It happened so fast

To start I am a married 36 years to a
Loving wife , kids grown , always had an exciting and fun sex life my wife and I
Some would say tame “but that’s just you know there opinion “
(Extra credit if you guys the movie)

It started the same way others have mentioned.
Watching pegging porn and seeing the husband in a cage and thinking wow she’s owning him !! Turning to I wonder what that must feel like not being able to free yourself.

I talked with a few guys on other sites about wearing a cage how did they get started what is a good starter cage etc
Finally one day I ordered one
Put it on and was immediately hooked
Kept it on for a few hours and started to feel warm spots . Took it off and saw redness and it wasn’t feeling good
It should feel good and not cause sore spots so I was told but that it also takes getting used to .
Tried it again the next couple of days trying to wear it longer and longer
And really not making much progress other than a few hours and still getting red marks.
But I was determined to give it a go
And gave my wife the keys as I was bringing her to work one morning
She had asked what do they go too
I had the cage in my pocket and showed her. Thank goodness I didn’t have it on because the next thing I know she had tossed the keys out the window.
After some days of discussion/disappointment I got rid of the cage it was inexpensive more for testing the waters.
Now my wife is no prude we have a decent collection of toys that can be used on either at any given time.
I know she’s had boyfriends some I found out about some I didn’t until much later.
But to her this was too much
She can tease me by not letting me touch her as she walks by and the towel covering her slips off.
But I have to remain sitting. Sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t
She loves back rubs. But I can only last about a minute and I am trying to get it in her.
I love when she teases me makes me hard and walks away laughing
So why is this a problem???

A few weeks pass and she starts talking about the cage. What would I get out it? Being caged wouldn’t be much fun for me? I wouldn’t be able to do anything?
I tried to explain to her it wasn’t about me it was about her
She would decide if and when I could be released and if I could have relief. And of course I get to clean everything up
(Sorry if some here don’t like or understand this but I love it and I love the things she says as she’s pushing my head into her)

She says I don’t know I don’t think this is for me maybe we want different things

I told her that yes I want to try this with her but it doesn’t have to happen either I thought it would be a fun thing to do
Her schedule and mine are all over the place. We may not get a chance at intimacy for a couple of weeks
So I generally take matters into my own hands.

I decided I was going to order another one if she talks about it again.
Wouldn’t you know it two days later she says well maybe we could try it
So I ordered another one A different one than before I did a better job of reading and comparing them and looking for the issue I had with the other
It gets delivered I show it to her and I am met with hostile responses .
Do I put it on her dresser and left it there for a week
One day I decided I am trying this out
Dam this one felt way better next thing I know I’ve had it on for 5 hrs.
Put it away and over the next week I had extended my wearing each day a couple of hours
I reached 16 hrs one day no sweat and I decided tomorrow full day and if it still feels good your sleeping in it !!!
Now at this point we haven’t had sex in 4 weeks and I haven’t done anything on my own as much as I wanted to

The next day turned into night
And I loved it. it quickly became 4 24/ hr days!!!’
I wish I had discovered this years ago!!

I’ll return tomorrow to add to this journey
I know I am a short timer here compared to some but I just want to tell people about this amazing transformation I am going through.

 

No I am 56. We’ve been married 36 years. I’ll have to edit that haha

 

So 5 weeks had passed without any sort of sex between my wife and I
I didn’t not masturbate at all. As much as I wanted to.
Of the 5 weeks 1 was locked 24/7
She asked if we are going to have sex again I said sure we just have to unlock it and I showed her that I was wearing the cage
She asked how long have I been wearing it
I told her one week straight and several hours at a time building up to it.
She just looked at me like I had lost my mind
I told her this has made this around here different in the short time
I have been neglecting some maintenance on our house well because I don’t want to do it.
Since I started wearing a cage I don’t masturbate daily I am not focused on my penis constantly have my hand on it while alone skimming through porn sites
I have turned my attention to what needs to be done.
I have always “helped “ around the house. So I thought. I have become more involved with the household tasks. No longer emptying the dishwasher because I need dishes but because it’s done
Helping with laundry and other tasks that I was usually asked to do to help out
She saw this and was a little taken back and said she’s not sure if she likes me becoming domesticated. And had a conflicting look on her face.
Yes I know only a week in a cage and I have already started changing my attitude on what being a good husband means.
I grew up with the man goes to work and makes the money the wife does the housework and raises the kids as my role model of family.

So all these years of doing bare minimum and thinking I saved the day has changed
She doesn’t know if she likes it because she has gotten used to having to do it all
I told her we can easily go back to me sitting on the couch doing nothing and you can do everything.
She replied with no no no I am just not used to this
So later that night we are just sitting on the couch being touchy feely (mostly me)
I haven’t shown her yet. That’s when she asked for sex

We end up in bed I am unlocking myself but really wanted her to do it
I didn’t ask her to because she just sat there looking at my cage penis and I could tell this was a lot for her to take in.
The key sits on her dresser in front of her jewelry box. She sees it everyday
So anyway we try do have sex I start to cum a little while in her quickly but didn’t want to
(I am one of those guys who could hold out and not cum for some time)
And I always enjoy eating her afterwards so I pulled out and I was already going soft!!! (Medical and weight things I am trying to change) so I go down and clean up the little I left. I feel it still coming out of my penis but not in volume. So I adjust to make sure I get more on and in as much as possible and continue to clean.
She has an organism and pushes me away I start to masturbate and she starts to tease my taint and ass occasionally digging her nails into my sac and pulling hard ( I am into a bit of cbt)
I shoot and almost got my mouth. Had I known it would have gone that far I would have tilted my head to catch it!!
Landed three shots on my chin and down
She could not believe how much and how far it went She replied wow what are you 25 again

next day she asked if I think I needed this because of other issues (medical and weight)
I said I don’t know but I want to try. 1. I like it 2. If it helps awesome if not I am asking the Dr for the blue helpers
She’s not to sure but did like the volume just not where she wanted or needed it

As I start week 2 of fully locked the key is still sitting on her dresser in front of her jewelry box. She sees it. She knows what it is for
I have asked her before to take it and put it where only she knows she said no that’s silly
So I am going to just leave it there
The other I hid for emergencies only

tonight I am giving her a back rub without sex
Something we have never done. It usually ends fairly quickly with me doing stuff to her because I am so turned on by her and the sounds she makes when she is enjoying it

if she asks for more I will get the key and hand it to her .
I want her to be apart of this
She may come around who knows I may have opened a door that can’t be closed
She loves to tease me in situations that she knows I couldn’t or can’t do anything about
It. so hopefully she comes around

I have found I am already attached to having this on me. The night we had sex I fell asleep without it when I woke up I put it on almost immediately.
Felt a little off because I need 5 weeks of no release but after thinking about it I was find because the release was with and for my wife.
And that is part of my purpose in this
The other is for her to take full control of my penis and organisms when and if I get them

Sometimes she’ll tell me and “make” eat her after I came
I really want her to demand I clean up the mess I made
And I better leave it as clean as I found it!!!
But I don’t want this as all about me I want her to understand I would do anything for her including withholding my pleasures for hers

as our relationship accepts this or doesn’t i will post /vent to anyone who wants to read it
Maybe some advice to avoid mistakes you’ve made?

but review of my cage so far
Good fit penis can’t retract to much
Rings are unfortunately standard sizes and I am right between the two larger ones
Depending on what I am doing dictates which ring I use
Having a sold tube is a pain to clean after bathroom use
The over sized hole is great but you need to be careful even at a urinal.
Next one I think is going to be more open cage style
Not ready for metal yet but have an idea of what I like

 

Also using coco butter w/ vitamin E as lubricant
What are you using
It seems like sometimes I have to keep putting it on and other once was a enough

 

As I progress I plan on updating

 

The way I have progressed attitude wise is
Incredible It was very fast and yes I wanted everything to happen now!! One or the biggest thing I am is patience and enjoy the tease no matter how subtle .
I have put thought into this she hasn’t it’s all brand new to her and she is un sure. It will take time.
Little steps are happening and I need to just relax and let it
This morning before she left for work (she leaves before me now) as she kissed me goodbye
She reached down and grazed my penis to see if it was still caged (still self locking)
When she felt it she gave my balls a gentle tug and she giggled as she left for work!!!
She just took a HUGE small step and starting to accept this ??!!?? I can only hope
Like I said I am learning patience. I will key mouth shut and just let her explore her limits
Of what she wants
Walked by her dresser key is still sitting there.
She may not know what to do with it.

 

When my wife and I met so many years ago
You would think that rolls would be reverse
She put up with bullshit from people wasn’t one to really stand up for herself.
I convinced her that the people in her life that were treating her like that where not her friends and to stand up and speak your mind
Funny thing is those “friends “ never tried to get back into her life and went on to have train wrecks of a life

so for me to want to hand over my manhood to her is tacking her back a bit I think
I have always encouraged her to be aggressive in bed but she felt out of normal I guess. Some nights it would be I better shut my mouth if I knew what’s good for me and some it was if she was naive to different sexual things.

I don’t know which direction this is going to go
And trying to watch for signs of crashing and burning.
I hope she willingly gets involved and not to make me happy

 

Had to take it off today
Developed a cool/cold spot on my sac and some discoloration
If it feels good tomorrow I will put it back on and keep an eye on it.
Probably because it’s a cheap Chinese piece of crap.

 

So I had to take it off and let some healing (?) take place. Probably from using a cheap cage
But I am still acting and treating her as if it’s on
And I can feel tha the cage is missing!!
I really can’t believe how fast I took to this!
Anyway I know she’s curious. I haven’t told her I took it off because she would say see your not supposed to be doing that you’ll break it!!!hahaha. And she will retreat any thoughts of doing this
But I have caught her looking at my crotch trying to figure out if I am wearing it
Hahaha

 

I debating with myself if I should ask her if she’s noticed anything different in my attitude lately or just keep my mouth shut.

 

I haven’t self locked since Thursday.
Last night while laying in bed my wife thanked me for a wonderful weekend (she knew at this point I was unlocked)

Friday I had all the choirs done so we could relax over the weekend it might be one of the last ones where the weather is decent in the northeast.
Still no cage.
Saturday we went to the coast not much to do in the way of window shopping but it was more of a trip down memory lane with some of the shops gone and condominiums in there place.
We walked on the beach for awhile then got some lunch to go and sat overlooking a salt marsh looking for wildlife as we ate
Saturday night we have dinner and relax on the coach watching a movie and I give her a back rub and she falls asleep. I showered came out and woke her say we should got to bed
Once in bed (and I am genuinely tired at this point) I reached out for her to hold
One thing leads to another she wants to have sex
(I’ve been having Ed issues medical and head)
I attempted to maintain a usable erection but not so much.
I end up with a plug in me and jerking off on and into her then told to clean it up
Which is not a problem for me and she knows it turns me on
Still no cage

Sunday I wake up with a good solid erection so I put it to use.
She likes morning sex from behind with out notice
So here we go. I am just about to finish and I go soft. Not completely flaccid but not useable.
And it feels like I am about to have release like it’s stuck inside
So she helps me finish both manually and orally.
She’s not happy about the lack of finishing and says it’s in my head.
I really don’t know what is happening
I do have some medical going on I quit smoking so everything no matter how small I see it as a major oh shit problem. Anxiety has been getting to me sometimes.
Still no cage
I make breakfast (Sunday morning tradition dating back to the beginning of man)
We get our stuff together for the boat. It’s the last day for us to be out on the lake.
Docks are getting pulled soon boats being winterized and stored.
We did some fishing and mainly just drifting talking about the summer having some laughs
Took a slow lap around the lake and headed back to our dock
I wanted to stop the boat and ask her thoughts on the cage.
She did check one day last week to see if I had it on and giggled when she left for work
She did tease the daylights out of me Sunday morning before we went out on the boat
Walking from the shower in her bathrobe and letting it drop telling me not to move
She brought her clothes down stairs nude and got dressed a foot away telling me not too touch and keep my hands at my side.
I have always loved it when she teases me.

Since I am self locking. I think she thinks it’s locked.
Still no cage.

We work together to cook dinner I end up doing most of it as she fades out of the kitchen
Which is fine with me. I want her to relax and not have to do anything.
After dinner we watch some movie
Sitting together on the couch
She leans into me and and I rub her back a little not a full on back rub.
And I am thinking now talk to her now
Say it say the words. Ask her if she is enjoying the new attitude (which 4days out I can feel it slipping away)
I can’t bring myself to do it. What if it starts an argument before bed she’s got an early day tomorrow.
We head to bed and she kiss me and thanked me for a wonderful weekend.
Again I want to say well it’s been brought to you by the letter M and this handy little cage over here.
But I can’t say it!!!
I need to talk to her about it but I feel like I missed my moment where her emotions were
Peaked from the attention.

if we are home alone tonight I need to talk to her about the cage.
I know it’s not top priority right now in our house
There are other things going on. Life.
But I need to know what she thinks of the changes and does she want it to continue.
Let’s just hope it’s a pleasant evening without any surprises.

 

Oh and I am going to self lock for a bit
I need an attitude adjustment. I can feel my mental gains slipping away

 

Funny thing is happening
It’s what she is uncertain about

i wore the cage yesterday for a bit. Started feeling it and watched for color change in my scrotum. Sure enough. Knockoff that doesn’t
Fit right in the ring and issue with the tube causing skin to shed like a snake does ssooo yeah I am not wearing that again.
But my wife made a comment tonight at dinner “I like this. I haven’t cooked dinner in a month!” I just smiled and said no you haven’t
After dinner she went and showered and laid her clothes out for tomorrow.
She came out of the bedroom with a look on her face of confusion and not understanding what is going on and asked/stated You didn’t do any laundry today?” No I didn’t. ( I haven’t had the cage on for substantial amount of time since Thursday so mentally I am starting to sprinkle some of my old habits back into my daily life.
(I have not had a release solo or wasted time watching porn)
She didn’t know what to say and she certainly didn’t like the fact that I didn’t do some housework today (I had a short day was home early)
Couldn’t talk to her about why had house guest around.
But now I know she sees and enjoys the results of me caged.
This should make it easier for her to take the key when I move to another cage

 

So its been a week since my last update and things have changed !! For the better? Well that remains to be seen.
Friday night I told her I didn't know how to make a dish we were having for dinner. She smiled and said that's okay ill show you. As I am putting it in the oven she says "And now you know for the next time. dinner should be set when I get out of the tub" and heads off to the bathroom. I am standing there saying to myself what just happened?

I had put the cage back on .she doesn't know Just for an attitude adjustment yeah I know just a bump hahaha. Not going to wear it all night!!!!!
So early Sunday morning I am spooning my wife. ( she is still unsure about this) I am raging in the cage. She feels something poking her in the back side she pushes back a wiggled. Realized it was different she reached back and grabbed my cage hard on !!! She asked "are you still wearing that thing?" I said yes one thing led to another and we're naked I am still caged. I enter her with the tip of the cage . I can only move a little bit. I ask her if I should get the key . she replied only if you think you can finish. I jump up and get the key from on top of her dresser I hand it to her she's nervous and doesn't know what or where it goes (see profile pic). I help her out and take it apart. I lasted about 2 mins at best. I went to move down to clean her like normal and give her an orgasm she said no
So I put the cage back on and we go about our day.nothing to eventful. Monday morning (holiday) she got out of the shower and starts walking naked up to the bedroom and asks if I am coming.and if I make a mess I have to clean it up. I am right behind her taking my clothes off she sees the cage and kinda giggles you like this huh pointing to the cage I said yes and joined her on the bed. I am on top of her but can't do anything because of the cage. She tells me to get the key I hand it to her she's sitting on the end of the bed. This time she grabs it and turns everything to see where to put the key. She's not as nervous as yesterday. I couldn't maintain long enough to finish she pushes me down to eat her . I give her an orgasm orally. She tells me to put the cage back on. SHE locked it gave me the key to put back on her dresser. I am excited about this subtle turn . I kiss her and tell her I love her. The cage is rubbing against her vagina she tells me to stop and go away!! I told her she's amazing and gave her another kiss. You could see at that moment she got it. I was handing it all over to her.
I put the key back on the dresser in front of her jewelry box.
Later that day we are heading to the grocery store just before we leave she grabs my crotch and says " just checking to make sure its still on" . I can't believe it !!!! Is it happening?
We are walking through the parking lot holding hands and I am smiling swinging our hands back and fort like a little kid.
I am not skipping or anything but if there was a puddle I'd probably would have jumped in it!!
She says " Wow your real giddy ! Its only supposed to be in the house we can stop right now "!! (That was paper the original weeks ago) I said no no no we're good. We go through the store she's smiling and I am semi hard and fully confused /stunned as to what is happening
We are just getting a few items so we are moving through the store easily . we past 2 older woman (70's) they where separate. They both smiled at my wife who is also still smiling. The second one gave me a sly smile that kinda said that's right you take care of her needs!!! I totally confused now. The key is at home I am not walking around with the cage out.
We leave getting in the truck my wife says did you see that? I start looking around the parking lot saying see what?
She says no in the store "two woman smiled at us like they knew!! Can you see that in your pants?"
I replied "you couldn't see it ! And unless they where in our bedroom this morning they don't know!!
Besides you see an old couple holding hands you get all emotional. Maybe them seeing a younger/older couple holding hands they are doing the same." She says " maybe its more common than I thought ". I didn't say a word and let it stew.
Last night we go to bed . we start spooning she feels the cage. She pushes and giggles on to it so its resting against her . my penis is getting hard and there's nothing I can do!!! She's awesome I think to myself .
This morning after being suggestold what I am making for dinner tonight she leaves for work I start to go to work on the house. That's when I noticed ....... The key is gone!!! Its not on her dresser. Its not on the floor.
I didn't open her drawers or jewelry box. Not going to. She took the key!!!!!!!!!

And that is when it hit me . This is no longer about me my pleasure. How I want to be teased when I want to be released from the cage .

Its about her.

 

Man this woman is going to drive me crazy !!
Barley a week into her having total control she decides she doesn't want to do this "its stupid and I want nothing to do with it" !!!!??!?!?!?? WTH happened?
A few days ago it looked like she was all in and enjoying the tease and control.

So after talking with a member here he reinforced the don't say anything let it play out .
The last couple of days she is teasing and flashing me. Ask me to get her stuff ready for work the next day.
Asks me if its taking advantage of or teasing me ? As she was staring at my crotch
I told her it what she asked me to do I will.

I couldn't keep my mouth shut . Tonight I asked her "why is it easy to tease and flash me when I don't have the cage on but asking for her to do that after she has locked it up and taken the key is?"
She - You don't have it on?
Me- Nope. Not since Saturday when you said it wasn't something you wanted to do.

The look on her face realizing she has been teasing and I wasn't caged
Hopefully it gets her to think about it and come around.
ill post more details as it happens.

 

Its been almost two weeks since my last update.

So a lot has happened .
1 I developed some issues from the tube style cage and had to remove it to heal.
2 she has taken to teasing me . flashing , saying things, grabbing my crotch.

(Not caged at the moment)
The other morning I was telling her about a dream I had with her . it involved the cage and her totally denying me to enter her. I told her how she had locked me up days ago and she was letting me out she was going to let me in but I had to promise not to cum to quickly. I didn't last but a second she was mad . made me clean her up and locked me up and said I could come out until I learned how to do as I was told.
(Both clothed) where laying in bed she spread her legs and said show me.
I was on top of her in a second making out nibbling her neck and ear working my way to her breasts as I take her nipple in I am also trying to enter her through my boxers and her pjs. I work my way down further.
She stops me and ask what are you doing ? Before I answered she says I didt say you could fuck me.
I go back to dry humping her I can feel her pussy through her pjs hot and opening!!! She pushed me off and said no!! I am sitting back with a hard on and start to jack off . she's looking at me and says what do you think your doing!! I didn't say you could do that !! I said no. sorry. I go back to making out. I am horny and hard as he'll. If I got in her I'd probably wouldn't have lasted long.
She offered up a delicious nipple to nibble. Then tells me to go make breakfast (sunday morning I always make a big breakfast)

She can do all this but locking me down she isn't sure about ?
Some other teasing and just touches through out the day. NO sex she told me right out no!!!
But putting a cage on me is difficult for her to deal with?


She is coming around. When she does its going to be incredible.

 

Just an update

I seem to be just going in circles. She hints and responds in a positive way that she will take the keys
Then the next thing I know she doesn't want anything to do with it !!!!

Just going to wait a bit and start over.

 

I am "allowed" to put the cage(that thing) on. Cant sleep with it on!.
Fine. I will accept her terms if it makes it easier for to take steps towards eventually her take an active role in being the key holder to my cage .
The past couple of days I've been self locking she is fully aware I am caged .
There has been some teasing and heavy petting with the promise that someday I may be allowed to enter her !!
This morning I was told before she left for work to put that thing on and it should be on when she gets home.
Other words no jerking off. Then telling me she has to stop on her way home so she'll be late
She just texted me saying maybe tonight we can sit and watch a movie!!?
Other words not tonight.
She hinted and teased that maybe sunday morning might be a chance.

Why is it difficult to take the key?
She has been teasing me for the last two days. Which is awesome
But being actively involved with locking up my penis and taking the key or even asking for the key is an issue?
This is at least the third time we've been down this road and then she gets cold feet and backs out!

I don't know what it is.
She'll play along and engage for about a week then want nothing to do with it and its my fault for wanting it ?

Anyone else have this or similar issues with there wife and has eventually developed into a key holder/caged
Situation