How many times has that been repeated here? Does the effort actually result in anything? I have taken this approach with my wife who was not only very vanilla, but declared she was asexual at one time. Almost five years in full time chastity, we needed to take a break for a variety of reasons. We restarted, and I can’t describe the release of stress I felt. I am submissive to her, and not being and to serve her turned me into a blathering mess. Things have settled out. We are back on track. We had our weekly meeting over a glass of wine to reset. SHE asked me, what I needed. Process that for a minute. We had an open an comfortable discussion about submission and dominance. I brought up the topic of her feeling guilty and how I see her acts of dominance as pure love. I feel we made a major step forward. Her pleasure is a major, expressed, expectation. My ass will be red by tomorrow morning. No release in sight. And the way she has been waking me up in the morning is turning me into a pool of melting goo. Take heed, the advice of patience.
Thanks for the good reminder @Xileh. I see you have a lot of postings on here. Have you ever told your story in fuller detail? I would be interested in hearing more about the evolution of your vanilla wife (perhaps now in retrospect) and I am sure others would benefit too.
Great progress and great advice. I am sure you will share with her how good this makes you feel. Patiently, of course, but I think any loving spouse likes being reassured that what they are doing is making their partner happy and relationship complete.
I have a friend who's wife was playing along for his submissive kink, but she didn't really like it. It finally started causing serious issues in their marriage. Insert therapist, who puts all the kink on hold for months. Then just the other day he texts me. His wife out of the blue locked him up. She said she liked him better that way, kink aside, and just wanted that control. So now he ends up right back where he wanted to be. That was 2 weeks ago and she's still locking him. You just never know.
They actually were a cuck couple, and thats how we all met. One thing I've found is that cuckoldresses and cucks tend to make friends in dating apps, as it's a pretty small community. She has stopped the intimacy outside of their marriage, and is unlikely to return to being a cuckoldress. To say my friend is devastated is an understatement, as he is 100% cuck and while he loves his wife he is very much unfilled sexually. My Wife took over one of their bulls actually.
She is suffering a burnout having to live out a dominant role which clear is not her nature since she is being so vanilla and asexual. Chastity without the sexual kink as the driving force will lose steam over time. But she is back with a vengence and launch into ass paddling..! Congrats… a little wine opens the mind. Too bad, neither my wife nor i are into drinking…