As mentioned in my introduction thread, I plan to use this thread to describe my journey of re-engaging chastity. Why do I say re-engage in chastity? Well, my journey into chastity started many years ago after seeing a porn actor get locked up. Seeing his manhood encased by the cage was such a turn on for me, I just had to explore it. I ordered the CB Curve and quickly realized it was way to big for me. But none the less, I had fun wearing it around the house. I never ventured outside with it on because it was very noticeable under my pants. Loose shorts were okay, but my wife has a rule of it cannot be noticeable, and she thought it made me look a little to well endowed. The longest time I probably stayed locked was two nights at the most. My wife just viewed this as a fetish phase I was going through, and for the most part left me alone to do what I pleased. After some time, I became bored with the Curve and wanted something that I could wear outside, and would pass my wife's visual test. I purchased the CB-6000. It was great because it was not visible under my pants. The only issue I had was when I was flaccid, my head would be back up in the shaft part of the cage. Using the restroom in this state resulted in a mess inside the cage. If I didn't clean the inside of the cage well enough, I would removed it in the evening for cleaning while I took a the shower. I would put it back on after the shower, but felt like this was cheating since it came off every night. With this routine, the longest I went "locked up" was for two continuous weeks. This again was mainly to fulfill my fetish. My wife was not interested in becoming a keyholder. She would hold the key during the day to indulge me, and some times have fun pulling on the cage to watch me grow inside of it. I would go through these phases where I wanted to be locked up, to periods where I would not touch it for months. Eventually the cage broke along the seam and that brought an end to my chastity days. Recently, I started getting the urge to be locked up again, but this time I really wanted it to be long term, and not just a fetish phase. Since the CB 6000 was long on me, I purchased the CB 6000s. I like the multiple ring and spacers you get with the kit to help create the best fitting cage. I started my lock down Tuesday (8-21-18) morning with the 2-inch ring and medium spacer. As I left for work, I slipped the keys to the lock into my wife shorts pocket. Realizing what it was, she just looked at me and gave a "really, again". The day went easy. Work was busy so I didn't have much time to sit there and think about what I started. That nigh I woke up twice during the night with that restrictive painful feeling when you think there is no way this cage is going to hold you in. On Wednesday at the 24 hour mark, I sent my wife a text message (Key + Lock = Love). She responded with ?????. We then proceeded to text back and forth discussing this new cage and my wanting her to take on a more dominate keyholder role. When I got home, she displayed a bit of domineering attitude towards me by ordering me to help with dinner and a few other chores around the house. That night while we were showering, I requested to switch out the keyed lock with a plastic tab one. The lock was noticeable through my dress slacks when it rotated a certain way. She obliged and got a kick out of the numbering system on the plastic lock. I only woke up once Wednesday night due to getting hard. What started to hurt was the area under my sack where the ring was. At first I thought it was just part of getting use to the ring again. Thursday morning I got up and went to work, but the pain would not go away. About mid-day, I went to the restroom and inserted some tissue between the ring and my skin. It help a bit. That night, I told my wife about the pain and she inspected me. It appeared the ring was chaffing me. I removed the cage, gave it a good cleaning and inspected it for any sharp edges. I didn't find any. After we took a shower, my wife told me to put it back on with a devilish look on her face. I did as I was told. During the night, the pain became unbearable. I want to be locked up, but I'm not a sadomasochist. I broke the lock and removed the cage. This morning I sent a text to my wife when I got to work telling her I removed the cage. She and the kids typically are still sleeping when I get to work. All day my scrotum had an uncomfortable feeling to it. When I got home, my wife took a look again and said I'm still red where the ring was located. Wondering if it is a ring size issue, I ordered the next two largest rings available. Hopefully one of them will provide a better fit.
It still could be. If you're not using anything like Vaseline to lubricate the rings before going to sleep, chafing is extremely common, especially when just starting out. Since you went back into the cage almost immediately, you didn't have enough time to heal, so things haven't gotten better. Maybe your larger rings will help you at least in the short term, but over time, I expect you'll return to using a smaller ring as you get used to things.
It's been close to two weeks on not being locked up. The chaffed areas have healed and the larger rings for my CB arrived. The rings are sitting in an envelop on my desk. I thing a reason why my wife has not locked me up is she must have pity on me. I've been involved with the startup of a new manufacturing facility, and putting in 15+ hours a day to get all the mechanical equipment running properly. When I come home, all I do is shower and go to bed. My libido is non existent. Maybe I should call this a virtual chastity belt. The good news is these long days are nearly over. I'm hoping after a few days of rest, my desire to be locked up will return and I can continue on this adventure.
I'm now locked. I'm trying the largest ring CB-X makes with a medium spacer on my CB-6000s. Hopefully the chaffing does not return. As a "punishment" for being uncaged for so long, my wife pegged me non stop for 20 mins straight. It was an amazing experience taking me to an emotional high I've never been to before. It wasn't the longest pegging session we've had. Normally she will stop and switch toys. This time it was a single dildo toy that she just kept drilling me with. The euphoria I had was so powerful, I've asked her if she can repeat it again.
The chaffing has not returned, and I've been sleeping with no problems. The only issue I have is after three days of being locked in the plastic cage, no amount of washing has helped with the odor from sweating inside the cage. I mentioned this to my wife and we both agree I need to go back to nightly removal for hygiene purposes. I'm disappointed because I really want the 24/7 lock down. Because of this, I'm going to look into a stainless steel cage.
Since my last post, I purchased a steel cage called the Pen. Its similar to the jailbird, but has one extra ring on the cage. I'm so glad I finally got a metal one. Cleaning is much easier, so no more nightly releases. There is a bit more weight to this cage than the CB6000S, but its smaller size means it is less noticeable than the CB. Also, no more chafing. I've been locked in this for two weeks now.
My life of being locked up has changed. I wrote my last post on a Sunday. The next day I was informed by my boss I was taking over the startup of a manufacturing facility my company is building. Construction management this isn't a big deal for me because it is what I do. What made this time different is the job site is out of state, and being away from my wife and kids is a first. I was given one week to complete some other assignments or pass work off to others. During this time, my wife and I discussed what to do about being locked up. My company will pay for me to fly home every other weekend, so using the steel cage was not an option. I suggested using the CB6000s, but my wife didn't think it was going to be practical give the constant cleaning that was necessary. She "released" me from the requirement of being caged at least until we get a better handle on how long this assignment will take, and the practicality of wearing a cage on a construction site. This weekend is my first time back home and my wife did not require me to get locked up. I'm disappointed in the fact that once again something came up that prevented me from being locked 24/7. I am questioning if it is truly achieved.
There is an old saying "Distance makes the heart grow fonder". For this forum, I would change it to "Distance makes one feel like your in chastity". Given my back and forth travels, my wife and I have stopped looking for a new CB that might work for our situation. I've been working 10 to 12 hour days, six days a week when I'm on site. When I get back to my hotel room, all I do is take a shower and go to bed. She jokes this work regiment is better than physically locking me up. The only good news is the project should be complete by the end of the year, and then I will be back to an office environment where I can wear dress pants that easily conceal my CB.