I'm 20 years old and have been dating my lovely girlfriend since December 26th 2013. About 4 months ago I told her about my chastity fetish and... well... she was pretty weirded out but supportive because she knew it would make me happy. A few days ago we moved into an apartment and she has been taking some huge steps to a lifestyle I've always been interested in. I asked to be locked up yesterday and she agreed. I asked if my sentence could be extended if I neglected to do little household things like forgetting to unplug my cellphone charger to save energy and she also game me a bashful yes. Then, I asked her how long we should start with me being locked up and she said "well, I already unplugged your charger 3 times so how about 3 days?" My face lit up! I was expecting her to say 1 day or something like that but her response filled me with a giddy sense of excitement! This morning when I woke up I grabbed my phone off the charger but... neglected to unplug the charger from the wall. When she went in the room she pulled it out of the wall and said sternly "four days." Now, as I am writing this im procrastinating on doing my "slave chores" that I must complete to avoid punishment, I'm not sure what she has in mind but I do not intend to find out. I love her so much for taking this step with me. I always read stories like this (although with much more perversion and torture included) and I'm so happy to actually be living it. I had no one else I could really tell about this so I made an account on this site and posted this thread. I wanted to share my overwhelming joy with the world. Thanks for reading
So nice to hear that someone found a match like the two of you have, especially at your ages!! Go at your own paces and just enjoy the journey. Congratulations! !!
Thank you I'm still currently locked and very happy about it! I'm supposed to get out and cum on Saturday night but I'm thinking about asking her if we can wait til January 1st... One whole month. Thats longer than I've ever done. I hope she says yes
I also hope that i please my dear Lady well enough so that she leaves me properly locked for at least what remains from this year. At the moment i really don't feel like wanting an orgasm.
I came home and she was waiting for me completely naked and wanted me to have sex with her. She gave me the keys, I unlocked, and did what she asked and half way through I asked if i could refrain from having an orgasm until New Years Day. She said no and then told me she wanted me to come. I really don't want to push anything on her... but it felt so good to be locked up. I felt level headed and eager to clean the apartment but now, I feel cranky and disappointed. Also every time I get an erection a little voice in the back of my head whispers "touch yourself." while I really DO NOT want to. I have yet to masturbate since we lived here and I really don't ever want to again. Does anyone have any ideas or words of advice? I feel lost in what I thought was becoming the perfect path.
i would say give it time. Seems you just started. Besides when you hand over your control of orgasms to her, then you kinda have to go along with what she wants. You could always go the strap on route and see if she likes that. Also have you talked with her about your desire to masturbate? Have you explained to her you dont want to and that you would prefer to keep your orgasms only for her? She will see the benefits of your chastity but you have to give her time.
We've been playing with chastity off and on for like the past 4 months, and I would love to try the strap on thing but shes pretty shy... She was a virgin when we met a year ago and is pretty skeptical of most sex toys (though she does want me to get her a vibrator.) I have talked to her about my desire to masturbate and she says she would rather me not do it without being locked up. I really hope she sees the benefit of eventually. I try extra hard to make her happy when I'm locked up.
Get her the vibrator so she masturbates while you are locked up. That is what my wife does. I am 43. I have to play with her breasts or do whatever is needed to assist her in her pleasurable orgasm. Meanwhile, I am locked up tightly.
I can see now how @BlueEyes - ( my subby husband ) pulled me a trick in the early days... before I decided to have him permanently denied. He so much exaggerated being grumpy and all, up to a week after I had demanded release. That gently pushed me towards longer and longer denial. I had come to like the level of service and no arguing, so a sudden decline was not acceptable. Well, I "realized" that denial was the only solution, and soon I discovered that the service and submissiveness was ever so increasing, the longer he was hold in denial. Maybe it was cheating a little by him , but I sure will not hold it against him
These were all very helpful thank you! I think I will be buying that vibrator very soon and I've sorta unintentionally been in a grumpy mood since I was unlocked. I suppose we'll see what happens thanks for the advice everyone
Isn't it the weirdest thing? We guys want to have and orgasm but even more than that - we want to be denied. It is the denial that we crave and as a male, I don't understand my own mind. Thankfully, my wife/keyholder knows what is best for me. We have talked a little about locking the screws permanently and filling in the holes on my Lori. It is my ultimate kink....
Perhaps it's because the male orgasm is so fleeting and over in seconds. I would be interested to hear more members thoughts on this.
I don't know, it's weird. I can remember daydreaming as a child, like a nine or ten year old, about being in bondage. It was nothing too sexual, but it did involve being captured by an enemy and strung up on a wall naked in chains. Being forced to excrete while simply hanging there. I had never seen porn and knew nothing of bondage and not too much about sex, yet when I had these daydreams I would always end up getting hard. I guess some of us are just born with a predisposition to get sexually excited in those conditions. Having no control and no idea what's going to happen next.
I would gladly substitute edging (Without Orgasm) for a full regular orgasm. It lasts longer and can be more intense and frustrating at the same time, plus you are just as Horny when finished as you were at the start which means you can go again over and over again. Dianne.
Just be patient, don't push it and pick your timing to discuss it again. I just started chastity play with my wife late last year after a few unsuccessful tries to get her to understand why I wanted this. This is a good site that you might want to direct her too, it worked for us. Its also got lots of matter of fact female friendly guides on various kinks and toys. http://www.tickleberry.co.uk/male-chastity/ My first lock up was for 3 weeks and once released like you I couldn't wait for the next lock up. When I approached my wife about the next lock up she didn't want to discuss it and told me to give it a rest for a while. Like most men the bottom lip came out and I was pissed off as I thought we had begun a new phase in our relationship only to have it taken away after a brief taste. On reflection I didn't pick my timing very well as she was very busy at the time and my negative reaction really put things back and since then we have hardly touched each other. After a relaxing xmas break I picked a much better time and mentioned it again a couple of days ago saying that I would love to try chastity play again and she immediately agreed to a weeks lock up and a release on my birthday next Monday. I am hoping that now she has got over the weirdness 2015 will be a year of mostly being locked. I travel to the US frequently on business and so this naturally limits the amount of time I can spend locked, however with the right timing I hope to extend my longest lock up to around 2 months. I also got her the keyholders guide which I am hoping she will read soon and begin to tease me a bit more. Its a bit repetitive and covers some more kinkier practices, but it does cover the whole tease and denial psychology and techniques pretty well. http://www.amazon.co.uk/KeyHolders-Handbook-Womans-Guide-Chastity/dp/1493595377/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1420455291&sr=8-1&keywords=keyholders guide I am sure that your girlfriends reaction is quite normal especially if like my wife she is pretty vanilla, but as many of the people on here say it will get better with some patience and communication.