And when does it seem to kick in. Wife and I have been dabbling on and off for a few months now and I’m curious. I’m a believer now that the “something new and exciting” part wore off. For me personally about a week into a lockup I feel like it’s pretty much set in. I’m far more submissive to my queen. Ready to greet her at the door and take her bags immediately. Feel head over heels in love at every sight of her. Every sexual urge is about how I’d love to worship and serve her. Outside of the sexual aspect. I feel the energy increase and focus from redirecting this stored sexual energy to be more focused and productive in my business. It may be related to my queen as well because the more I earn the more we can enjoy together. But none the less this is a few observations I’ve personally felt after a few sessions and I’m curious if others agreee or if it is more of a placebo affect.
Are you caged for a few days then off for a week or so? That changes things . If your looking for long term effects I think you need to be caged for lo her periods of time . Weeks not days , months not weeks . But that's just my thoughts . Who am I !!!?? Just another asshole on the internet!!
Longest I’ve gone is 2 weeks so far. Currently a week into this lockup. It’s completely up to my wife when I go in and out of the cage but she’s certainly been taking a larger and larger liking to it which is most likely only gonna extend lock up’s and frequency. And honestly I don’t see a good reason to fight it.
I average anywhere from 7-14 days locked, do Lent and Locktober, and have done 2 100+ days locked without release. Overall, I think chastity has made me more mellow and relaxed. Example, when some asshole cuts me off, I use to give him some obscene gesture or mouth an expression in their direction. Now I kind of just shake my head and go about my normal day. I can still be competitive on the court and keep up with the kids skiing, but now focus on things that matter. It does help my wife does keep things interesting and does push my buttons from time to time.
I started chastity 7 months ago to help me kick a serious jerking habit and I picked up a real fetish for T&D within the first couple of weeks. I used to be a jerking dopamine junkie and still am, so I get orgasm withdrawal pretty easily after a full week without orgasm. But I noticed since I'm not wasting energy by constantly jerking off like I did for years, I don't get tired & worn out from doing tasks like I used to and I don't need as much sleep. I'm in my 40's but I feel like I'm in my 20's again. Also, always being horny and constantly feeling aroused from not cumming for weeks upon weeks gives me a serious high... So I don't need to pollute myself to get real thrill. I'm attempting my longest lockup yet of 2 full months and I'm currently on week 6. I'm so fucking horny, I'm literally shaking in frustration... And I LOVE it!
Not an "asshole" at all. You have your way which works for you, and others have their way which works for them. Personally for us the "Chastity game" has evolved over our nearly 13 years. Mrs Chaste and myself are both in our 60's now and that makes a difference. Just do what ever is right for you. The "Asshole" is the one who tries to tell everyone how they are doing it all wrong.
That was just a play on "opinions are like asshole! Everyone's got one" And how the internet is full of people telling you there way is the right and only way. You know the Alpha and Omega. I was simply offering what works for me. Longest I've gone is five weeks so I am a rookie. The longer I am locked I am like a puppy when I see my wife. All excited and she has all my attention.
Good convo. Chaste J you been around a while. You are right on. Its not for me to say how to use chastity. There are a lot of reasons and unless you are really over the edge, you probably have a legit one. I am full time locked. I don't want to start a semantics discussion by saying Permanent. But essentially it is in terms of play or release. It's only for cage or cock maintenance. Other than that, it doesn't come off. In a run for yearly 2 years I had one 15 minute supervised release for a cage adjustment. As to the OP question, for me the answer is, with relief. I spent 4 years self locked before hiring someone to hold my key. That's all they did because that's all I need. So it's been over 6 years now. Alphasub, the feeling you might be talking about is where it goes from an, aww this sucks,, to oh this feels so good. For me it did take somewhere between 90-120 days from when I first started before I turned a corner and went down the hill. I felt the change in me regarding going back to the idea of being free. The brain has been reprogramming itself ever since. You can create your own scenario based on your need to be in chastity and why. But there is the trying to convince oneself that it's working, versus when it does actually kick in and you become uncontrollably obsessed with it, the latter of which happened to me.