3 years ago, I had my last orgasm by my own hand.

You’re 100% on target.
My dream was endless fucking and getting my cock used a lot. She let me live that fantasy in 2015. I felt like a porn god. But she eventually took over and got what she wanted. Earlier I was a pushy sub asking for BDSM scenes. I wasn’t submitting them. I was a “do me” sub and always judging.

She’s encouraged me to surrender and give up expectations. It made my submission real.

And for you, Tom, your wife is embracing your silicone cock. She enjoys it and is getting what she wants. It’s so satisfying to see her (and my wife) pleased, self-assured, comfortable, if not ecstatic, to live a stable, sustainable relationship with intimacy and get sex on-their-terms.

You get so much more attention and “sex” by giving up pleasing your penis. Yes. It is denial of penile pleasure. But you gain so much from the denial.

I think of it as control and power. You’re denied erections and touch. You’re denied some fantasies as well. But you’re living in a very real relationship that she enjoys. Ms Rika spoke on this: submission and gifts.

Why would you want to change anything?