I have ED and can only get hard with Viagra and even then, it is hit or miss. My penis is also much smaller than it use to be. Flaccid I fit into a 1 1/4" cage. Erect I barely make 4". When I was skinny and young, I was at a little over 6" which on my skinny frame appeared much larger than it was. I know that when you gain weight you develop a fat pad that covers and inch or two of your penis. Even though I lost almost 50 lbs. it did not change anything and from what I read, it will never recede as far as it used to be. So my wife is stuck with a sterile man, did I mention that I am also sterile and could not give her kids, with ED and a small penis. She has played with it and edged me for a long time but as I get older, it becomes harder to get hard and I end up with a raw penis. She does not like using lubes as they are messy. I have basically lost interest in an orgasm after all these years of being trained to do without. Today she told me that she is going to keep me locked during sex and only touch my penis when it is time for an orgasm and even then she said that she might just tell me to masturbate after she leaves the room. Another surprise was that today she said it was time for her orgasm rather than time for sex. That is new too. I jus showered and a pair of panties is on the bed so I guess she wants me to wear them. I do not know if this is just an experiment by her or really what she wants to do from now on. To tell the truth, I rather she keep my penis out of sex since it only stressed me out and causes anxiety about whether I can get hard for her or not. I am more comfortable with a sexual relationship like I had with her girlfriend. It was basically S&M and she had sex with me only three times in the last 15 years we were with her. No pressure to perform as there was with my wife when she wanted to make me hard so she could hold onto my penis while she used her vibrator. Last week she just squeezed my balls and had a very intense orgasm so maybe she is thinking that it is better than holding a limp penis. Time will tell. We are always trying new things to see what works and what does not. We are not locked into any version of chastity.
Update - My wife had another fantastic orgasm just now when I was locked up and she did not have to focus on my penis. I do not know what got into her, but she had me wear panties to bed and told me to keep them on after sex. They are like speedos so withg my shirt on, it looks like I am naked. Plus they hurt my testicles because they are tight. She also told me to put on a pair of nipple clips. She gets off on my moaning and apparently does not care if it is by pain or pleasure. My testicles are sore from her squeezing. She likes to kiss a lot and that is good enough for me. So far she is right about what gives her the best orgasms. She even told me that she felt in complete control now because she has not given me an orgasm for over a month and she insists that I wait for June. I think she is finally feeling her sexual power. One more thing that has changed from the last 4 years. We have always had sex on the weekend and sometimes a week day too. Now she said we will only have sex when she wants to and not on any schedule if my penis is out of the equation. She said if sex is only for her pleasure, she has to have sex only when she feelings like an orgasm. Makes sense ,but also worries me. Each year we up the game. I know that her goal is less sex and orgasms and she is training me towards that end. To tell the truth, I have not felt like having an orgasm all month. I love the sexual energy and without it, I get bored and depressed. Thanks for reading.
I have had erection problems for many years and is one of the reasons my Mistress decided to lock me 24/7 in the fist place that and the fact that when I did arise to the occasion I only lasted a short time and she said my dick was to small to please her anyway. She once caught me wanking dressed in panties and pantyhose and told me if I liked it that much I should wear them all the time, so now along with my cage that's what she insists I wear. Her pleasure now comes from me orally serving and using toys on her which seems to please her more than my dick ever did even on a good day. When she does let me out of my cage its for hand relief only and after about 2 months of being locked her hands on my limp dick have me dribbling in a few minutes I am at the point now where being caged and dressed serving her in this way gives me more of a buzz than the few minutes of release. Over the years she has also developed a licking for taking me with her strapon which at first was uncomfortable but is now something I beg her for and turns her on even more. Our sexual interaction now may seem a little different but we are both happy with it and wish we had got to this place along time ago
I agree with you on the buzz. I do not like having an orgasm as it means starting all over again. I did remove the panties. They were tight around the boys and my wife did a number on them that left them a little bruised and sore. However, she does want me to wear them when we have sex. She said it was much nicer to feel lace and she can always stick her hand under them if she wants. She is happy with the changes she made. My wife shared me with several girls throughout our marriage. Sex revolved around me and/or her girlfriends. She is really enjoying have full control of sex and sole ownership of my penis. When she is happy, I am happy. No more strap-ons for me since tearing my colon and needed surgery a long time ago. My wife has a love/hate relationship with me wearing feminine clothes. At one time I slept in a negligee or woman's pajama's. She said it ruins her image of me as the alpha male she married and feels protected by. I told her that clothes does not make the man but she still is not keen on it outside of the bedroom. There was a time when I had nicer and more panties and bras than she did.