Sperm Retention Syndrome - SRS. I don’t normally share my thoughts on topics such as this but figured CM would be a place that could handle such a topic if I did share it - so here we go … of course I would be interested to hear anyone's thought on this. What is SRS? It’s a term my ex coined decades ago that sums up what often influences the decisions men make. That was about the extent of what my ex postulated - but her belief had given rise to quite a bit of wonderment on my part … and had changed some of my behaviors. Lets look at a perspective of two things … Women get a bad rap for PMS - and I don’t think most of it is fair. Sure, our hormones affect us - of course they do - on a biological level they are meant to. Many men say women get ‘hysterical’ because of their hormones - and so can’t be trusted to make important decisions that require balanced thought. [I truly hate that word: hysterical. It seems to me the word’s root is completely based in misogyny - created by the men who cling to power by shaming & slamming women.] SRS is a real thing. It has been scientifically proven that sperm & semen retention raises testosterone levels. Too, that higher testosterone levels create a hormone threshold that can influence how guys process thoughts. Thinking with the wrong head is not just a quip born out of simple humor. It can affect guys just as much as PMS does gals (probably more). In my humble opinion, SRS & PMS are based in hormonal reality - but it’s our awareness, acceptance & choice of action that can help us navigate their influences. My experience was that I would, without a doubt, start having clouded judgement due to SRS - the desire for a release would consume more brain cycles than the thought that went into more important things.. To me, this was two-fold: - on one hand, in real life encounters, half-baked decisions set a course of events that could be regretful. - on the other hand, tease & orgasm denial would drive me bat-shit crazy. For me, TND definitely led to thinking with the wrong head -and in many ways my college study-buddy (Mistress Robin) knew that … counted on that even. It was her calm & logical approach that ultimately led to me becoming a submissive to her. With proper guidance she taught me how to channel my thoughts and not give in to the momentary influences of temptation. I would I became a ‘stronger’ & better person because of it. Stronger in thought. In commitment. In discipline. In intuition. In caring. And, in overal holistic balance. Robin had a term for encouraging me to think my way through life’s challenges: Homo Cogit (Thinking Man). (There are many Latin terms for Man - Homo Faber (Man the Maker), Homo Ludens (Playful Man), etc.) The lessons learned from this lifestyle are, in large part, responsible for my choices that made me who I am today. For that I am quite grateful. I am also grateful for @L-u-c-y (& team) for maintaining this site - I feel completely at home here.
In my younger days, not ejaculating meant that after a few days my balls ached. But in addition, I would experience an increased need to move my bowels and sometimes experience diarrhea. (Sorry for the TMI here.) Around age 18, I went by myself to the doctor who went into his closet, counted out some pills from a jar and put in an envelope and gave them to me. I don't remember the particulars as to how often I was to take them, but it did prolong getting "blue balls" until about a week after my last ejaculation. As I got older, I needed to ejaculate less frequently to avoid the blue balls. But I still get them after a long period without release. Once I get the "blue balls" sensation, I do masturbate as soon as I can. Before I retired, I sometimes went to the men's room at work to relieve myself. And I also felt as though my ejaculations lasted longer and my volume was much higher than normal. (Not necessarily true. Just what I felt.) I can't say that I ever experienced any symptoms of having a higher testosterone level, though.
I can't say I ever felt like I was experiencing any symptoms either - it was more of a hindsight feeling that I didn't think something all the way through. It could have been just college-age youth inexperience - but I recollect it coinciding with when I was battling desires in the days after tease & denial sessions. Blue balls ... Yeah - I would occasionally need a 'medical' orgasm - almost always a ruined one - just to relieve the pressure (if it didn't subside on its own in a day or two).
Yup, us horny men (and women) sure do make some terrible descisions when horny. 11+ months since I last had an orgasm or ejaculation (none of this "milking" nonsense as it's cheating) and I can say that I am horny like a dog with two dicks but I don't feel frantically so. The change is in how I see things, not the things themselves. I'm horny and I would love an orgasm, but also I love being horny for my KH/GF and I know an orgasm will take these delicious feelings away for a while.