Should I start a personal journal?

That applies for me.

 

Like so many phases we go through in life, I don't know if there is ever a concrete event that defines the separation between newbie and beyond, but I would say you're probably past the newbie stage .

Hmm, that should come with a promotion or a raise, you would think?

 

As for the topic, it sounds like a wonderful idea. I love learning from dominant women, especially details on the more psychological/emotional side of things. It is rare to get that type of insight, especially from regular, non-pro women. Helps build my cheatsheet to being a better partner .

 

Always very good to have a woman's view. So often us men find it so hard to understand what women feel. So looking forward to reading your journal.

 

"Should I start a personal journal?"

Yes please!

 

Go for it

 

Just do it!

 

I would look forward to reading this if you were verified.
No offence intended.

 

Agreed the verification definitely helps

 

I hope you do it would be a great learning tool

 

I would like to see another Ladies insight into their relationship and see what I could learn, so it’s a yes from me !

 

I think many men love power exchange when he can stop making all the decisions and let his wife take over. This means the husband becomes submissive to his wife and her decisions.
Once a man agrees to a FLR then it is absolutely right that he has to respect it. I think the worst thing a man can do is want a FLR on his terms.

Chastity can help increase sexual satisfaction in both partners.
Interesting - I think that submissive men enjoy giving their partner sexual pleasure but I am not sure this equates to the locked male's sexual satisfaction. Although many of us again enjoy being locked and under the control of our partner.

 

Hello Ma'am
My journal has become an essential piece of my life that I would always sit down before bed and document my day. Good bad or even fantasy if it popped up, remembering when I started this journey, how hard it was to be open and honest. Sir gave me a beautiful leather crafted binder to hold my notebook I still use to this day 55 plus years later. I received it on Monday, him telling me how he may check it every day or not, have it ready if asked! My first week was a nightmare because of two reasons, one, not taking it serous and writing when I felt like it and writing what I thought my dominant wanted to hear and not my true feelings. So after my first week, waiting every day to show him all proud of myself at not only keeping it somewhat but writing everything down that I thought he wanted to hear, not my true feelings. My growth in the lifestyle started with my Personal journal that I keep to this day for Mistress! The only thing that changed is now, after my morning affirmations to Goddess and Mistress, I write in my journal. I feel it maybe a good thing for the group Ma'am for Dominants and submissive, to learn about a journal keeping one and how helpful they can be in a BDSM relationships, thank you for the post.

 

I am excited by this like I have never been excited before.

Hopefully it will have paragraph breaks and make use of a spellchecker.

 

greetings Ma'am
it would be a honor to be able to learn from reading Your educational posts.
May i please be added as a a follower so i can become what i should be
thank You

 

I vote yes. After all, why not?

 

I’m a week into my first true service sub relationship. There are no expectations for sex with my goddess but along with doing her housework I will receive spankings, bark like a dog while trying to flip a treat from my nose to my mouth, and experience humiliations as my owner deems necessary.
Since casually meeting my new owner I have been on a 24/7 serotonin high. I have had endless energy and I cannot stop thinking of ways to please her.
I have also been chaste without the need of a cage because I do not want to let her down. My goddess is my intellectual superior and our conversations are extremely enjoyable. She is an incredibly confident feminist hedonist and knows how to hit all of my buttons including the ones I didn’t know existed.
I always admired strong women but I had no idea how extremely intoxicating it feels to totally serve one. It’s only been a week but I have been able to completely handle housework at home and the bulk of my goddesses housework. I have a lot of extraneous events to deal with in the vanilla world and I am on point with everything.
This really feels like the drug Bradley Cooper uses in the movie limitless.
I’ve lost 2 lbs without going to the gym so far!
I’ll try to update my situation after I see if this feeling wears out!

 

@GinaInCharge
Yes.
Our lifestyle is a science experiment of sorts - so accurate documentation is helpful for people looking to understand the dynamics of the various stages we go through.
Much of it physical but I would argue most is in the psychological realm.
We believe what we want to believe - and that in large part comes from conditioning.

Almost all my jobs out of college have been Alpha kind of jobs - ambulance, police, manager, shift supervisor. My wife also had Alpha type jobs in her profession - but always with a struggle in a Man's World.

We both believe in FLR because our Patriarchal society has serious flaws that thread deeply into many seemingly unrelated aspects of civilization. Therefore we seek much more Matriarchal influences - like to the point of FLS (Female Led Society). Men dominating the scene must end. A balance down the timeline could be stabilizing but for now, the pendulum must swing.

At home, my wife & I share responsibilities but at the end of the day, I have no interest in being in charge - I only want to be a submissive who is of servitude to his woman.

This is the psychological I speak of.
When I started out in the world of Tease & Denial, I was in college & my study-buddy became my First Mistress - that is another story ... that stage was completely different from where I am today but obviously my mind was ripe for the challenges this lifestyle offered - and I stuck with it.


Separately:
Thank you to @Caged4Sazz & @Mr_anonymous for suggesting you become a Verified Female.
I was thinking along those same lines ...
- It will open the Female Only Forums to posting for you.
- Also, it builds 'trust' that people know they are talking to a real woman.
(there was a time when many guys masqueraded as female - thank you @L-u-c-y for fixing that.)

 

hey guys, you are aware it is not that hard for a xy to be verified female. anything short of a certified dna test proves nothing but your desire to have her verified is another story!

 

If it's not that hard then why not make the effort?

 

the protectorate of the patriarchy postulates ease of capitulation is justification for prostituting one's dignity without addressing the basis of his predilection of inflicting verification requests upon an xx.

 

That's alot of words for sure lol. Really though if you get verified it opens a forum to you. Eases a lot of doubts and concerns. There's no argument men posing as women is a big problem so it's hardly guarding the patriarchy.