We've had a lot of good talks and reflections on how what we take as "normal" changes over time. And over time when we look at where we were, as...
:pWhen it gets to long term comfort becomes very important, from a comfortable device to what you may or may not wear over it. There are a lot of...
Depends on how you define a treat. At one time a "treat" and orgasm were synonymous and there were rewards at times for favorable behavior. Over...
We've never gotten into using "serving"--I'm submissive, she's dominant. Whether within or external to the lifestyle everything is discussed and...
Over time I'd be hard pressed to come up with a good estimate but looking back (from when we first started getting "serious" about the change in...
What words are taken to mean or connote can make interpretation difficult among areas of a country let alone when talking with someone from other...
Great post! There are a lot of changes along the way. Some almost jump out and hit you others--my opinion the best kinds--are those that sneak...
Before I got up the nerve to begin exploring some things with a professional dominant--way back when--I'd read a lot, fantasized a lot and watched...
As our marriage evolved from "play" or "spice" to very much more a lifestyle our love and respect for each other hasn't done anything but grown....
Repeating others (and myself) it's not always the easiest thing to do but communication is key. The internet and this site in particular for...
Like everything else in life the best laid plans and intentions can always take a turn in a surprising and unexpected direction particularly if...
It's a recurring question and always interesting to see different preferences. The shopping options we have through the wonders of the internet...
A gentleman first vanilla or not. Excellent point that too often shows many males "think with the wrong head."
I can't remember when I first read about "breaking" a man but the word we've used (and still do) is "molding." Same general idea but fits more...
We like to use the word "synergy" where the combined is well beyond the sum of the parts. Agreeing with what several have said it will depend on...
A long time lifestyle couple became good friends and mentors along the way. As open as we liked to believe we were it still made for some awkward...
Falling back on "it's a journey not a destination" (and my/our experiences through the years) using an approach of a goal before beginning a...
Not doing a good job practicing what I preach--analyzing and quibbling over words too much BUT--when it comes to the household in general it's'...
It's still pretty amazing when we look back even at where we were a year ago let alone over 3 years ago (when the transition from play or spice to...
As the dynamic of our relationship progressed the honor system became a part of how things worked. Not that I consider myself that old but at my...