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    This post can be placed where it needs to be but I don’t know where it should go.

    Once again I have received ANOTHER message in regards to a key holding request.
    I am getting fed up. Enough to make me not want to bother with this site that has men that don’t have the manners to even ask if they can talk to me rather than spew their pathetic requests to me.

    I am a key holder to one person only. @LatexMiss is my one and only.
    I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned this numerous times.

    PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME WITH ANY FORM OF KH REQUESTS.
    You will be blocked immediately.

    LP
     
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    There should be a blanket rule that forbids anyone from pestering for key holder services unless that domme is advertising that they want to hold others keys.
     
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    I'm sorry you have to endure unwanted advances. That's unacceptable behavior.
     
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    Sorry you're being bothered. Seems to me that a report to our fearless leader @L-u-c-y might bring about the response that's due in this circumstance.
     
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    i'm not defending anyone asking but isn't it a little flattering that You get asked?
     
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    @slavesw - if I was offering services for such things then perhaps. However, the fact that I have made my feelings very clear from day one I do not find this flattering. Especially when lack of respect is apparent.
    I find it disappointing and disrespectful.

    I like the suggestion by @Wonderwomanssub

    LP
     
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    A ban on unsolicited keyholding requests and other things of that sort is reasonable, but if the men guilty of harassing women on this site and others can't treat them with respect, I wouldn't expect that they are capable of respecting that rule.
     
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    It's an open site, and I hope it always remains an open site. The downside of that is that all sorts come here, register for a short while, cause mayhem for a brief period, and flit off somewhere else. Mostly, that doesn't impact on the men. It's going to impact on the women, because they're going to get all the personal messages.

    In forums I've been a member of in the past there has been a function where people could forbid PMs from anyone unless they had permitted it. At least that way the initial request has to be in a public forum, not a PM. That would deter a lot of idiots. I don't know if that is possible with the software for this forum.
     
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    The site allows you to only allow conversations from people you follow. That solves part of the issue, but creates new ones. Telling our female members that they have to wall themselves off if they want to avoid harassment isn't a good look.

    A minimum length of membership and a minimum post count before you could message verified female members could possibly reduce the issue since I hope and assume the people doing this are not the more active members of the community.
     
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    Thank You for clarifying and i completely understand.
     
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    True, if there were no consequences I would expect the offenders to keep harassing the female members. Now if there was a reprimand that the offenders received because they didn't follow the rules and then if they did it again they would be banned from the site.
     
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    The person that messaged me was not following me and I most definitely was not following them.

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    You have that setting enabled and it didn't work? That's odd.
     
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    NO it is not flattering the lady finds these rude unrequired and annoying and frankly anyone who cant understands this and sends this requests take a cold shower. Ladies here are few in number and those here are not kink dispensers. Would you walk up to a lady kissing her boy friend husband and request a snog. Some here understand FLR but many more are attracted by the fantasy of denial and have no experience of submission and service.
     
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    This is why my wife lost interest in coming here among other things.
     
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    Just wanted to say. If people make requests like that they don't have to think
    about a relationship. you cannot submit without due respect. Might be time for
    some to take more than a cold shower. Take a course of respect for women
    and maybe you may find someone. We respect the women here and ask you
    to do them same.
     
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    It’s one of the reasons I would not even recommend to my wife to join. She gets freaked out just by guys flirting with her in public. Having some random internet guy asking her to lock up his cock would be very, very uncomfortable for her.
     
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    I've been dealing with the same concern. My wife has no desire to interact with "random freaks" (my words, not hers) but if she could just connect with the other women who are in the lifestyle, she might find it worthwhile. If she were getting unsolicited requests like this, she'd leave and never come back.
     
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    A few thoughts ... and things that got triggered ...

    1. Key Holding.
    There probably was a thread at one point that was for those looking for key holders. I looked very quickly but nothing jumped out. Maybe a Forum that won't time out from lack of viewing would be in order. But thats not for me to say.

    2 Content.
    Saying something people can miss. I can only imagine how annoying it is to be pestered - and glad I am not! End result aside, I don't believe many here set out to annoy another.

    There are a lot of things that get posted and I may not read all of them before I post or reach out to strike up a conversation. This comes at the risk of not having read something critical someone posted - that had I read I would have known better.

    2. Manners.
    I have learned (the hard way) that manners matter. Its routine & effortless for me now - but it wasn't always that way. I cant think of a single person here that I am 'following' that I didn't ask beforehand if I may. I dont mind if people have not asked me - I just find asking is something I want to do. Manners can mean more than one thinks.
     
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    The main page has a permanent 'seeking' section for boys and KHs to find each other.
    I really wish there was a "key holder lounge" or "intro to keyholding" on the main page. For KHs to talk to each other and for wives/girlfriends to start when their man tells them about chastity.
    Of course, the problem would be keeping fake profiles and thirsty boys from cluttering it up. Don't know how to accomplish that.
    I really wish we had a robust "intro for KH" section, I think about it a lot. Maybe in the next few weeks I could make some threads.
     
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    Since there's already a "Verified Female" feature, why not have a forum that only those verified women can access?
     
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    There's been some talk, but most of us feel that new women should feel welcome without pressure to verify. that means some fakes will show up, but we don't want to intimidate or discourage any curious women.
     
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    I'm not saying all women should have to verify. But just the existence of an exclusive sub-forum for verified female accounts may encourage some to do so. Then they would have their own private place to talk without being pestered.
     
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    I am not saying I want to speak privately with just other KH.
    I have a problem with particular men who have no respect or restraint openingly messaging me with propositions of their fantasies of having a KH and what they want from it.
    I have no problem with people messaging me for advice or answers to particular questions but blatant, disrespect will not fly with me. Period.
    LP
     
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