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    Us being new to flr I have developed strong feeling when away from wife almost like separation anxiety.we alway been close but I get like a nervous after a half a day apart.I just miss her everything about her and presence and control around me.I stay focused on my chores but I didn’t know was the something that develop in this type of relationship for others.thanks
     
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    I have felt a bit of separation low in the past. Not sure if its because I was away for 10 months straight due to work prior to us engaging in our 24/7 D/s relationship, or if its from our FLR. However, when all pleasure is derived from one person and its a new dynamic full of intense feelings I am sure its an emotional rollercoaster when you are away from each other. There are an number of podcasts that talk about long distance D/s dynamics maybe you can incorporate some of that to help with your time apart?
     
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    Sounds pretty normal. You can develop quite a dependency.
     
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    Yep, I’m just the same. I only feel fully at ease when I’m with my Madam, and the ping of text tone when she messages me fills me with relief when we’re apart. I find resting a hand on my device comforts me to, as it reminds me I am forever in her grip and never really apart from her.
     
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    Thank for all y’all help it means a bunch .I do perk up when she does txt me
     
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    Speaking for myself, while I enjoy knowing that my submissive husband is thinking of me, I have cautioned him and would caution others not to be overly needy. That can be quite exhausting for some of us.

    What I want from my husband is for him to have his own independence while he is away from me. I don't want to feel like he is overly dependent or brooding over me. It becomes a burden and starts to feel like I need to direct more attention to him or micromanage his day. While I LOVE having him caged and kept serving me, I still need a husband as well.
     
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    I am getting better with that use to be clingy at beginning.I get busy with all housekeeping/cooking,kids and yard and vehicles maintenance.I see her a bit at supper and a little bit at bed rubbing her feet while she fall asleep.I just wish I can see her more to get me by till the next day.welcome to the mansion,I told her seems more female are joining and try the get in touch with them.I feel like she need some strong female/keyholder friends to relate to.
     
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    Been together for 8 years (nearly) - whenever we're apart, I miss her more than yesterday, but less than tomorrow.
     
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    Not sure if this was because of chastity, or just being married to each other for decades. We both traveled for business and it was always difficult being apart. Sometimes it was just for a week or 2, but once she was away for close to 3 months without a return home or me being able to visit with her. Now that we are both retired, we are never apart except for a day.
     
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    I feel the same thing, my wife left for a girl's trip a week ago today and will not be back until Wednesday. I have been more and more depressed with no energy for most of the time. It's like I am addicted to her and am suffering withdrawal.
     
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    I work away from home 4 days a week.
    I find what I miss is their smell or Voice, feeling their shape or presence beside you when asleep.
    These are the things I find are missed on a subconscious level.
    I find that kicks in as soon as I need to sleep.

    The next level is obviously a biological sexual need for your partner's touch and taste, for me that kicks in about 1 or 2 days after I'm away from my wife. (I'm Very High drive)

    Unfortunately there's not much you can do about it.
    Make time to touch and spend time together when you can.
    Put legs or knees, feet close to eachother, hold hands when possible.
     
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    She was recently gone to Europe for a month. I kept myself busy, made dinner for a lot of friends, so I was social, but nothing seemed right. I missed our glass of wine each night and talking.

    Our bed felt pretty lonesome.
     
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    I hear you..empty bed :(
     
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    Totally understand. But "it's always darkest before the dawn" as the saying goes. You'll be good.
     
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