Having read a number of posts on various sites this week I am hoping that some of you gentlemen would help me help you by answering a question for me? Where do you get your ideas? A few years ago sex and the idea of it being an enjoyable pastime was not something that you would normally hear. Information was passed from Father to Son, Brother to Brother etc. It was a relatively basic procedure which you could expand on with ideas gleaned from magazines, porn movies and chatting with others. Missionary, doggie and 69 were the main contenders for your attention when it came to sexual playtime. Now however it is very different, there is a whole new world of sex toys, websites and mainstream discussion going on about sex and sexuality. This is why I would like to know where you get your ideas? Where do your fantasies come from?
Just trying to find new things that'll bring us pleasure. Asking a "what if". For example, if I'm not mistaken, that's how the whole human ashtray thing started. Dommes were taking a break to smoke and one of them thought "what if I make the slave eat it?". One thing leads to another. Ideas can come from pretty much anything.But it's different on each person. We can both look on a potato, I'll think of fries, you'll think of dirt. Then maybe I'll try to make something new with fries, and you'll work on a plant. We were both looking at the same thing yet we thought of something different. Or. Potato -> dirt -> sub has a foot fetish -> what if i walk barefoot and tell him to lick them clean
When I was in the army in the 80's I spent some time in Germany. Prostitution was legal and monitored. I was a boring type who never actually used their services, definitely a regret. I was having good but very vanilla sex. A friend of mine liked the big black mama's and I know for a fact her idea of sex was very different to my girlfriends, who later became my Wife! I am sure these working girls share ideas and the men who use them are varied in their tastes. As for what fires the neurons that control how we get turned on, who knows. I found a porn mag when I was still at primary school and I can still remember one of the pictures of one woman licking another woman's pussy. I can honestly say that image stuck in my head and the very first time I got a girl naked I dived on her pussy to lick it and boy, it was every bit as good, no, better, than my imagination. Now my ideas come from things people write here, tumblr, tv, porn films, all over.
Well I would think that Ideas for fantasy and sex go back to the beginnings of humanity. As far as my ideas about females and sexual desires started when I discovered one of my dad's Playboy magazines. From there the hormones took over and as they say the skies the limit. Now with the advent of the internet, more info than ever on what ever you are curious about is available with just the tap of a key. Ideas are everywhere.
A few things. At an early age the 2 best soccer players in our street were 2 tom-boy sisters. A girl who lived a few streets away was infamous for beating up boys in fights. She was in my year in school and was a friend. My mum had a friend whose daughter had been repeatedly been in trouble in school for beating up boys too. On TV my mum and grandmother loved to watch and love the idea of Star Maidens. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_Maidens As a teenager I cam across a story called the Space adventures of Captain Cody. He had a female ship giving him sex. And he was eventually captured on a planet run by Amazons and loved it. A boy in school close up mooned at a girl at a party. She grabbed his balls and yanked him to the ground. There were 2 other mixed gender fights in school, both times the girls were pushed to breaking point and kicked the boys in the balls hard. No fight really, just a flooring. A couple of older girls used to run the gauntlet into the boys toilets in school. One of them was very brave, she used to chat to you while you were urinating. There was a girl with a nutty reputation in our school. I was warned by a female friend that she fancied me and to avoid her. She will try and grab my balls in the queue in the shop if she is ever in front of me. And once she has them I would have no choice to do as she says. As a young man I saw a group of young women buying dildos for a hen night in a sex shop. They were all massive. There was in increase of dominatrix images in phone boxes, on TV and in magazines. Then I discovered Cruella Goddess magazine. And then saw chastity devices. the rest is history
@Jasmic68 orn in primary school;what a precocious boy! The internet has accelerated exponentially the spread of knowledge and that stimulates the imagination.Male chastity is a very useful and uncomplicated concept but I would never have thought of it by myself.
I found the magazine on the way home. It was quite a hard porn mag for the UK where erect penises were not allowed and heaven forbid should you see any actual penetration! We had this awful woman, Mary Whitehouse, who had decided she was everyone's moral watchdog. God knows what she would have thought of chastity. Initially she would probably have been all for it, until she found out that actually we get up to all sorts of naughty fun. I was surprised when hard core porn was quietly decriminalized in the uk. I think that the govt. finally just gave up when the Internet just made it so easy. You still cannot buy hardcore magazines but then why would you want to epwhen you can get so much free stuff at the click of a mouse?
I first got into BDSM when Insex started but even from the age of 12 I was dressing up. My personal ideas just come from a mix of all the things that stimulate my brain, get jumbled up, and that forms a new idea or fantasy. And of course humans have been doing kinky things to each other for millions of years, maybe with some knobbly bone instead of nice smooth dildo!