     
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