Study: Women Are in Charge at Home

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    https://www.livescience.com/1673-study-women-charge-home.html

    Men might throw their weight around at the office, but at home, women are the bosses.

    A study, which was just released, finds that wives have more power than their husbands in making decisions and dominating discussions.

    "The study at least suggests that the marriage is a place where women can exert some power," said lead author David Vogel, a psychologist at Iowa State University (ISU). "Whether or not it's because of changing societal roles, we don't know.”

    The results counter past research.

    “Most of the research literature in psychology has suggested that women have less power,” Vogel told LiveScience. “They have largely based that on the fact that traditionally men earn more money and so therefore would have the ability to make big decisions in the relationship.” That wasn’t the case in this study.

    Spouse survey says

    Vogel, Megan Murphy, also of ISU, and their colleagues surveyed 72 married couples in which the spouses were an average of 33 years old and had been married for about seven years. Most of the participants (66 percent) were Caucasian, followed by Asian (22 percent), Hispanic (5 percent) and African American (4 percent). The final 3 percent represented “other” nationalities.

    Each spouse answered questions about relationship satisfaction and overall decision-making ability. Then, each spouse noted a relationship problem that could not be resolved without the spouse’s cooperation. While money and housework were popular picks, sex didn’t come up much as a marital issue.

    Topics chosen by husbands/wives included:

    • Money—18 percent (husbands) / 13 percent (wives)
    • Housework—15 percent / 15 percent
    • Friends and family—10 percent / 19 percent
    • Feelings and emotions—10 percent / 13 percent
    • Time together—13 percent / 10 percent
    • Making decisions—18 percent / 4 percent
    • Sex—4 percent / 1percent
    • Intimacy—1 percent / 1 percent
    • Communication—3 percent / 4 percent
    • Children—husbands never chose this topic; 3 percent of wives
    • Other relationship changes—4 percent / 17 percent
    The scientists videotaped the couples while they discussed each of the issues for 10 minutes.

    Women power

    Trained volunteers coded the videotapes using a scale that rated couples’ interactions based on words and behaviors associated with blame (blames, accuses and criticizes the partner); demand (nags, pressures for change, requests); withdrawal and avoidance (avoids discussion the problem by hesitating, changing topics, diverting attention or looking away); and discussion.

    Wives were more demanding—asking for changes in the relationship or in their partner—and were more likely to get their way than the husbands. This held regardless of who had chosen the issue.

    The women were not just talking more than their husbands.

    "It wasn't just that the women were bringing up issues that weren't being responded to, but that the men were actually going along with what they said,” Vogel explained. “[Women] were communicating more powerful messages, and men were responding to those messages by agreeing or giving in.”

    One reason for in-charge wives could be that they carry the weight of making sure the family farm is running smoothly.

    "Women are responsible for overseeing the relationship, making sure the relationship runs, that everything gets done, and that everybody's happy," Murphy said.

    Wife power could signal a harmonious couple. "There's been research that suggests that's a marker of a healthy marriage—that men accept influence from their wives," Murphy said.

    The study, published in the April issue of the Journal of Counseling Psychology, was funded by the National Institute of Mental Health along with ISU.
     
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    “Wife power could signal a harmonious couple. "There's been research that suggests that's a marker of a healthy marriage—that men accept influence from their wives," Murphy said.”
     
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    It's interesting that it's been studied scientifically, but honestly, that's not much of a surprise to me.
     
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    No surprise here either. Women have controlled the households for generations.
     
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    Thanks for sharing this. I am not entirely surprised. The trope of the woman controlling the relationship is very very old indeed, and dates back to a time of wife beating and scolds bridles, and still women took charge.
     
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    More research into the bleedin' obvious!
     
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    Mine is 100% in charge
     
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    Wife/Goddess/Owner is in charge of everything. I mean everything. It’s not just a ‘honey do’ list around here. I’m incredibly happy with my lack of freedom and her complete freedom and authority.
     
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    Happy wife, happy life.
     
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    Good heavens you have done your homework. :)
     
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    As stated it's kinda been like that for many years of most.

    Which is why i suppose the idea of a FLR is not a difficult thing to achieve only keeping it that way is..
     
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    I’ve been married 30 years now. Most any HONEST husband will admit openly that his wife is in charge. Hence the saying “Happy Wife, Happy Life!” No truer statement has ever been said. I work with husbands and wives all day everyday, dealing with their homes. The wives are 95% of the decision making process. Usually the husbands only say is any technical or trade concerns he may have knowledge or experience with. Even pricing falls onto the wife. So let’s all be honest here boys...your wife owned you FAR before chastity!!!
     
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    I'm in a similar career and I can tell you that wife-led marriages are by far the most common type. Overwhelmingly vanilla though - not BSDM/FLR types, but I see a few of those too.

    I know of at least 3 couples that I encounter occasionally that are very likely in the non-vanilla FLR category. I practice don't ask don't tell so I'm not sure for certain.
     
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