So anyone that follows me or reads my posts knows I have a very up and down FLR and chastity relationship with my wife and Mistress. I am trying hard to take a more thoughtful and cautious approach this time around. One of the things in the past that troubled me was her lack of enforcement of her rules and expectations. If she expects the bed to be made every day, there should be consequences when it isn't. What those consequences are can be her choice, but if nothing happens when I fail to meet expectations, then I get frustrated. I get frustrated because I end up feeling like I'm doing it because I want to. That she is humoring me by allowing me to serve her as opposed to reveling in her control over me and forcing me to serve her. As in past times I have noticed this trend of not really caring when something is missed and I've tried to take a more measured approach. I'm thinking of it as the 80% rule. If I'm actually fulfilling 80% of her expectations she's pretty happy with that. She may on occasion do or say something about the 20% I missed or messed up on. She won't go medieval on me for it though. I think this is a fairer and more realistic version of FLR for us. I don't think I'm capable of meeting 100% of expectations and I think it would be exhausting for her to enforce that. To be clear I am not trying to use this to slack off. My goal is to meet 100% of her expectations and I hope she feels free to enforce discipline as she see's fit. I'm just lowering the bar on expectations for each of us in the hopes it smooths some of the wild vacillation we've experienced. What about the rest of you? Is it all or nothing? Or do you have some percentage you live with? A grey area if you will.