Help with FLR/femdom

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    Ok I'm sure this question has been asked and I did read a lot of the content on this site and still can't find what I'm looking for. My wife and I have been dabbling in the FLR/Femdom scene, we are both very new to this. I know a lot more than her from reading but telling her what to do just does not work. She is interested in learning more on being a mistress and keeping me as her slave/maid. We have all the props, outfits and such but still can't seem to get this off the ground. WE are not hardcore S/M but we are open to most anything else. We are looking for somewhere she go to chat with other mistresses and learn how to be a good mistress. Most everything out there is fantasy, I came across this forum and it seems to have potential.
     
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    well i spect if you ask the Ladys on here they will help you. They all very nice and wont shout at you unless you rude. ooh and welcome.
     
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    Ditch the costumes and the maid thing and just do chores for a while. Invite her to give out demerits so she can later punish you at her convenience.
     
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    Ask HER what she'd like to get out of it. You're both on a new adventure, and you'll both screw up from time to time. If you accept that that's ok, it takes the pressure off.
     
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    Happy to help with any questions of if your other half would like to chat
     
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    I would start by trying whatever thoughts/fantasies makes him hard and her wet. Talk it over and see if you have a mutual fantasy that interest you both and begin there.
     
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    SHOW her that you are the sub in the relationship. This does not come free. Do chores. Sit on the floor in her presence, o the laundry, etc. It will start her on the path if she has ANY inclinations at all.
     
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    Thank you for all the suggestions, We are going to talk more about how to proceed. I know she plans on joining this forum and explore like I am.
     
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    Welcome to CM.

    You were very much topping from the bottom which is very unlikely to work .

    Have a good read through the mass of stuff on CM use the search facility.

    Xx Wendy
     
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