So a couple of days ago we went out to eat with another couple. While I knew his date reasonably well, he'd never met me before. We go out to a really fancy restaurant, very expensive. We just happen to meet up right at the door, I'm wearing a coat and he is very under-dressed in jeans and a golf shirt. He shakes my hand and tells me how we met once, and I absent-mindedly said, "Really? I don't remember that." Rude, but I am just socially awkward enough I didn't bother to follow up with an apology. So we sit at dinner and my Wife is dressed to the nines as usual, except with 5"+ heels, a top showing a healthy bit of cleavage, and her pink hair. She's even got a bow of colored feathers in her hair that are lit with tiny LED lights. She's quite attractive and is always 'a bit much' for every environment and in this fancy place all eyes are on her. All through dinner I notice he's subtly trying to 'one up' in conversation and I just keep letting it go. I realize between his lack of appropriate dress, my blunt notice of saying I don't remember him, the much prettier date, etc., he's off step and his alpha dog is out and he's trying to assert a bit of masculinity. I process this and keep with my strategy - just let him do his thing. So finally dinner is over. We've had several rounds of cocktails, appetizers, entree's, and desserts and the bill is sure to be eye-watering. I'm not sure if someone told our server or she just guessed, but she brought 2 bill folders. One she laid in front of me, and one in front of him. He immediately looked down to open his bill, grabbed the pen and started to sign it. Meanwhile I had just finished a short story to his date, so I hadn't moved a muscle. As he was done and I finished my story, without even looking at the bill, I put my palm on the binder and just slowly slid it over to my Wife, who whipped out her card, slid her card inside, and shut the binder again. No you folks know WHY I did that, but he didn't! I say him physically wilt his shoulders and inwardly shake his head. He was defeated. This dude across from him not only doesn't give a fuck how much he spent at this boondoggle dinner, he didn't even bother to look at the bill and just made his wife pay it. I was Top Dog. I stifled a chuckle. If only he knew I was locked in a chastity cage. A caged submissive who's Wife keeps a paddle on her nightstand and has a slave anklet locked on his leg. There was no way I could pay for that dinner because my Wife wouldn't allow it. I don't make financial decisions and have to ask permission for anything. The poor guy didn't have a clue... and I wasn't going to tell him lmao.
Oh she got a huge charge out of it. As soon as we got home she did a whole femdom scene that ended with my cleaning up after myself. A central theme was about how I performed as a proper man in public but in reality I'm just an owned slave with no control over my Wife.
In his position that scene could have been interpreted quite differently: he could have thought "this guy's so pussy-whipped his wife even takes charge of the bills." That was the way I read that scene until your explanation.
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s a beautiful example of the FLR dynamics and how strong the bond between Dominant and submissive can be, especially outwardly when faced with a threat or intruder. I think this is what allowed you to be macho on the outside while at the same time being fully submissive to your superior Wife. I’m sure She is proud of you and even more proud of Herself.
From your description, I see you as having the advantage and playing it well. Rather than getting sucked in to the macho competition, you had the advantage of playing him without directly engaging. You let him expend his energy without giving any back. Very frustrating for him. I feel that by giving up the macho bluster, we can now see it for the bs that it really is. I’ve developed a low tolerance for it.
Our dynamic is possibly similar except, when the bill landed on the table Lady C would have pushed it towards me. Something we spoke about last night actually. She makes the financial decisions based on my advice but I always pay. Even when she does want to pay ( for a round of drinks) she'll still pass the money to me for me to do the subservient thing. A
Fantastic. Never should a sub feel inferior to an unchaste "so called" alpha male. Pity them. They don't know any better.
I think it's worth pointing out that I'm submissive towards women only. With men, I can hold my own as can, apparently, the OP did. Well done
Good point, well made. I bow to no man. At work I'm No.1, Lord and Master of all. The go-to guy. At home...Well that's a completely different matter.