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    Hi all

    last night I was thinking about my reasons.
    Why do you really want this to give up you’re orgasm
    And also fore the KH. What is you’re reasons to keep him locked.

    for me:
    My wife and I had hate love relationship with sex. In our first years we enjoyed it very much but when whe choose for children and it wasn’t going as expected. Clinic and that kind off stuf. What resulted in when te doctor said we need to have sex we did it and afterwards she feeled always that pressure. Sex on a appointment. When te kids came the interest of her was completely gone because of this feeling. And I want more. And I was started with mastrubation. What resulted in when she was in the mood I wasn’t. What ended up that we are both disappointed. For her feeling that she thinks she wasn’t hot enough. And for me that my ‘me-time’ destroyed my sexual relationship with her. Now we are one month in chastity and it pulled down the pressure for her and Also for me. And now we are cuddle and kissing and she is enjoyed our sexlife more than before.

    hope to read some lovely story’s from you all
     
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    My reason is simple, because I was told to.
     
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    It’s a fun power exchange game for us.
     
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    I want this because of our currently mismatched libidos.
     
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    We met on this basis, while my interest has not wavered my partners ebbs and flows. I discovered a fascination with it myself, and met a like minded person on collarspace (collarme in those days)

    Currently been locked all of this year except for sex. I dont see this changing, unless something disrupts us badly as a couple.
     
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    I was a virgin until I got married at 23 years old, but I always wanted sex. I have a very high sex drive. But when I was growing up anything about sex was really gross and dirty. Hearing it come up in my family the language was always very coarse and crass.

    I remember being torn between wanting sex more than almost anything, but also believing that it would make me impure and soiled. I think chastity play is something like paying a penance or becoming clean because it’s not my desire that allows for sexual pleasure, but it’s my partner who determines whether I’m ready and “good enough” to have earned it. This is very different from me masturbating any time I get a chance or chasing my wife around with my pants down. It turns it more into something ceremonial than driven by my male desires.

    Don’t know if that makes sense at all.
     
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    Did not think about this question for a long time.

    Me wearing a cb is to 99% just a symbol for our relationship / dynamic. At least that is how it started as especially in the beginning there is no chance you could speak of denial.
    With time that changed though. Not the symbolism part (wouldn't that be I most certainly would be on honour basis), but the denial.
    Nowadays - even as we still might have sex more often than some young couples - intercourse got rarer, but at the same time more special and intimate for both of us. As for my orgasms: you could count them over the last year on one hand easily.

    Why is it that way ? I would say, that with time our sexlife just evolved and that it this way suits us both way better. My wife loves to experiment and having a strong playfull as well as an sadistic side on her that is how the denial part (and many other things^^) started. And due to our dynamic I had to take the ride.
    And it is not a bad one for sure. Do I miss my orgasms or having intercourse with my wife more often ? Hell - of course I do ! Especially as my wife has fun ensuring I crave those as much as I crave her. At the same time she intoduced other things to which I by now develoved a hate-love relationship for as I experience them in some way as humiliating, but at the same time also as exciting and arousing - as does she.

    To cut this short: Why would I not give up my orgasms ? In general it is not as if I gave something up, but rather changed it for something even better.
     
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    Blackmail me and humiliation and in that exact order
     
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    Always been into femdom porn from a young age and then chastity cages crept into that. I became a bit obsessed and saw it as a way to be part of the kink on a daily basis - interestingly my relationship wasn't that kinky untill I started wearing a cage and now I'm treated to occasional kink fun. The cage is a physical reminder to my partner that I have this side to me, I think she also enjoys knowing I'm not masterbating (I think a lot of women don't approve of the modern male masterbating addiction. But yea it just sort of happened!
     
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    Weak dick. Want humiliation and want to be ruled and mentally fucked by my wife
     
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    Our reason is really simple we started as just bedroom play and my now husband wanted me to wear my cage more and more now I am pretty much 24/7 he love the look of my penis being caged and I really miss it when I am not locked so for the past 3 years we have been living the lifestyle and I and him love it
     
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    The key (no pun intended) is to explain this to her, carefully and respectfully. You're broken, and that's ok, because you've realized something fun about this situation, and that fun (and the potential benefits to her and to your relationship) far outweighs the pain of being broken.

    Specifically, you wanted more, but then somehow you realized that when you got less instead, it triggered something inside of you, and you realized that you enjoyed that result. So not only are you ok with getting less (if that's what she feels like), but when you get less, it somehow helps you to appreciate her more.
     
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    There are several reasons why my Mistress chooses to keep me locked 24/7:

    First is the issue of domination and control. We have a strict FLR marriage. She owns my penis and keeping it caged and locked enforces her ownership of it. We are also into BDSM play, and chastity can be considered as a form of permanent bondage.

    Secondly, keeping me permanently locked and denied erections and orgasms keeps me constantly horny and on edge, thus makes me more willing to serve and obey my Mistress.

    Also, my Mistress believes that a sissy whose little penis is too small to properly satisfy a woman is not entitled to any sexual pleasure from it himself, i.e., no masturbation or touching it. She says that only real men with real man-sized cocks are entitled to erections and orgasms.
     
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    I am locked for my beautiful barefoot goddess, Lara ❤️. I only cum when she wants me to cum, and I love it
     
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