New Years Resolutions for 2023

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    Its that time of year again, were we start thinking about these things.

    Mine is quite simple. For my partner to have more (full) orgasms than me.

    When she sets me free for her Os She usually tells me to cum with her, then she usually lets me stroke myself to orgasm in the morning following before locking back up.

    That means currently I am having twice as many orgasms as her, which just doesn't seem right right?

    So one of them has to go, perhaps ruin the one in the morning so its not full, even then Ill have to be denied sometimes during my release.

    Anyways I am going to propose this to my partner, as well as other resolutions naturally

    Do you have any ideas for new years resolutions ?
     
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    Mine is no porn for the year!
     
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    Maybe it turns her on to have you cum with her. Maybe she really likes when you masturbate and have a full orgasm, especially before going back into chastity.

    I love knowing my husband is so into me that he masturbates, even though he wishes he could hold out. I like being so desirable that he can’t help himself.

    Since we started with chastity, I like the power and control, so I’ll make use of it, but I do occasionally miss asking him randomly if he’s masturbated that day, and what he’d thought about.

    If not, good for you, but I’d be careful not to push it too hard because many women, (dare I say, ‘most?’) absolutely love when their partner cums while thinking about them.
     
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    Thanks for your thoughtful response, I think you are right about the first part, she often threatens me with denial but then at the moment she always tells me to go with her, that said I have always felt the second one was kinda a favor. It is very good to hear a woman's perspective because we men have our own world we live in, try as hard as we might we often get it wrong. It could sound like I am pushing for what I want rather than what she wants.

    When I stroke in the morning without exception the thoughts I carry are about my partner, although she never asks what I was thinking about, when she bares her bottom it certainly gives me focus :) And I definitely do enjoy it.

    At least i still have a few days to think about what she might like as a resolution.

    No porn? does that include reading this forum? While I do look at porn occasionally it really doesn't do me any good, its been a very very long time since I have been able to get off on porn lol I find reading about stuff/stories more stimulating to be honest. I can imagine way better than actors, the best porn are the real people. :)
     
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    I like the idea of this thread! I may come back to it again before Jan 1.

    Here's my first thought:
    1. to pleasure my wife at least 5x month
    2. to ask her politely once to deny me if she offers me more than 1 orgasm / release in a month
    3. to ask her politely once to deny me if I haven't completed #1 and she offers me an orgasm / release
    4. to fully comply with her wishes regarding 1-3
    My objectives are:
    1. to make her feel so loved that she opens up to me for her pleasure as often as she desires
    2. not to top from the bottom
     
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    i am finalizing my list right now but have been given resolutions by my Domina to do more and better oral and from one of the other Women i serve, to become good at deep-throating Domina’s dildo "Phil".

    Beyond that, i want to continue to focus on supporting Domina and making Her life easier and doing the best job possible when She loans me out. Finally, i want to convey to Her the love and appreciation i have for Her on both the vanilla and kinky aspects of our lives.

    asa
     
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    My new year resolutions will be whatever my Madam tells me they are!
     
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    Lucky!! LOL my wife always had more than me…current count year to date me- 49 (had the first couple of months of last year free while the PA finished healing and stretching), her - 230 as of last night.

    Our 2023 is simple - I’m “possibly” going to be allowed a full O on NYE sometime during the day (she has a playtime planned), and then next year she wants to try and limit me to only 3 full ones l, so roughly every 4 months, and for her to keep to at least 200+ for the year.
     
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    December started amazing but is ending dreadful (a heaping of flu for the family with 1 still with it and now one kid with covid, ugh).

    But the sky's may be clearing and it looks like January might be off to a great start. My wife and I committed to dieting and dry January but more importantly she is open to "playing the game" with me for the month. Like literally taking the key and making it real. We originally spoke a few days ago and she said maybe. Then last night after we dialed in meal planning, I asked while we were doing these other changes if we could, and she cut me off before I could say it. She said yes, we could try for the month. WOOHOO.
     
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    1. Find a cage I can wear 24/7.
    2. No orgasms unless I am with my wife.
    I am just starting out (again), but this would be a great first year for me :)
     
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    Those would be significant accomplishments! Good luck!
     
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    I have a few for 2023.

    wear my cage 24/7/365 locked by my KH. Only released for cleaning and when she wants it.

    go to the gym more often this year. I’ve been slack the last year and really could use that stress release.

    and lastly get back out and be more social. I think a lot of people have become introverts after the Covid lockdown. I want to change that.
     
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    1. Make sure all my Mistress needs including orgasms come before mine
    2. To stay locked up as long as required by my KH and Mistress.
    3. Never to beg my KH for release from my cage, no matter how horney.
    4. Make sure that my Mistress, KH and any Dom/Mistress (other than mine) demands are completed to their satisfaction.
     
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    If you achieve your first two goals, you ought to have the motivation and drive to be more social. Great resolutions!
     
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    You are spot on, I try to convince my wife to let me just take care of her but she says getting me off gets her off.
     
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    These are great resolutions
     
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    My resolutions are to....
    1. Keep going to the gym and improve myself.
    2. Make sure my wife and key holder is taken care of in any way she chooses.
    3. Stay locked 24-7 and not pleasure myself, but only when she wants me.
     
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    Simple for me lose weight and get into shape
     
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    I have just 2 at the moment…
    1, loose weight and improve overall health,
    2, stay locked with zero orgasms for all of 2023.
     
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    To stop secretly vaping behind my wife’s back. She thinks I gave it up two years ago so its about time…

    Chastity related?
    Tough as my wife is in charge of those decisions.

    I think 2023 would be a good year to get pierced. As time goes by the desire to try and cheat has developed a little. Think having that temptation taken away would be nice.

    Also, one I don’t have an answer for would be to overcome my own sexual desires during periods of passive denial. When I’m being denied because my wife is struggling with motivation or other factors in life are more paramount. I really want to find a way to eliminate any cause for guilt in these times.
     
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    • do even more hiking trips with my gf.

    • no more "i am bored" smokes, while waiting for stuff at work.

    • tell my girlfriend how much she means to me as often as this year.

    • be good and enjoy chastity. struggle through the night more often.

    • be open-minded and explore my female side further, because i like her a lot.
     
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    1 stay locked 24/7 self locking at the moment wife left me last year using time lock to help me
    2 only cum from anal play just riding dildos no vibes
    3 explore my feminine side more crossdressing
    4 be happy
     
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    I've been locked 24/7 the past 2 months with no release until I lose 5lbs in weight. 2 months in there has no been no weight change (thank you Christmas). My short term resolution for 2023 is therefore to lose 5lbs. It's starting to feel like permanent chastity!
     
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    To actually remember to make a resolution, and to keep it for longer than January if we do manage to think of one.

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