Where to find FLR

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    Hoping someone can point me in the right direction. I like to browse this forum when I get a spare moment from time to time.

    Where would I find a true submissive man seeing a level 4 type FLR including Chasity? My lack of luck in the vanilla world has lead me to posting here.

    I do realise this is something very serious and intense to seek from someone. I feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall.

    X x
     
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    Fetlife perhaps?
     
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    Falling back on "it's a journey not a destination" (and my/our experiences through the years) using an approach of a goal before beginning a relationship seems overly optimistic and maybe a tad unrealistic. Yes there may be that "special one" out there who's been in a long term kind of situation who's available and knows exactly what to expect and wants to be a part of. But more typically a relationship of this type begins like any other--getting to know each other, beginning to explore. And being able to talk about whatever whenever along the way.

    Looking back on my history from experiences and a relationship with a pro domme to meeting my now wife the path has led in directions I wouldn't have even imagined when I was in my 20's. We were fortunate to have met a couple, quite by accident and innocently, who we became friends and over time began sharing some of their experiences. Which coincidentally meshed quite well with some of our exploring and fantasies.

    If you're near a big city there may be groups or clubs where lifestyle types gather and share. My experience with munches had been hit or miss (mostly miss) but you never know. Like so much we're taught in the vanilla world though networking is a great way to open doors. The trick is to find that right first connection.

    Patience and persistence coupled with being able to openly discuss what may be new ideas will help. You never know--meet a "potential" and come right out with "here's what I want..." and you could end up pitching a diamond in the rough with unknown potential. Friends first and be careful with the too much too soon and eventually the effort will be rewarded.
     
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    You won’t just find a “level 4” submissive.
    You don’t say where you’re located, but putting your location in your profile will help.
    And anyone who jumps into that with you you should be weary of.

    That aside
    I’d say start by going to munches in your area. Meet others. Make friends.
    Once you do that. Just take your time. Even for experience subs let them get to know to know you and trust you. I want what you're looking for, but there is trust and learning each other.

    I know it’s hard and we’ve become instant society.
    But old fashioned meet, get together, learn each other then develop deeper and deeper levels.
     
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    It's not something you can buy off the shelf. Like any human interaction it needs time and attention. There needs to be a bond between Domme and submissive. That only emerges over time.
     
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    I thank everyone for their input and positive comments. Noting it all down : )
     
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    Yes most single guys on here are probably work in progress. They may desire to be a level 4 submissive, but need structure and guidance to get there.
     
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    Hi Mistress of Desire, i can see you are in UK, as indeed i am too, but no doubt You're likely to be too far away, also i bet i'm out of your prefered age range too :-(
     
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    I feel your pain. As I'm sure many do. I'm a level 3 to 4 sub living in the south (US) which is a very conservative / old fashioned region. All my relationships have been vanilla and the one girl I opened up to because I believed she really loved me and presented herself as none-judgemental freaked out then our relationship declined until it ended. I'm honestly loosing hope of finding the one that I'm truly compatible with in this life.
     
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    I hope you manage to find someone but the thing is relationships tend to be developed over time. I'm not saying there aren't men out there who wouldn't be "up for it" but there are so many other things that lead to a lasting relationships and may (or may not) develop the way you wish. The chastity part of our marriage started as a bit of fun to spice things up and has developed to the point where Mrs Chaste is in charge of our sex lives! We are not in a FLR although we have elements of it outside of the bedroom. Who knows how far it will go only time will tell!
     
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    What it is a level 4?

    Find something as always needs patience, i am looking a wife to form a family, i only want from her that we both love each other and that she is a good person, i cant care less if it sub, dom or nothing, what has to be will be. If you need X you will need to use a better filter, asking him could be a good start to know if it is what you are looking for but use the brain, dont be to aggressive, ask instead if he has an open mind about sex or his sexual fantasys to get the info you seek

    So my suggestion is to use a normal aproach like all people do, many people can be into that and doesnt has to have any relation with the comunity, i ended here because my addiction to jerk and stays to practice English, many others simply dont take time to join even if they are into this, There is no magic way you can find in a easy way, maybe posting this gets you a pm and search done, who knows
     
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    There are no "levels" related to chastity or submission.
    @RexVa
     
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    Thank you for the link.
     
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    The link RexVa provided is a set of levels that some use to describe FLR relationships. I’m with you in that all relationships are different and these “levels” really don’t exist. But to describe what someone wants or is doing they provide a reference point of the extremity of what’s going on.
     
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    Made up rules and regulations for sheeple. :)
     
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    Why do all the good ones live so far away
     
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    Why do all the good ones live so far away
     
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    I know a fantastic key holder, she lives with me! Or should that be I live with her! Probably the latter! :)
     
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    Agree.

    That reference relates to FLR, as per that specific benchmark.
     
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    There are the subs out there ,
    I'm looking for my life partner too and i/we (the other serious subs) have to compete against the other "so called subs" and often get looked over .
     
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    where in the UK are you ?
    I live in Scotland
     
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    Thanks Rexva, interesting page
     
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    I've certainly seen the "About FLR" page and the 4 Levels. It's useful, I suppose. There is a vast chasm between what one thinks one wants and what will work in real life. And I think that is on both sides. Men and women craving Level 4 may find it difficult to keep up that level and still feel like real people in a relationship.

    You find someone you like who tends in that direction, and you go from there. You find what works, I suppose.
     
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    Even though I live in the United States I find your query intriguing. Some of the terms such as 'level 4' escape me as I'm not sure exactly what it is. Assuming long term lock up. My personal best is 90 days, but as I no longer have a partner it is hard to keep interest. Personally, I want to please my partner...a pretty lady smiling is a treasure to behold. I would enjoy exploring thoughts, ideas, likes, dislikes, training, relationships, and so much more with you.
     
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