A lot shaken. A little nervous.

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    I am a man that was in a bad relationship. She was a good woman, we just weren't a good fit... I was looking for attention... Sexual at first, then any. Then I discovered chastity and decided to see if embracing a less sexual more controlled lifestyle paying non sexual attention would help... It didn't...

    I wanted to pay attention to her and me getting off became less important. It was interesting. I embraced chastity all on the honor system. I actually stopped masturbating. I did buy two devices but didn't wear them often. I got healthy hobbies and became a better more reliable parent and partner... I became accountable...

    She wasn't really interested... Our sex life was gone. She would drink herself to sleep every night, and didn't know or care if I was even sleeping in the same bed as her...

    It became maddening... Several tragic losses of family members happened in a row and the stress got to me...

    I pulled the trigger... Dovorce... I packed up and left. I cared about her very much, but needed to learn how to care for myself.

    The stress was so bad I couldn't even function sexually... I threw out my devices...

    Now I find myself in a new relationship... I am rediscovering my sexuality... Her sex drive is way higher than mine... I can't keep up... And the scarry part is that I still fantasize about chastity...

    I mentioned it to her in the beginning, and she said that sounds fun... But it was at a time when I was sexually broken... If I brought it up again it she would do it... All the way without question... With an evil grin on her face...

    I think before I was scared that my ex would lock me up and forget about me... This time I think my girlfriend would lock me up and pay attention to me...

    Sigh... I think about buying another device and seeing what happens... Or I could just keep going without one... Living the dream in reality and the fantasy in my head...
     
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    I think you have an opportunity that not a lot of guys get. You have a woman willing to try a kink with you. Bravo. Get a cage. Talk about parameters together. Tell her you used to enjoy chastity fantasies and aren’t sure if it’s still something you want to do but would like to try it out together. If you both love it......, fantastic. If you don’t, you’re only out a couple hundred bucks for the high quality cage you should buy. Not terrible. (And for gods sake don’t throw it out this time. You never know when the chastity bug might bite you again. )
    I’m happy for you that you got out of a toxic relationship. One that you did everything you could to fix. A lot of guys would have gone down with that sinking ship but you broke free. Time to have some fun.
     
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    Have her help you pick a cage that will add ownership, and may peak interest so she will do research and have some understanding
     
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    Well if you are thinking about it and it sounds like you are, and she is at least willing, which you indicate she is, try it out. Do like jvabox suggests. Talk with her, she if wants to help find one to play with. Who knows what might happen. Better to know now than have regrets later.
     
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    perfectly put!
     
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    Such a good idea! Have a little fun browsing at potential cage purchases together over a glass of wine. If she’s truly of a similar mindset it’ll only add to the sense of ownership... and if she sees a particular cage and says that she thinks it’s too big for you then you’ve hit the jackpot :lockkey:
     
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    I think @Locked Sam nailed it. Bring it up, then go slow. You have a lot to sort out and a new relationship. Glad you are on a positive path forward!
     
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    Lots of good advice here. Just talk it through. Good luck
     
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