I’m new, trying to understand what KH are getting out of this.

Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by WomenWearTheKeys, Aug 21, 2018.

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FOR KH , what’s the primary turn on

Poll closed Sep 20, 2018.

  1. General feeling of power

    6 vote(s)
    23.1%

  2. Knowing you control his penis specifically

    4 vote(s)
    15.4%

  3. That fact he can’t masterbate

    3 vote(s)
    11.5%

  4. The obideience/submission and non sexual behaviors of cleaning ., chores ect

    13 vote(s)
    50.0%
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    #1 WomenWearTheKeys, Aug 21, 2018
    What’s the biggest or primary “turn on” for you KH with this lifestyle? Obviously a lot of us men thought about it or even fantasized about it, but what about the KH.... many who were asked to try it with no prior interest.
     
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    #2 Guest 8306, Aug 21, 2018
    Disclaimer- this is my personal opinion and not every KH will have the same views :rolleyes:

    As I have mentioned in many posts before I didn’t quite understand the concept of a man asking me to lock his penis and control him.
    After researching and experiencing this first hand there are many reasons why this has become an immense turn on.

    There is the control element. You’re sub/pet/beloved not being able to pleasure themselves or do certain tasks/acts without permission.

    The greed of it. That your pleasure becomes the main focus of their attention.

    The actual enjoyment of having them locked because it brings you pleasure. Not just sexual pleasure but the idea they’ve given up their wants and needs to be able to fulfill yours better.

    And finally that you share something extremely intimate - probably more so than vanilla based relationships - I say this from experience as I currently have both.
    That both your wants and desires are catered for.

    LP :kiss:
     
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    #3 Nicoftime, Aug 21, 2018
    What she said lol!

    She had no interest in it when I asked, she said oh I don’t think I want that kind of responsibility. I assured her that all she had to do was unlock me when she wants to. She agreed, but later she told me the only reason she agreed was that she liked me a lot , and was willing to give it a whirl.

    Most of what @DommeLP mentioned is something she enjoys, and not something she was aware of when we started. She did her research, googled everything she could, and asked me questions. After a month she said she will keep doing it, but only on her terms. She’s an all or nothing kind of gal, and doesn’t believe she can be dominant, controlling, or selfish with affection without really being in control. So I agreed.

    Anyway, to quote her “you make me feel like a princess, I love you when you’re like that, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world”. If that doesn’t make you want to have it her way I don’t know what will. So that’s the main reason in my opinion.
     
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    #4 REsTRAINEDsub, Aug 21, 2018
    My KH loves the fact it takes my "aggressive" behavior away. I'm much calmer and have more patience in all parts of my life.
     
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    #5 KrisHawk, Aug 22, 2018
    Yeah the power Rush is what does it for me being a keyholder myself. Wow I was the only one vote for general feeling of power. Shocker. I guess it’s different for female holders cuz men are slobs and don’t do shit around the house half the time. Makes sense for the non sexual behaviors like chores and all that.
     
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    #6 luvinlocked, Aug 22, 2018
    Speaking for my wife-keyholder, she loves that I can’t masturbate and that I’m always horny for her and her only. after 27 years of marriage. She says her friends always complain about their husbands not being horny and she informs them about male chastity devices. Whether they heed the advice is up to them, but it works for us
     
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    #7 Rectrix, Aug 23, 2018
    Same here, among other reasons, but this a central one, how it cabins my male ego.
     
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    #8 WomenWearTheKeys, Aug 23, 2018
    Makes a poll trying to better understand KHs, .......gets nearly all poll responses from men SMH
     
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    #9 Unlucky, Aug 23, 2018
    Put on a shirt and your thinking cap. If you stop and ponder the matter, you might realize this is something that men have probably discussed with their Keyholders who aren't active on the site which makes it something they can answer.
     
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    #10 Guest 2802, Aug 24, 2018
    I'm curious to hear how her friend's respond. A couple of my wife's friends know of our D/s dynamic (and I think about the chastity device, but I don't know for sure). I kind of like the idea of them knowing (and they have had similar comments about my attentiveness) but I know one of them didn't seem to get it originally. It's always a roll of the dice when you tell your friends.
     
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    #11 Billus, Aug 25, 2018
    As you read more posts on this site, you'll soon discover that there are very few actual women here. The ones you see are either verified as female (like @DommeLP), unverified females, or men masquerading as women. Nothing in your original post said you didn't want men to answer for their partners if they could, as @Unlucky alluded to.
     
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    #12 Mistress Jules, Aug 25, 2018
    As @Billus says, there are not many female members on here. It is a fetish site and from my experience, fetish sites are mainly populated by males.

    In my personal opinion, females don't get much out of male chastity except more non sexual attention from their partners. This is a more romantic rather than sexual way of doing things and that is what most females seem to enjoy.

    As I mention quite frequently, there is a reason Mills and Boon are so popular and Playgirl died a death.
     
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    #13 Dumb1, Aug 26, 2018
    [QUOTE="Mistress Jules, This is a more romantic rather than sexual way of doing things and that is what most females seem to enjoy.

    As I mention quite frequently, there is a reason Mills and Boon are so popular and Playgirl died a death.[/QUOTE]

    this is so true ..................
     
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