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    In the last summer my Wife / KH and me discussed an idea of keeping me full year without orgasm. Originally my Wife planned to start the denial period from September, but because of some circumstances we postponed it. Last Friday my Wife came back to the idea. She asked me what I feel thinking about it. ‘Submissiveness’ was my answer. ‘Good’, she said and asked: ‘Will you bear it?’. ‘Do I have a choice?’ I answered. She smiled and told me that we will start this year, but she will decide when exactly.

    It excites me but I am also a little bit scared. Till now the longest period without orgasm lasted something like 5 or 6 weeks. I have no idea how I will feel after several months. I am locked, my Wife unlocks me only for cleaning reasons, some sport activities and for sex. I am regularly teased and edged by my Wife - she still prefers having PIV sex. I think it would be easier to have no teasing at all and keep it locked all the time, but my Wife is not interested in resigning PIV sex. To be clear: my Wife’s understanding of orgasm denial is no kind of orgasm at all (neither full nor ruined).

    I would be grateful to more experienced guys who already took such a challenge for any suggestions and pieces of advice. Is it much more difficult to keep it several months than several weeks or the level of frustration is similar just longer? What should I take into account? Was anything that surprised you?
     
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    I am only weeks ahead of you . As of Dec. 20, 2020 I have been told my next orgasm will be in January 2022. (about 13 months total)

    So I share your apprehension. This storm cloud is different this time.
     
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    Hi I have been locked since December 30 2019 with no orgasm at all at the beginning it was tough but now it's just like any other day. You will go through cycles of getting hard for a few days then nothing for the rest of the month. You may happen to follow your wife's cycles but who knows. But have fun with it. Don't make it harder ( no pun intended ) than it needs to be..
     
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    Thank you very much for reply.
    Do you still have PIV sex or are you teased in another way?
     
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    I have not been let out of my cage since I was put in it. I haven't had piv in over 8 years now. The only teasing I get is watching some porno.
     
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    I see. Then it might be slightly easier to forget sexual desire. My Wife loves sex I regularly please her.
     
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    I would like to ask you, if your nickname is "cuckslave", are you allowed inside of your wife? Is that usual or unusual? Or is the nickname more aspirational?
     
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    Yes, as I wrote, I am allowed to have PIV sex with my Wife. She actually used to cuck me in the past, but now she does not.
     
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    I'd guess purely from a physical side of things, having pic is going to be difficult. Having gone a long period without orgasm, I would guess during piv the urge to do so might be quick, sudden and strong. Maybe think about numbing cream or the like to deaden sensations. Good luck.
     
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    I DON'T KNOW HOW YOU GUYS DO THIS . I KNOW IT'S FUN TO THINK ABOUT , AND MAYBE FOR MANY OF YOU IT'S THE BEST TO BE KEPT THAT LONG. I could never stay locked for a year. My wife an i played with chastity for years. The longest i was ever locked was 5 months . for one thing once it was on it stayed on . I was never let out. Not to clean, or tease or milk. Never. Also my lady loved
    to punish me and push my body and see how much i could take . This was always sexual in some
    way or another. she knew i loved this , and she loved doing it . Many times it would be so extreme
    i would cum in the device and i would no longer want to keep it on . But mostly she just really enjoyed sex. ( with me ) I think it's the main reason i married HER. I loved all kinds of sex and wanted a wife that did as well. We didn't have kids or living parents , We got married because we
    really loved being together . For us chastity was more of a sex toy or discipline game. i was never allowed to remove it at the gym. When first married we had a time share in cozumel mexico. One
    side of the beach was all clothing optional . She loved to make me wear my small chastity under
    a tight thong. this also worked for the topless area on cruise ships. We also tried this at a nude
    beach. but for some reason the idea of total nudity never worked for me. I have now been alone for the past 2 years. I still enjoy chastity and stay locked 24/7 3 to 4 weeks at a time in a nub or very small steel. I have a lady that does massage and keeps my keys for me . After a massage ,
    she will unlock me for a shower , and relock me after and keep the keys to insure i return for
    another massage . Now that i am older i have been thinking about a more long term thing.

    steel
     
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    For a guy that thinks a year is a long time......you've already been halfway there! Sounds like fun.
     
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    I am in day 118 of a 122 day caging, I went 94 days without an orgasm. My caging extension was decided by my wife and to extend the original 90 days, she offered me a caged orgasm. Since then I had 2 more caged orgasms, but remained locked the entire time. The orgasms were completed with a hitachi wand, no oral or hands on the cage.

    I will be locked and unlocked for PIV or anything else my wife desires, but will be re-locked on 2/17 for the beginning of Lent. Right now the unlocking is scheduled for Easter to complete the full 40 days, but she is talking about extending the time to 60 days.

    We are actively discussing going for a 6 month lockup beginning in September and lasting thru Easter 2022. There will be 2 caged orgasms provided to me, one on Christmas tandem the other on New Years Eve. The downside is I will again miss one on my birthday which was normally PIV. Not too worry about her, she will still ride the strap on she will make me wear or one worn by he GF. I will also get to experience the receiving end of the strap on, but will not have her hands or mouth on my caged cock.

    I think she is toying with a full year, but she does enjoy PIV. She will not take on another male, she feels another man is wrong but enjoys her GF. I wouldn’t mind watching her with another guy, but our swinging days are long behind us. I know some people will say getting caged orgasms is cheating, but not being able of having another human hand touching my cock is still a struggle.

    whatever you chose I wish you the best of luck, just be ready.
     
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    I am currently locked 3 weeks + one day.
    My longest run ever was 7 weeks, 24/7.

    my new cage fits very well, I am not let out for cleaning or whatever because that’s not necessary.

    I asked my Prinsess how long she thinks we are going for this time. She says after summer, and after that she said at least september...
    I guess I am getting what I asked for. I am already horny as hell, but the cage fits that good that I don’t feel it anymore during the day. My body seems to be accepting its new “normal”.
    I am used to wearing swim thongs in the summer, I wonder how that will go caged
     
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    I have a love/hate relationship with caged orgasms via her Hitachi. They feel really good, but they're strong enough that they cause some drop and refractory period, albeit less and shorter than full ejaculation; they can also be an extraordinary tease when she just goes part way. But when she takes them to completion they also reinforce the loss of permission to become erect and ejaculate like a man, and make me feel really submissive. Whether they "count " or not or whether they're "cheating " or not is up to your keyholder. For us, it's up to her, I'm just not allowed to masturbate by giving them to myself.
     
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    If she's up for it, then don't stop her.
    No point really in asking others how it will feel, we're all different and we have as little idea as you have about exactly how much teasing or simple denial she will give you, or how it will feel for you.

    I have many times gone for between three and four months without an orgasm, often without being unlocked at all in that time, we seem to have got into that rhytem, but she will often unlock me on a birthday, Christmas, or it's around that time that she just simply wants proper PIV again more than she wants to deny me.

    My experience while I'm locked is only of continual 24/7 lockup and denial, my steel cage lets me keep clean without unlocking and ruined orgasms just aren't on the menu for me.
    It is difficult to explain how "long term" feels, as sometimes just a month after having had an orgasm it feels like it's been years, but other times after having been locked up for three months I feel no desire at all and just want to continue being denied.
    Even when I feel randy and frustrated, I feel the most disappointed when I'm nearing the four month mark and she just has to unlock me for PIV. That I can tell you has been the most surprising and unexpected feeling I've had.
     
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    VERY nicely summarized. Thank you.
     
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    What @bondinchas said, I've had the feelings and experiences, ranging from wanting out early to being disappointed she let me out even for piv....
     
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    Ms Val And Sir have me locked and sealed for Another year. The last time I had a regular orgasm was over 3 years ago.
    I only am allowed 6 prostate massages a year now.
    Sir reminds me that He and Ms Val have orgasms almost every day.
     

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    Well today I celebrated one month caged and fully denied. It doesn’t need to come off for cleaning.

    I’m not quite sure how long I’ll be locked but I’m not expecting anything less than 6 months and that includes total denial
     
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    After 6 months it will be like any other day
     
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    It gets far easier once you mentally KNOW that you are not going to orgasm when you are being intimate. Maybe it would help you both if you used Uber Numb under a condom for 20 minutes before playing. If she doesn’t like the condom, take it off after 20 minutes and wash it off with soap. You won’t be cumming no matter what and it’s a good way to mentally adjust to that fact. She can even let you try to get yourself off and will probably be amused by your frantic frustration until you give up.
     
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    Jessica, this is excellent advice and comforting. As I grow more and more to realize that I am simply not going to be cumming, that aspect gets much easier. Still an emotional roller coaster, but easier.

    I am finding the more difficult part is the physical locking. I don't think I'll ever become a "24/7/365" wearer.
     
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    I agree!
     
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    Ah, Laz, but you will! If you're not cumming this year why do you need, and why would she permit erections, except to remind you of what you used to have?
     
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    To be sure you are correct about the erections. I am referring to the ability to avoid chafing and the like. Someday I'll find that "wear it forever" device........
     
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