Feels like it might be time to take a step back

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    I have had a realization lately that most of my activity here ,aside from a few friendship I've made, is largely now just for entertainment/fantasy reading. When I joined 9 months ago I found this as a great resource for a beginner, but now it is basically just a way to pass time. So, to clarify the title to this post, I am stepping back and decreasing my usage of CM. I will still check in every now and then, but I feel it is turning into a place where I read about others lives I wish I had, and it honestly gives me a warped expectation of my own reality. This is really not constructive or helpful to my own life.

    Don't get me wrong, the advise and counsel I have received here have been great, but I have reached a point where what I do needs to be based on the situation in front of me currently. If I hit any milestones in this journey, I will put up a post for those of you that I now call friends, and those that might actually be following along.

    I'll still be around, just not so often.
    I wish you all well.
     
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    Enjoy your new journey in life. If Chastity is involved in your life shouldn’t be the most important thing. Being happy with who you are should take center stage. Take Care.
     
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    I felt that way a while ago too and I did step back for a bit because I felt like I was way to envious of others and not appreciating what was right in front of me. When I decided to come back it was because there is a great community here and there is no one else I can talk to about this stuff with except my Miss. The mansion is just like anything else, depending on what you are looking for you are bound to find it. If you're looking at kinky blogs and joining in on threads talking about the ultra kinky acts it's going to jade your view on chastity if you're not living a similar lifestyle. If you avoid that content I've found the mansion to be a very different place that doesn't always have to be about sex.
     
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    We will miss you fatty.
     
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    Thanks, guys. I apreciate the comment, @Mash2214, and WWsub. I follow you both. You to Bono...Im not leaving though, just cutting back.
     
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    I’ve taken several breaks from this place. Same with Facebook and LinkedIn. Sometimes you just need to get away from things that are becoming obsessions or unhealthy fascinations.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I too had found myself spending quite a bit of time here, and thought about purposefully staying away...then I realized, hey I like it. It’s no different than others spending all day on Facebook. It gives me a place that I can talk about caged life.

    Hope tour moderation suits you

    Good luck
     
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    keep in touch. Don't get discouraged.
     
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    I suspect you are just experiencing the natural cycle of being a member here. Nothing wrong with that at all.

    Like many who come to the Mansion, you gain a lot from the people here and it helps you move forward more knowledgeable and knowing what you and your partner/mistress/domme want from the lifestyle.

    We all look forward to hearing form you every now and again, I'm sure. :)
     
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    There are typically issues with experimental design in social/psychology studies but despite its flaws, this article sheds a bit of light on some interesting correlations. Perhaps you're feeling some similar effects discussed therein?

    It's nice to hear you're taking steps to revise your clarity. We all need to clean our lenses from time to time.

    Good luck on finding your center again. We'll be here, should you decide to share. :)
     

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    @Fatkid57626 I think @Mash2214 makes the point. You need to be happy with who you are and what you have. You can never measure your relationship with someone
    else's. We are all so unique there are so many differences. Please stop by and let us know how things are going. You are still part of this family and don't forget we do care.
     
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    I have had periods of not logging into CM in the past and probably will again.... its no big deal... After all our interests vary from time to time and even the ones we keep continually each feature sometimes more as a focus of our attention sometimes less.
     
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