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30 days on, 3 days off

Discussion in 'The Tower' started by Mistress Lucy, Jul 18, 2017.

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    I've started a new system with my online slave. He wears his device non stop for 30 days, then gets 3 days off before he has to lock it back up again. He is free to do what he likes in that time.

    This month he is doing an extra day as he had to remove the device for 1 day for a hospital appointment.

    I must be going soft in my old age, I might lose my cruel reputation :)

    Do you think 3 days off a month is a fair time?
     
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    My sub doesn't get it.

    But IMO all relationships vary. All depends what you want and/or agree with him.If it works for you, then it ain't broke so don't fix it.
     
  3. @Joroincharge@Joroincharge just being nosy...
    when did you last allow your sub to have a satisfying big O?
    curtsey
     
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    Can't remember I ever did. Ever.
     
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  5. Gulp!
    *Backs away slowly*
     
  6. I think it is very generous. After my orgasm I have to lock back up right away. We tried it your way but ran into two problems. The first was the when I locked up again, it was not as comfortable as it was before. My skin seems to become more sensitive. The other problem was that given 3 days I could cram in 10 orgasms and then when locked up again, it takes longer to get back into the old routine. Once I get used to frequent orgasms it is back to square one. I flose all the discipline of orgsm denail and I am not so keen on being locked up again.

    Try it. That is what we have done for the last few years. We try, talk and adjust. Everyone is different. Like in BDSM I never liked to get locked up. I wanted to mentally control myself to stay put. Others love the feeling of being tied and pulling on their bonds to try to get away. You just need to try and find out what works for you. I think over time your chastity boy may not want 3 days to free range because it makes it more difficult to get back in the saddle again. Have fun.
     
  7. It is way more than I get! I get a few hours at the most but that is usually about once a week at the weekend, though sometimes if we are too busy every other week. And I'm still not allowed to do anything to myself, I'm very definitely on the honor method for that time.

    But I'm firmly of the position that the way we do this chastity thing is highly individual and there is no right way. If it was me in charge I would vary the time so there was no expectation of release. Sometimes release would come after two weeks, sometimes six. Sometimes it would be for a few hours, sometimes for a few days.

    But I'm not in charge and never will be!
     
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  9. How are the keys secured may I ask?
    Cronovault?

    Kind Regards,
    Chastiff
     
  10. seems generous
     
  11. Î read on a French site about a couple in which the man was caged every month from 1st to 28th. Free thé Xtra days. .. of course february, no release.
    Personnaly, Î dont like automaticity. Î would prefer, if Î had KH , to never know where an when the release will happen
     
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  12. It's generous but good to have something to look forward to. From time to time you can extend just to keep him guessing if you like.

    I sure your well earned reputation is very safe.
     
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  13. I wouldn't allow for release when unlocked. If there was a need for your slave to need an orgasm (like they are going to have sex with someone else that doesn't know about being denied) then they don't get the 3 days off next time. Something like that would be a fair trade off IMO.
     
  14. Maybe institute a "at minimum" I like not knowing when it will be. At minimum you will be aloud out "2 days a month" but at your discretion, and can be taken away... There is something great about not knowing when
     
  15. I think you are being very nice with your sub/s when u let them out every month and even for 3 days :p I would have though u might stretch the time for lockdown longer and let them have less free time after a cetain amount of time :p
     
  16. I find it very interesting and generous.
    In my opinion only one day out of the device would be better to make the sub have as many orgasms as he wants before beeing locked again.
    And perhaps introducing some ramdomness if he gets out at the end of each month and maybe the ways in which he can orgasm.
    For example tossing a coin coming out or a dice on how he gets orgasms and by whom.
     
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    Well he recently completed 602 days locked without a break, so he has earnt my generosity :)
     
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  18. 602 days locked!!!
    Setting appart emergencies,health,etc. was it locked,locked ,locked !?!?
    Didn't you take him out regularly for teasing?
    No break means no orgasm?
    Now I begin understanding about the "cruel reputation" ! Lol
     
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    He was allowed to remove it for hospital appointments. No release or teasing.
     
  20. No teasing.... even caged? I think if I spend almost two years in cage with no release, but more important no teasing, no periods where I crave for sex, I'll just have no more sex drive and will not care about being caged or not!
    If it is about edging, maybe I could bare no edging if I'm teased regularly!
     
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    No teasing! I have better things to do with my time.
     
  22. You're too strong for my humble weak will dear Mistress Lucy! I need stimulation! or my sex drive will fade!
     
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    I like boys with a strong will, a strong will to please me which overrides their sexual needs.
     
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  24. I think that for your slaves, just to serve you is a thrill and somewhat of a tease! Just seeing you fuel their sex drive.
    I mean if I stay locked and out of any sexual arousal for ages, deprived from women, men, sex toys or sex related things, my libido could go down.

    For a lot of people, sexuality end by lack of activity. So many straight old couples stopped having sex progressively until there is nothing left.

    For others, sexuality can last forever. Even if I know people for which chastity play is a way to hide the evidence of impotency. But what's the matter as long as everybody have fun! :)
     
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    So what if your libido goes down?