Hpw frequently are you edged and teased?

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    My k/h wife seems to not be overly engaged in the process though it could be my expectations. How frequently do you experience edging and teasing and how frequently does she take advantage of her new powers to get off etc? We are a couple months in so Im not sure if she has a confidence issue or maybe its not for her.
     
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    Since my wife took control of my chastity she has had very little interest in edging or teasing. She is happy enough knowing I will not ejaculate without permission.
     
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    Every morning and night.
     
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    Seldom, for us maybe once a week she will tease my nipples at bed time and get me all worked up but it’s been weeks. Currently locked 10 weeks with only a handful of cages ruined Os. Starting to get the feeling she just has a low sexy drive. I’m ok with it. It is what it is at this point. :)
     
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    My mistress has taken to edging me infrequently and without advance notice. When she does choose to use me, I never know if it will be for edging or a ruined O. I have already been told that my first chance for an actual O won't be until October, which will mark 1 year without one. She has told me to think of it as "Ohh-tober." It's part of her training me to be "a better male."
     
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    I’m not o_O
     
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    This! Very infrequently teased, and she is happy knowing that I'm locked up until she wants to use me, however long that might be.
     
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    Never! This tease and denial thing is bullshit. Edging and teasing are guys thing, the stuff of chastity wannabes. It’s no surprise your wife is "not overly engaged in that kind of process." What’s in it for her? How does her put her in control if she supposed to unlock you and pleasure you anytime you so please?! “New powers”? What new powers?! These are fake powers. Until now, you've just let her pretend she is your keyholder. No surprise she has no confidence, she is just playing a role and you wrote the script. It’s still all about you, your needs, your cock! She’ll be in power once you leave this cock of yours in that cage until she decides to take it out on her own. You have to let her take charge, so just forget about your cock, give it some rest, and try to earn some release by focusing on her needs, her body, her pleasure! Do you massage her? How are your oral skills?… Stop thinking about your cock, leave it in the cage, and work selflessly on your wife’s needs, and leave it to her to decide when to let you out, on her own terms. Once your wife has some form of power over you, she'll truly be your Keyholder. Confidence should follow from that power.
    This goes for all aspiring Keyholders: don’t give in to this edging and teasing nonsense ! You are in charge. Keep him locked until sex is centered around you.
     
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    Locked 24/7, no teasing , totally denied.
     
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    Way to go.
     
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    I wear an HT nub. My wife likes me to take it off every day for 20 minutes while we shower, but I am not allowed to touch her property. She just likes to see it during our shower.

    After I wash her hair, give her a good scalp massage, and wash her beautiful body, she will wash her property and she will usually tease it for about a minute or so. Then I am allowed to wash the rest of my body, dry off and immediately put the nub back on.

    As for allowing me to pleasure her, it’s about once every two weeks. One O and done. She thinks that she maybe starting menopause because her drive is down to almost zero.

    I am allowed a full or ruined O about once per month, but she’s been extending it lately and I should be at once every other month in about 6 months at this rate. I have given my pleasure to her to do with it as she pleases.
     
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    Sometimes next to nothing and then there was the time it was several times a day for about 40 days in a row. That was interesting. When I was allowed to cum there was actually a little white garfish plug that came out
     
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    Huh. And i thought it was just my Queen that caged her sub and then left it till she gets around to it!! O.K. so, nice to know i'm not the only one. Thanks!
     
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    I appreciate all of the feedback. I will need to be patient as it seems no one has any similar experiences.
     
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    Nah, just have your wife register, and all the verified females will fill her in in no time. Then you'll know the meaning of "Careful what you wish for"…
     
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    Teased, multiple times a day! But edged, only two or three times a year now.
     
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    It may not be for everyone, but tease & denial is a super common Domme/sub activity and often a favorite one. When it's done on Her terms, it creates quite a connection between Mistress and sub. It's arousing and regenerative for both parties. Locked and ignored is actually the rare one and the one that leads to disdain. Mistress keeps me locked so She can use it when She wants and give amazing micro teasings throughout the day. Tease and denial is a part of a balanced D/s diet :)

    -nancy
     
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    A guys favorite one! More like a chore for her. What terms?!
     
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    The irony of two men arguing over what Women enjoy should not be lost.

    It's been a shared mutual activity in O/our household for 14+ years. We've talked to others couples who enjoy it as well. Is this not the case in your FLR?
     
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    This site is called The Chastity Mansion, not the The FLR Mansion. Chastity is not FLR. Tired of people who project their own inclinations onto others! If I was into FLR, I'd post on a FLR site.
     
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    I, myself, try to engage my husband physically through edging and other things 3-4 times a week while also teasing and dominating him in ways he and i like. We have been together for 40 years and we have mutual love and respect for each other. I can’t see doing something like this together and ignoring him or expecting him to remain locked without any interaction. Maybe some of you guys could ask your keyholders what they would really love to get out of your relationship, maybe you’ll discover something that will entice her into being a more active partner. My piggy shows me a certain level of respect that he never did before and that is SO IMPORTANT to me, he does chores for me, prepares my things for the day, undresses me at night and puts my pj’s on, washes me in the shower, gives me massages, etc. These things are so nice for me and makes me feel treasured so i actually enjoy playing with my locked up little piggy and giving him some attention
     
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    Teasing and edging doesn't have to be for the guy, and it doesn't mean taking off the cage. The hornier I am, the more desperate to please I am, which is one part of why my KH loves it. She also enjoys our sex life in whatever form it takes, and she finds me sexually attractive even though I am caged, and she gets genuine pleasure out of seeing how she can make me squirm and in the physical sensations of her various methods.
    It seems Ormaz is in a different situation, but it doesn't make his situation right, and everyone else's "bullshit".
    I get at least some form of teasing every morning, plus a few times a week at night, many of them to the point of edging. Some times it will go further to milkings and ruined orgasms, all with the cage on.
    Just let her do as much or as little as she wants - that's the whole point.
     
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    Funny, I can agree with all of that. You must have misread me.
     
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    I have no choice in this manner. Mistress property is teased, tormented and edged at Mistress own pace. It could be every day or once a week. It's Mistress call. I'M just along for Mistress enjoyment. After all it's Mistress property. Once Mistress clicked on that lock. It no longer belongs to me. It's Mistress property now. The fustration is part of the excitement. Trust me you'll learn to endure and even love it.
     
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    Verbal teasing - quite a lot on a daily basis. Physically, only when she is in a playful mood and that might be once a month
     
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