Ok I'm sure this question has been asked and I did read a lot of the content on this site and still can't find what I'm looking for. My wife and I have been dabbling in the FLR/Femdom scene, we are both very new to this. I know a lot more than her from reading but telling her what to do just does not work. She is interested in learning more on being a mistress and keeping me as her slave/maid. We have all the props, outfits and such but still can't seem to get this off the ground. WE are not hardcore S/M but we are open to most anything else. We are looking for somewhere she go to chat with other mistresses and learn how to be a good mistress. Most everything out there is fantasy, I came across this forum and it seems to have potential.
well i spect if you ask the Ladys on here they will help you. They all very nice and wont shout at you unless you rude. ooh and welcome.
Ditch the costumes and the maid thing and just do chores for a while. Invite her to give out demerits so she can later punish you at her convenience.
Ask HER what she'd like to get out of it. You're both on a new adventure, and you'll both screw up from time to time. If you accept that that's ok, it takes the pressure off.
I would start by trying whatever thoughts/fantasies makes him hard and her wet. Talk it over and see if you have a mutual fantasy that interest you both and begin there.
SHOW her that you are the sub in the relationship. This does not come free. Do chores. Sit on the floor in her presence, o the laundry, etc. It will start her on the path if she has ANY inclinations at all.
Thank you for all the suggestions, We are going to talk more about how to proceed. I know she plans on joining this forum and explore like I am.
Welcome to CM. You were very much topping from the bottom which is very unlikely to work . Have a good read through the mass of stuff on CM use the search facility. Xx Wendy