Domme in vanilla life

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    I am just starting out as a Domme and I have a very vanilla job and life, sports mom and 9-5 job, I want too feel very Domme and confident in my every day life and wardrobe not just when I’m in the bedroom.

    Open to any ideas and plus size ladies any tips on attire or where too shop for best quality.
     
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    Where the right spice leather/latex lingerie under you're clothes to feel the power you have madam.

    Maybe that wil help you
     
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    I am new to all this FLR and being a male. But being dominate in life is not new to me. Hell I am fighting on how to be submissive. But start slow, there comes a lot of responsibility with being dominant in life. Work with controlling you and what you have control of. First thing is be honest to yourself, walk and stand tall. Don't slouch. Look yourself in the mirror and let yourself know that you got this.
     
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    Try a nice suit madam with a nice fitting shirt and a pair of heels start slow make your self feel important and it will build your confidence
     
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    I think an attitude is more important than attire, so start there. One thing i know that many men feel is a dominant look, are boots. Others like leather or black outfits. For me, i think a Domme should dress for her comfort, and wear what makes her feel special or strong. Then bend your sub to your presence. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    When I see a woman wearing long black leather boots and/or a corset harness outside a shirt or sweater, it immediately triggers my sub response.
     
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    Attitude is everything. Black Mistress boots make me melt!

    Maybe having your submissive hubby send you pics of his locked cage with notes thanking you for controlling him.
     
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    It really is all about attitude but to tap into the confident domme can take a bit. I find wearing anything that makes me feel sexy helps. I personally started with underwear- lacy, silky, and completely impractical panties and bras. Not only did it make me feel sexy and confident but my partner's reaction when seeing and feeling them definitely made me feel in control.
     
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    A good blouse goes a long way toward this. Thredup and Mercari are solid for this as is a stroll through eBay.
     
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    It is all about attitude! And mind set, my madam is just as Dom wearing her over size track suit as she is when wearing her rubber catsuit!
     
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    Thank you for the recommendations, I will be checking them out.
     
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    My mood changes throughout the week - I feel assertive only some of the time too. I personally like Express and Ann Taylor. Hope you and your family are well!
     
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    While the whole catsuit and boots works for some Dominant women it can sometimes be distracting and even feel a bit like wearing a costume. Of course this can work well if a certain outfit makes you feel more empowered. However it isn't necessary, your will, attitude and absolute control is all that is needed. Once you get used to the role you could literally wear what you want as others have mentioned. After all you're the Domme, you're in charge, you get what you desire and what makes you comfortable, any complaints and disobedience must be corrected.

    Of course if you fancy being a bit more theatrical about it without going over the top, a smart blouse and a pencil skirt (could be leather if you want to feel a bit more edgy) and some nice black patent heels can be fun.

    One good accessory is a nice pair of gloves, short ones either PVC or leather. It suggests to the submissive that they're only worthy of being touched with gloved hands. They add a lovely amount of sensuality to an outfit and the material can be very effective when you are teasing.
     
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    I can send you a hard cock photo with Your name written on my body, so You can make him masturbate on it and to make him to buy You something nice in shopping. How does it sound?
     
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    Ugh, big oof there.
     
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