What is your best way to avoid these, I am REALLY disappointed with my performance yesterday. Restraining the males hands? Ice packs? Training more often? Less often seems to be harder than frequent training? Other ideas. I really appreciate your feedback!
I had an accident after 2 month of denial. I wanted to go even more close to the edge and failed. But since that accident, I never went that far anymore. I had another accident some years ago after about 2 weeks of denial. I just woke up and edged. But I noticed that I'm much more sensitiv after waking up, and get over the edge much easier. So I think the only way is, to just learn it. Every time I had an accident, I just avoided the same situation. No more edging after waking up, not going too close to the edge and so on. So I made it 6 month with permanent edging and no cum, that was the best training, now I can easily edge without accidents
You didn't say if it was from edging, but I'll assume that from the conversation. dereknor is right. You learn from trial and error. When they first try to edge, many boys will either fail and cum, or be too afraid of cumming to get close enough. When my boys are first learning to edge, I'll often give them Edging Practice Days. I usually have a No-Touching Policy, but on Edging Practice Days they are encouraged to edge as much as they can (within reason) for a day, but they have to stop touch when 1) they cum or 2) their time limit is up. This is to allow them to play with finding where the edge is, and with learning how to stay there without going over. They are also playing with themselves without me there (and porn is not allowed - their thoughts should always be on ways that they can please me), so they can focus more on feeling their own reactions without distractions.
And BTW, your hands should be wherever she says they should be! Behind your back, pleasuring her, edging while she watches... that's Her choice. boys' hands wander far too much. That's one of the first things that I usually have to correct. Spend a day Not Touching Her Package except as necessarily (taking care of bodily functions, cleaning, getting dressed, adjusting) and then only do it clinically, like a doctor would. You'll soon realize how often you touch without even thinking.