I was listening to a podcast (all the sex) when the guest (Marcelo) said that even in a full BDSM living arrangement, sex is 90-95% Vanilla. That's like doing a scene every other weekend. It made me wonder how that relates to practicing chastity. So, open questions to everyone. Answer any number you like: 1. Do you view your time locked in a cage as a scene? 2. About how much sex when not locked up is typically Vanilla?
1: Probably is a scene as we are members of and post on CM. I don't think chastity is vanilla anyway. It's extreme not being allowed to cum. When I say this I'm trying to think about the time before I ever practised chastity. If someone had said to me 10 years ago: I predict that in the future you will be in a relationship in which your sexual needs will be tightly controlled etc just like a community of certain other men with whom you will communicate. I would have thought no way am I getting into that scene. I like sex too much! And yet here I am.
I'm not sure wearing a chastity cage by itself is a 'scene.' Being locked, unlocked and being teased while wearing could be a scene. We wouldn't say a sub wearing a collar 24/7 is a scene. Chastity is more of a lifestyle, where most of the time you do vanilla everyday things like going to work and doing chores.
Being locked in chastity frequently for extended periods of time is a lifestyle choice, not a scene I think. Scenes are specific scenarios in which we take time to live or enact a particular kink or fantasy which have a clear beginning and ending time. Chastity is a lifestyle for us, scenes are moments where we agree specifically to have a BDSM session for fun or punishment. Having a BDSM lifestyle may account for 'living in the scene' but it does not mean all day and every day is a scene/or a scene is had.