Who pays for it ?

Sub

 

The sub pays in so many ways!

 

If you are talking about hotel bookings etc then I think the Domme should pay.

 

She paid for half my piercing, probably because it was her idea and thought it would sweeten the deal.

I’ve paid for all my devices, and thankfully I picked my device. The penis and the whole package is too individual to have someone pick it out for you. I surely don’t mind input or preferences towards one look or esthetic, but the logistics and wearing a device long term require the wearer to fine tune the purchase. With that being said, I ponied up the money for my cages.

Dates, sessions, hotel rooms? Not applicable here.

 

If that was a response to my sarcastic comment:

Then, like, @Nicoftime, no that doesnt apply to me and isnt what I was referring to. I just mean there are so many ways a sub "pays" (and benefits) than financial.

 

I guess it depends on finances and who has them.
But at the very least it's addressed to the Domme/Dom.

 

Oops! I missed this constraint on the context for the question. But my answer is similar to what I wrote above: In my view a gentleman always pays on the first few dates. It's just nice to do and feels good to do. That view isnt changed by the dom/SUV nature of a potential relationship. (And yeah, maybe that's old fashioned. ? But being nice shouldn't ever be out of style)

 

the sub pay for the chastity devices, but the Mistress pays for the padlock and thus ensures that there will be no copies of the keys NOT authorized.

 

Or the guy ( as actually happens a lot in real life) gets stuck paying for a crappy date. Unless you go dutch someone is going to get stuck.

 

The sub typically pays unless the KH wants to 'surprise' their sub with a particular device.

 

Kind of given the sub is going to pay. Generally it is the sub buying the chastity device in the first place and then trying to convince their partner to lock them. Now the real fantasy of most would be their partner buying the device and saying "drop your pants, you're getting locked up."

 

Call me old fashioned totally irrespective of the dynamic but I always like to pay for the lady same applies when ordering new cages accessories etc x

 

I think it is called manners

 

we're married
even i have more than Her, money is for both
also both pay

 

The choice of device, and the final say on when and for how long the device will be worn, and when it will be removed, should always lie with the Domme.

Who pays for the device depends upon the nature of the D/s relationship, and the relative financial positions of the two parties.

 

On my side paying for it seem the minimum, one way to understand that your are under the dom, she asks and you pay for it. Looks to me that you are not a dome if you don't pay for a kink of yours.

 

I’m married, so it doesn’t matter who pays.
And i’m Dutch (the Netherlands) so

 

well i work for my Mistress but i dont get no money so i cant pay.

 

My KH wife selects and I pay.

 

The sub should pay, it shows you are serious about committing to the Dom, and are willing to invest in the relationship.

 

I would add, that as a submissive having your wife/KH/GF picking your device is a very submissive act to her/him. Them picking the device they'll be locking your penis in is very humbling. I also think it's very hot.

As my wife measured me for my Jail Bird I was excited, humiliated, and a little bit scared!

 

I accept that the results of asking the question might interest you

|I do think in the context in which you fram your question there is for me no doubt the sub should pay for the device. The KH might for her own reasons want to provide the lock but he should offer her the money for tht too.

 

My personal opinion is the Sub. Ie Me. . To be honest I would prefer to pay and take full responsibility for finding the right fitting quality device.

I'm also going to be slightly controversial here. There are some females not many but some who introduced the idea of chastity to there partners who may know nothing of chastity. In that situation I think the initiator should pay.