So I'm new at this, but am going to try and see how it goes. My goal is to keep myself from releasing for 2 weeks, if I can. Never done it that long, so will see. I can't just lock the key away for 2 weeks because I can't wear the cage at night (otherwise would get caught, and that would be more trouble than it's worth). So I'll wear it during the day (or any nights I'm alone) with the key on a timed lock to keep me from cheating during the day. So lock up in the morning and set the timer for all day. I locked this morning, so this is day one....
So this is the cage I'm using. I filed the 3 sharp points down and bent the ball separator down a little so it's comfortable enough to keep on. In truth, I could get my cock out when flaccid, but there's no way to get my balls out without tools.
Day 2. All of you veterans are probably laughing at this newbie, but ... into day 2 without masturbation. Frustration is obvious. Pressing on to day 3....
Hi, when we first started, I wore it off and on for a few hours, then a day or two. Once I got used to it, the first real lock down was an agreed on two weeks. No asking to get out, no sex, no masturbation. I could take it off for cleaning and shower and put it right back on. I think once you are used to it, do the two week minimum thing and you and your spouse can see the benefits.
One of the disadvantages of being self-locked is having access to the emergency key ... Haven't pulled it out yet, but it's getting harder to stay motivated .... This is only day 5