Things you never imagined doing?

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    What are some things you have tried and/or enjoy doing now that you previously thought you would have never considered?
    For me ( and my Goddess @n2toys ).

    • Sounding - I now love it; both traditional along w/ electrified w/ an e-stim unit and vibrating sounds.
    • Pegging - maybe deep down I wanted but afraid to bring up; now I'm constantly begging to please 'Fuck me'
    • Nipple clamps - I now CRAVE to have my nipples tortured; clover clamps are now a minimum and enjoy being pushed by pulling on the clovers to increase pressure along w/ hemostats clamped on and elastrator bands for more intense sessions, even now using e-stim on my nipples (NOTE: bi-polar w/ 100% dedicated channels for safe above the waist play).
    • Intense CBT - specifically a parachute w/ spikes; I never thought there would be a chance on hell I'd want this done to me, came across a spiked parachute that even had an additional disc that would be pulled up against the pulls in an opposing direction - saw this and had a feeling of wanting to try; we bought it and used once so far - wonderfully intense, can't wait to try again.
    • Cunnilingus, at least to the degree now - It's amazing how much I CRAVE to serve, taste and smell my Goddess. On top of this I'm constantly huffing my Goddess' scent when we hug, no matter where we are.
    • Kink to this degree - Kink has always been a fantasy but never thought I'd be blessed enough to live this life-style to this degree. I LOVE my Goddess for embracing this lifestyle with me.
    • For my Goddess: I had been curious about a sensory deprivation hood but She was always against as She thought it was too weird - while speaking one night She was open to consider and we bought a nice one; upon arriving She put it on me during the afternoon just to test fit; She immediately starting getting VERY wet while lacing it on - We BOTH now love it quite a bit.
    • Long-Term denial - Initially thought this would be an added occasional kinky play aspect and nothing long term; it's pretty been 24/7 lock-down regarding wearing the cage from the beginning and relatively quickly evolved into long-term denial - I'm now 1 year & 9 months since I was given / allowed an intentional orgasm; I have had about 4-5 accidental 'taste' of a real orgasm over this time-frame when I went to far over the edge during an edging or ruined-o session.
    I'm sure there are others I'm forgetting - What are some thoughts from other folks here?

    NOTE: Link below for the spiked parachute we just got FWIW that prompted me to think if this thread.
    https://www.etsy.com/listing/165968...f=sr_gallery-1-3&organic_search_click=1&pro=1
     
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    A few things changed for me too.

    *I used to think I was a switch, turned out I am a true dominant by heart. My husband guessed right when he thought I would become a full fledged dominant when given the space to be. Two years in I love being a domme and don't want to go back. And through my dominance, my once switch husband is now finding himself becoming more subby by the day too.

    * I love being in control of my sexuality, I used to be a sub or at least very pleasing oriented partner and now I can just deny or allow acces to my body whenever I feel like it. I don't ever do 'duty sex' anymore and it feels incredibly liberating. I even sometimes play with myself and let my sub watch, or even tell him later because he loves it when I enjoy my body. This has been revolutionary, I have never played with myself before in any relationship. It definitely strenghtens the D/s dynamic.

    * I have found out that I have a fetish for pet play, I really enjoy it when my sub completely depends on me and gets really cuddly. I used to laugh at 'furries' but it really fits our style of soft SM. I'm really into it.

    * I didn't think we'd ever take the kink out of the bedroom, but slowly it is seeping into our entire lifestyle. I decide a lot of things, and my husband makes them happen. We do have a democracy here, but I am president and he's vice president. We're both liking the D/s seeping out of the bedroom, so we're slowly easing into 24/7 play.
     
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    Wow
    I’ve always been sexually submissive. So I’ve always loved pleasing women. I was also very homophobic. So anything involving guys Was a hard no.

    But things involve. So I now crave MMF Threesomes, as well as servicing other men. And I really enjoy being pegged or used by a man.
     
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    @CZSteve how tight is that parachute. I have rather large balls/sac and the last one I bought would not even snap shut. Hopefully this is bigger!
     
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    For me definitely pegging and anal play, I always knew I was submissive sex wise and enjoyed bondage etc but never imagined I’d enjoy pegging etc as it seemed too extreme.

    And lately dressing up in female clothing, it was certainly nothing I’d ever really bothered with or was interested in really but now I kind of enjoy it, though more as a way to please my mistress, still I find it fun lol
     
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    The only surprise for me at this point, I think, is 24x7 chastity with long-term denial. My largely vanilla wife is gradually experimenting a bit more, trying to indulge my desires a bit (but all at her own pace, I'm the sub so don't push her), but hasn't gone anywhere with me yet that I haven't wanted since I was young. I have experimented a little bit with self-sounding, which is a new frontier for me, but so far haven't found it to be much of a turn-on (perhaps if someone else were doing it to me :)
     
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    1. Long time in a chastity(48 days)
    2. Panties as regular underwears
    3. Stockings under pants even at work
    4. Extreme Ball caning
     
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    Not having my own orgasm at front and centre of my desire, locking my cock up in metal, being completely open with my wife about my innermost desires.

    Whilst I have tried to be a "good lover" to my wife and bring her to orgasm, its always been as a way to get to my own. My longest denial period is 15 days, but during that time, there were several sessions dedicated just for her pleasure. She is slowly becoming accustomed to being catered to, rather than catering to me and I am trying to reinforce her confidence through actions.

    Its also not that long ago that the thought of attaching a steel cage to my penis would have completely freaked me out, why would anyone want to do that would have been my instant reaction. Don't knock it till you try it I guess.

    As for being completely open about my desires, we have delved into anal play (on me) including pegging, restraint play for both of us incl spanking with various implements etc,

    So much fun still to be had
     
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    I honestly thought of it as extreme body modification along the lines of implanted spikes.... "Look at me! I'm edgy!"

    It made me laugh more than anything.

    Now I am begging for my wife to keep me and own my junk. Look at me now, lol.
     
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    @iambad

    The first pair of snaps yield a 1-1/4" diameter opening and the second pair of snaps close down to a 1" diameter.
    I'm not sure how I compare RE my sack but by my Goddess was able to snap the first pair of snaps for the larger opening, She had to struggle slightly but not terribly difficult - Note I could feel every manipulation as She was putting it on me but that's part of the fun... She then proceeded to add 8oz lead fishing weights, I think it was the fifth weight that had me seeing stars... especially when she pulled down and also made them swing...
     
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    Six months ago I never would have had these ideas or desires until Chastity took hold:
    -Giving my Wife complete control of my sexual release.
    - Being physically unable to cum unless she gives me permission.
    -Being comfortable wearing a Chasity device.
    -Knowing what a Chasity device is.
    -Closing all my Porn accounts.
    -No longer having any interest in watching Porn.
    -Wanting to shave my arm pits and Her Cock, balls and taint and wanting to keep them that way.
    -Enjoying keeping the house clean.
    -But most importantly of all, not Masterbating every single day and actually being ok with that.

    Wow now that I think about it, I really have grown a lot in such a short amount of time.

    Cool topic, thank you for the introspection.

    Iso.
     
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    I have been into kink as long as I can remember, shiny, skintight clothing has always turned me on, I was into anal play before I lost my virginity, I just never thought I would find someone so perfectly fitted to me to share any of that with,
    But what I never thought I would do is to be locked 24/7, also never thought I would try sounding to, now we both love it, and lastly cuckolding, never in a million years did I imagine it would work out like it did!
     
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    I think the biggest change for me so far has been the length of denial and chastity, and ultimately the loss of control.

    My KH and I are new to our roles as Domme and sub, so it’s been an amazing learning process for both of us.

    My only anal play before I met her was using a finger on myself just to try it. Since we met I have used a variety of plugs and a few dildos and even milked my prostate. We are working towards trying pegging for the first time.

    I’ve also gotten into ballbusting and cbt. Nothing extreme, but I really enjoy it after the fact. Even spiked toys get used to a wondrous effect.

    There are so many things we both agree we want to try eventually as we continue growing in our new roles.
     
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    I feel like I have always been kinky, from early movies I enjoyed the idea of bondage, chastity etc. Since starting Chastity and introducing it to my wife I have bought more female clothing. Up until recently corset and high heels, not to cross dress initially but because they were restrictive and caused me to learn to walk a new way. Then I got into anal play with plugs dildos and a chastity belt with a locking plug. Then the other day I ordered breast forms. Not sure why but recently just wondered what it would feel like to have them hanging from my chest, to feel them wiggle as I move, and to see how they change shape and feeling as I am bending over, walking, laying on my back etc.
     
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    Soon after chastity the following things followed
    1 bought 2 more small cages
    Started wearing panties(have like 10 pairs now)
    Wore fishnets while going out at times under my denims
    Tried anal with my dildo
    Got better at giving oral pleasures
    More attentive to my goddess
     
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    It’s been a few months since she’s done this to me but for a while she was very much into penetrating me and really stretching me out, god I am missing that and hope she gets the itch to do some more of that. I suppose I never imagined her doing it as consistently as she was. But the thing that surprised me most was when she let me take a picture of her in one of her dominatrix outfits with her breasts exposed so she could send the pic to her best friend lol. That was one thing I never imagined her doing :)
     
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    1...Nipple clamps
    2...Wearing a cage
    3...Dry humping my Wife(KH)
    4...Sleeping with my nose in her butt crack
    5...Licking her butt crack
    6...Being whipped with a riding crop
    7...Wearing woman's underwear(Panties)
    8...Being tied to bed
    9...Not being able to masturbate when I want to
    10...Having no control of my sex life
    11...Having my Wife "shock" my penis with our "Dr. Ho's"
    12...There is probably more that I'm forgetting...
     
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    • She is developing and exploring her dominance
    • She loves her control over me
    • She is newly confident about sex and her pleasure
    • She will direct me to attain her pleasure
    • She has punished me for not following her direction
    • She really enjoys teasing and denying me
    • She enjoys toys for the first time, especially the strapon I wear
    • She enjoys my service
    • I am locked in a chastity cage full time
    • I forgo my orgasms in favor of hers, a lot of hers
    • I am disciplined on a regular basis
    Pre FLR and chastity, she didn’t think about or enjoy sex very much. My, how things have changed.
     
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    Too many to list, really, without this getting too long, but here are some of my top ones:
    • Tasks and Domestic Duties: while I was never really a slob before I started dating my Mistress, I loathed most chores. Nowadays I honestly find them to give me a Zen/meditation-like feeling that I adore.
    • Long-Term Denial: enforced chastity and orgasm control always seemed exciting to me and something I'd want to explore as a way to spice things up, or foreplay over the course of a date night or a few days. My Mistress got into it slowly but really got into having me locked up for longer and longer periods. We don't do chastity 24/7 but it's become a near daily activity for us.
    • Bathroom Use Control: It started by having to ask permission to get up and go to the bathroom and honestly seemed rather silly at first, but, hey, if that's something that she wants, so be it. This activity became more prevalent when she started requiring me to wear a butt plug a lot of the time. Oftentimes, I have a butt plug harness locked on as well as a way to reinforce this rule. I find it absolutely humbling and somewhat humiliating, but I've grown to love it.
    • Sitting Down to Pee: I figured I'd really miss the freedom of literally pissing however I wanted when I was given a rule early on to always sit down whether or not I'm caged. It's like a subtle reminder of my submission to her every time I go.
    • Journaling: One of the earliest rules my Mistress assigned to me was to keep a diary of the journey of my training to her slave. I always knew writing a diary is considered to be theraputic and an outlet of sorts but I never really got into it previously. Every week or so, my Mistress and I review my service and this includes sharing my deepest thoughts and aspirations.
    • Ruined Orgasms and Edging: The entire concept seemed scary and downright mean the first time I heard of it. When my Mistress said she was interested in trying out some teasing sessions, I was not a fan of the idea and acted rather pouty and disobedient from all the frustration. And then it dawned on me after a few times when I found myself in a sublime headspace after experiencing a caged blowjob for the first time. There's something intoxicating about seeing her go on an absolute powertrip, even when it brings about a sometimes unpleasant experience for me. Seeing that evil smirk as she has her way with me is better than most releases anyway, in my opinion.
     
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    Just the major ones:
    - Kink (my previous best was some cheap velcro straps)
    - Wearing a cage (never even heard of it before)
    - Not masturbating like clockwork (had that down to a science)
    - Wearing a cage 24/7 with months between full O's (even after starting down this road I said "hell no")
    - Pegging (what a mind#uck)
    - Feeling emotional (turns out I have 'em, especially after all of the above).
    ...and more just about every week.
     
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    Not wanting to masturbate everyday.
     
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    I'm in a long term bdsm relationship with a sadist who's been in the kink scene since the 80's. You don't want to know what we do! :)
     
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    Would have never wanted my penis turned imptent and shrunk.
    Woukd have not wanted to lose the ability to never feel a warm wet pussy with my penis.
    Would not have wanted to never cum again.

    But now those are things I crave and deserve.
     
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    You never know... :cool:
     
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    Over the past five years as our flr has developed we’ve focused on orgasm denial for me, ass worship (now one of her favourite ways to orgasm), face sitting, cum eating, me placed in her underwear, edging myself for her in the shower, cfnm and now finally prolonged periods of chastity.
     
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