In June of this year, my Mistress collared me and took ownership of me. The tag identifies me as her property and i promised to obey and serve Her and accepted that i exist to serve and please Her. In august my chastity cage arrived. She has been working on getting me used to it. I have now been in it for a month. She let me out for a few days and has locked me up for another month. She has told me that she will have me tattooed as Her slave and have me pierced. She has mandated that my pay goes into Her account and She makes all decisions. i must obey Her. She installed 4 point restraints in the basement and spends a few hours a night doing T&D on me and making me repeat vows of obedience and submissions to Her will. Sometimes she gags me and whips me when she cannot understand my promises to obey and server Her. She comes several times a night and does not usually permit me release. This is more than I could have ever imagined or wished for. How can i make sure i serve Her well and satisfy Her every need? Do Mistresses want slaves to misbehave and test them or do they want perfect submission to Their will?
Welcome, you should find a lot of support here. Love the initiative taken by your woman, and the submission you are showing committing to chastity training so intensely and quickly. Sounds like you've found a well fitting keyholder and cage! Regarding misbehaving.. Each to their own, but for me and my femdom sect, it's like choosing, investing in and training a loyal dog. I like to play roughousing as pups, occasionally getting bitten or scratched but showing I can handle a bit of Sass and have them be able to hold their own and have a strong sense of self from that mirroring, but at the end of the day I don't want a real fight or power challenge every time I want it to sit, shake, roll over, fetch, heel or socialise with other pets and owners. They should heel when called and follow my lead, given I'm their protector and source of love, comfort and stability. They should know not to be tempted by another dog or owner's poor standards or bad behaviour, so it submits to my training and conditioning standards. I personally believe that's the difference between FLR or true Fem D/s lifestyles, compared with bdsm play in the sheets or online. I love giving @MWilspoonsBunny a good paddling, spanking and tying down, but I want to do it by choice not by necessity. Undermining my lead won't get him more bdsm or domination. I have nothing to prove to him, and I don't enable bratty behaviour.. The only result ends in behaviour (and therefore him) being dismissed and ignored until I am ready to maintain reconditioning. Remember true training takes a lot out of a woman mentally and physically, and if she feels she has to spend all her energy keeping you in line with her standards, she may have minimal emotional or sexual energy left to lead or dom you with for enjoyment...which is really what it's all about, right?
Thank you so much. She had indicated that the financial control would have to wait until we move in together. i could tell She was a bit overwhelmed by the logistics of doing it otherwise. It is Her choice, i need to comply with her wishes. It needs to be fun for Her. I get that. i did not know that all the training take a toll on Her. It makes me appreciate what i have even more.
You shouldn't ask that question at the end. It is evident from many reports on CM that Lady keyholders choosing to actively participate in their man's chastity regimen tend to continuously raise the bar on their subs. Misbehaving or playing challenging games to Her authority would more likely then not work against the end goal here. The mantra being: "how can i show You how submissive I am so that you feel like dominating me more? But on the bright side, your Lady does not seem to need your help figuring out where she is going with that! You could be looking at life inside, rejoice.
It sounds like you have an ideal setup. Your partner is up for taking control and you are open to giving it up. For me, I always strove to just do what she wants and expects. If she feels like I need punishment (or reward) that is her choice to make. My only role is to receive.